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Baby seems to kick all night - I'm screwed aren't I?

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weeblueberry · 12/12/2014 13:43

Between stress, light insomnia and a toddler I've been waking up a lot during the night and am quite often up for an hour or two at a time. The toddler isn't up that entire time - but I'm finding it really difficult to go back to sleep once awake.

I can't help but think that means when she's born she's similarly going to be awake all night? I was so lucky with DD that she was a great sleeper but she didn't kick and move as much as the new baby does so I can't guess whether it's related or not.

Someone tell me it's not?

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JollyGolightly · 12/12/2014 13:47

It's not necessarily.

They move around more when you are still, your movement in the daytime rocks them to sleep. And you notice the kicks more when you are not busy.

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weeblueberry · 12/12/2014 13:49

Sorry just reread that and it doesn't make much sense.

Bottom line - if baby kicks all night now do you think she'll ultimately be nocturnal? Because if she were born now....she'd obviously be awake at those times too right?

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weeblueberry · 12/12/2014 13:55

Ah thanks Jolly. She does seem to move all day I admit with few long stretches inbetween. It's great for keeping an eye on her movements but fills me with dread a little bit that she's going to be a non sleeper lol.

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yellowsnownoteatwillyou · 12/12/2014 13:55

My ds was a very active baby when I was pregnant, loved a good dance at night. My mil kept going on about that he was going to be trouble
He was and is a very easy baby, slept in decent blocks from day 3, woke up twice a night for feeding then straight back to sleep till 4 months, then used to wake up at 5/6amish for feeding then straight back to sleep and slept till 8.
He has slept 8-8 all night consistently from about 6/7 months. And at 16 month he just took himself off for a nap after his lunch and will sleep for 1 1/2 -2 hrs.
People hate me
I've never done any sleep training, I've just been very very lucky
You never know what they are going to be like, just run with it and hope for the best.

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weeblueberry · 12/12/2014 14:14

You absolute star that's exactly what I wanted to read - thank you!!

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yellowsnownoteatwillyou · 12/12/2014 14:18

I am terrified to have a dc2
My mum laughs that I have been eased into motherhood very easily.

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weeblueberry · 12/12/2014 14:18

Yeah DD was very similar - sleeping through early and having regular naps. Very similar to your DS actually!

I fear the next one will be a total terror to make up for this!!

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freelancegirl · 12/12/2014 14:22

My first one was and is still a pretty bad sleeper. This one, due in two weeks, is as lively at night as yours seems to be. I'm terrified! I deserve a good sleeper after the 10 times a night first one! We have only just gone down from 3 times a night to once a night now he's 2.4. Agh.

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WhyOWhyWouldYou · 12/12/2014 14:22

DS was a wriggly monster in the womb. He slept a solid 6hrs at night before waking by 6weeks and was doing a full 12hrs by 9weeks.

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yellowsnownoteatwillyou · 12/12/2014 14:22

You have to think positively we are going to start ttc soon and my thought is, they are only babies for a short time so it can't be that bad, even with an easy baby it's still knackering and it will be a shock to the system to be back to baby time but with a toddler in tow. But worth it.

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Dinosaursdontgrowontrees · 12/12/2014 14:34

When I was pregnant with dd she kicked all night I read that the motion of moving around during the day around rocks them to sleep so when you are still at night they wake up.
My dd is a fabulous sleeper, slept 8hours a night from 4 weeks old. 13 hours a night from 8 weeks old.

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weeblueberry · 12/12/2014 14:38

Thank you all!! You've really reassured me and you're totally right in that I don't 'feel' for movement as much when I'm chasing after my toddler or am walking etc.

Feeling a wee bit soothed.

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LIG1979 · 12/12/2014 14:41

My dd used to do somersault practise in my tummy at about 5am every morning. She is now 2.4 and has rarely got up at that time and will often need to be woken for nursery at 7 am and will sleep in on non - nursery days. She was very active in the tummy and is still very active but sleeps very well.

I am now pregnant with my 2nd and he moves alot around 11/12 pm so have no idea how this one will sleep.

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Jodie1982 · 12/12/2014 22:14

I'm pregnant with baby no.5 and thinking exactly the same thing, he's so Hyper in there, the most active baby I've ever carried. He doesn't stop moving, it's nice to know he's okay but can get quite annoying, especially when in trying to sleep. I'm convinced he's not going to be a good sleeper.

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HappyAsASandboy · 12/12/2014 22:28

I had an all-night-wriggler who was born last Monday.

Since the birth he has been an absolute dream baby. Feeds efficiently in 15 min blocks for about 45 mins/and hour and then goes to sleep for about 4 hours. Rinse and repeat.

Ok he's only 4 days old, but he seems to have switched from a wriggly fidget of a pregnancy into a chilled out, relaxed and sleepy baby :-)

Fingers crosses you get a similar transition!

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CocobearSqueeze · 12/12/2014 22:43

Ha, I could have written this. This baby moves but nowhere near as much as DD1! I suffered from insomnia with DD1.
Dd1 slept through the night very early, she fed well and has never really had any sleep issues. Don't worry.

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Jodie1982 · 12/12/2014 23:06

Omg I feel so much better now after reading thru these comments. Touch wood and fingers crossed my lil fella will behave!

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bluewisteria · 13/12/2014 09:27

My first kicked constantly, never, ever, EVER stopped! I was completely terrified I wouldn't sleep again as DH is a night owl, I'm a lark... Completely light sensitive, I would fall asleep at4.30 in winter when the sun goes down if ideas allowed to!
But DD was born... Cluster fed and barely slept for 4 weeks...maybe an hr a time. Then settled feeding patterns at 4 weeks, slept for5 hrs at a time, then we moved house at 8 weeks (don't EVER do this with a new born) and had space for her own room. (At the same time she started top up feeds with formula, I was quite ill post natally and my milk got less and less). Her bedroom was next to ours and when we were lying in bed I could see her in hers very clearly. So we tried it for one night, mainly because our bed wasn't up and floorboards unsealed and dusty in our room. Slept for 10 hrs straight at 10 weeks... Never looked back!! Even now, at nearly 5 years old, she will sleep for 12-13 hrs straight at night.

My other DD arrived two years later, didn't kick so much (I don't think, looking after DD1 so didn't notice as much). She was in intensive care for a week then came home, and wouldn't ever let me or my boob go, totally refused. Co-slept tills year consequently, I barely slept as I fed on demand, and she Waac demanding!! I didn't mind, I had the luxury of being at home. Daddy didn't exist in her mind till she was 10 months, she wouldn't take solid food from him or anyone else. He was very shocked as DD1 adored him from the word go.
But as soon as she hit a year, she self weaned, just are solids with gusto a and would sit in her bumbo seat cooking with daddy till all hours!!

Sorry for long post, trying to get across that for both my DD's their sleep pattern was basically linked to food.
DD1 was 9 lbs 4oz, DD2 was 8lbs 13oz, I think birth weight helps too. And also going with the flow. I found people obsessed by routines etc and not relaxed always had less sleep.