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My wife is hardly eating at all

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Griff1983 Sun 21-Dec-14 15:23:12

Hi I'm after some advice. My wife is hardly eating at all she seems to have gone off all types of food and can't even get past the smell on some of them. We've read that eating plain digestive biscuits help but this is all she has been eating the past 2 days. Is this normal and is it safe? Should I try force feeding her?

livegoldrings Sun 21-Dec-14 15:25:24

Force feeding her!!!

readysteady Sun 21-Dec-14 15:25:59

Reported

GlitzAndGigglesx Sun 21-Dec-14 15:26:35

No you shouldn't force feed her what a stupid idea. It's pretty normal to go off certain foods in pregnancy. Ask her what she fancies eating. If she's eating lightly it's better than nothing

livegoldrings Sun 21-Dec-14 15:27:14

I dont suggest it btw was a bitshock at the idea!

GotToBeInItToWinIt Sun 21-Dec-14 15:35:58

I am 11 weeks pregnant and feeling pretty much the same as your wife. Ever had a hangover OP? A bad one? Well I feel pretty much like that 24/7. Food is the last thing I want. My husband is being gently and kindly supportive, asking if I want anything making/if there's anything particular I fancy. If not, that's fine. If there is, he goes out of his way to get it for me. If he even mentioned 'force feeding' or indeed put me under any pressure to eat I would probably pack my bags and go and be on my own somewhere for a while!

SmallBee Sun 21-Dec-14 15:46:17

Really, really don't force feed her. I cannot stress that enough.
It's usual to find it difficult to eat certain foods during pregnancy, especially during the first trimester.
Everyone suffers from different levels of nausea in pregnancy & only your wife knows how bad she feels.
I found I could only eat packet rubbish like super noodles etc. basically nothing fresh.
Try this website for help, support & guidance https://www.pregnancysicknesssupport.org.uk

SmallBee Sun 21-Dec-14 15:47:18

Oh & if she ever gets you really concerned please call a midwife. That's why they're there.

Lottiedoubtie Sun 21-Dec-14 15:50:11

shock what made force feeding her cross your mind? Why do you think circumstances exist where force feeding your wife would be acceptable?

EhricJinglingHisBallsOnHigh Sun 21-Dec-14 15:51:02

Good god I hope this is a troll!

GoldenKelpie Sun 21-Dec-14 15:51:32

I was like that too OP for a lot of my first pregnancy. I weighed barely more at 9 months that at beginning of pregnancy (although I was overweight anyway). It didn't seem to affect the baby. I was monitored by midwives etc. Your wife should also be monitored, but if you are still concerned please do have a word with the midwives.

TheScenicRoute Sun 21-Dec-14 15:54:04

Is she managing to drink? As long as she is hydrated that's half the battle won. The baby will take all the goodness they need from her body... Unfortunately making her feel like s* but the baby will be getting everything they need, if they need something, that's when cravings kick in (they think that's what cravings are all about anyway).

I'd say as long as your wife wasn't below weight before pregnancy/ didn't have an eating disorder before hand and as long as she is managing to stay hydrated then just sit and as painful as it is to watch, just support her in this awful stage of pregnancy. X

AdorableAbbie Sun 21-Dec-14 16:04:03

Maybe she just feel so bloated, don't force her to eat she is fine.

TidyDancer Sun 21-Dec-14 16:10:23

This has to be a wind up. or an ill advised joke.

DisneyDivaWoo Sun 21-Dec-14 16:16:40

Me and my fella had a massive argument about this yesterday. He ended up throwing a plate in the sink with toast on it. He didn't understand why I couldn't eat it so I made him Google.morning sickness and actual accounts of women feeling sick. He knew he had been a twat especially since I have a throat infection ontop. I hope you don't become a twat too OP - she needs support not being force fed. angry

mumxof3x Sun 21-Dec-14 16:18:08

No do not force feed her hmm

It is very common to feel like this in pregnancy. With my second I could not eat barely anything or even smell anything for first 3/4 month my weight dropped to 7 1/2stone which put me quite underweight. But iI eventually got back to pre preg weight and was only about 4/5ib more then my usual weight at birth. While this wasnt ideal, it does happen sometimes and my baby didnt suffer at all he actually weighed 9ib, wheras my other 2 sons (when I ate loads) were 6ib 11 and 6ib 13.

She will more than likely gain an appetite back. Dont pressure her.

Lunastarfish Sun 21-Dec-14 18:18:07

I'm 11 weeks. From 6 + 5 weeks until last week i barely ate at all and have lost half a stone. The only things I could eat were melon (but only in the morning) and plain noodles/Belvia breakfast biscuits - its completely normal and you fussing will probably be making her feel even worst I'm afraid. Just chill!

Alisvolatpropiis Sun 21-Dec-14 18:56:04

Er no, do not force feed her. She is a not a sick animal.

DanyStormborn Sun 21-Dec-14 20:24:03

Force feeding her would be a violent and awful thing to do to her so don't. Just tell her that if she thinks of anything she would like to try to eat that you will go and get it for her and not be annoyed if it turns out she can't eat it. I suffered awful nausea from 6-12 weeks and every time my husband even suggest a food it made me feel sick. I felt sick in shops seeing all the food. The best thing he did was not talk about food but let me decide when I wanted something and getting that for me. I had days when I only ate dry crackers and ice-pops. Unless she is unable to keep liquids down or is very weak due to lack of food it shouldn't be harming the baby just making her very uncomfortable. If it is very bad then she should consult her doctor or midwife as there are medicines that can help.

itsnotjustastick Sun 21-Dec-14 20:26:36

I thought you were quite lovely op until i read your last sentance!

BingBongSongEveryDamnDay Sun 21-Dec-14 20:28:46

Force feeding her would, I'm fairly sure, constitute assault.

What can/does she eat? Perhaps she needs support? If you are very worried, contact a doctor or HV. I'm sure they will help.

PrettySnowyPictures Sun 21-Dec-14 20:44:13

hmm

GraysAnalogy Sun 21-Dec-14 20:50:31

If he isn't a troll he might just be genuinely someone terrified and worried and presumably not thinking properly.

She needs to see her GP, if it's the sickness there are medications that might help. Best of luck.

bumpiesonamission Sun 21-Dec-14 20:53:24

I can see you are worried OP, i went off everything for weeks at the beginning. I also suffered from the anxiety of being sick so I didn't eat because of that too.

Cheerios do little snack packs and I'd shovel a hand full or two before I properly woke up in the morning and eventually ate ham sandwiches till they were coming out of my ears

Give her time, try to listen to her and get anything immediately if she fancies it.

Oh and fizzy water was great too

Wotsitsareafterme Sun 21-Dec-14 20:58:22

What a frightening post hmm

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