Have you already met and discussed your choice with a consultant? I had an appointment at 20 weeks where we had quite a heated discussion but she agreed anyway.
After the conversation she admitted it was her way of playing devil's advocate to make sure I really understood the risks. They will certainly make you aware of the risks involved. I would prepare for that and save the questions you have above for your midwife.
I have had an emergency section and elective (although forced) section. I would ask how long you will be in hospital, where you will be in the queue on the day, what you should do to prepare ie stop medication, when not to eat. Also clarify how long you cannot eat for and general aftercare.
IME a lot of the logistical stuff about the op (eating, when it will be done on the day, where to report on the day) was covered in the pre-op appointment a couple of days before the op, at which they also swab you for MRSA and give you antacids to take before the op. I would use this consultant appointment to discuss any concerns you have about the op itself and the recovery.
What happens if you go into spontaneous labour is a great question, make sure you get the agreed answer to this written in your notes.
You may want to ask about the planned structure of the day, recovery, what options there are re anaesthesia, cord clamping, skin-to-skin (immediately after birth, in recovery room). Good idea to ask re early spontaneous labour, as that caught me first time (planned ELCS due to breech presentation, failed ECV, spontaneous, fast labour and EMCS). Finally about the implications for any subsequent pregnancies (if your family is not yet complete). Good luck and enjoy the newborn cuddles.
Thanks everyone. I think we covered all this! The consultant was great, really happy for us to do whatever we wanted. Had to fill in consent forms etc today, and booked in for my 39th week, we won't know exactly when until the week before. Saw midwife as well, did MRSA swab and given all the pre-op info, I don't need to go in again until the day now! Feeling quite happy and relaxed at the moment, but I expect that will change in a few weeks! If I go into labour I am to go to delivery suite asap for assessment, and depending on how far along I am will either have a c/s or go for VBAC if too late. I am happy with that I think, as long as it's not Christmas Day!