I'm 20 weeks pregnant and my DH and i are planning to visit my dad in West Yorkshire for Christmas, leaving tomorrow. We are travelling from Hertfordshire. The trip has been planned for months and he and my 14 year old sister will be alone for Christmas if we don't go, which I would feel incredibly guilty about. The issue is, I just called him to finalise preparations and he told me my sister has had a "really bad" cold (possible flu) for the last week, she is starting to get better now but my dad now thinks he is coming down with it. We are due to be couped up in a house with them for 4 days. Should I go and take my chances or stay home?
Tbh if he said 'really bad cold' initally i'd be inclined to think it was that. Flu is a whole different ball game and i think you'd know if you'd had it.
Personally I would go - there are lots of colds around at this time of year wherever you are. If you don't want to though it sounds like it would be ok with your dad? It sounds like he was warning you so you could make an informed decision. If you don't go though make definite plans now to visit early in the new year or something.
I have had my flu jab, and no, my dad would not be OK with us not going, he was not warning us, just making conversation. He was quite shocked when I started to sound worried that they were ill, he didn't know I wasn't supposed to take any decent cold medication, only paracetamol. And sounded quite defensive, implying I was blaming my ds for getting Ill...
I'd go. You could as easily pick up a bug like that staying at home unless you plan to avoid all people. Although it's horrid if you do get a cold (I've almost recovered from one now) it's not harmful to baby. Different if she had chicken pox or something similar.
There's a nasal spray you can take in pregnancy called Boots Cold Defence. It stops the cold virus attaching so you start using it if you are going to be in contact with someone who has a cold and it prevents you from catching it. I have had good results from it so worth giving that a go.
I'd go. I don't think they would have flu (and even if they have you are protected from common strains with your jab). I wouldn't avoid people with bad colds just practice normal hand washing and hope for the best. I've had one bad cold so far this pregnancy and it wasn't great without decongestants but I got through.