Mooley I feel for you, I do. Had some bleeding at what thought was round 9 weeks in early Jan (first pregnancy). My docs got me early scan 4 days later. Turned out baby's heart had stopped at 7 weeks. Had natural mc and two other scans to check all going well. Jan / Feb was awful time as we had told people cos I couldn't drink or eat pongy cheese at Xmas & New Year. But, we kept trying (I'm 38) and positive test in July - am now 23 weeks pregnant. My sister mc at 5 weeks in Sept and had her baby boy in November, was preg around Feb - when I first found out (had to go to baby show with her & mum in May), I was sad, but pleased for her as she had been trying for bout yearand half. She's 37. Really I would hound your docs / local mat unit for a scan sooner than 2 weeks to check all well & set ur mind at ease! If all well, great, if not, then it will be diff, but you will get thru it if you surround yourself with loving people. I didn't tell friends til mid-Feb and was big mistake, cos felt dreadful going thru it alone; felt better when they knew as they were all so supportive!!
Sister mc Sept 2013, baby boy Nov 2014. I'm having a bog too...there will be light at end of tunnel, even if its sad news this time. My cousin really struggled with conceiving for years and they adopted 3 year old girl in late 2013. She is an absolute gem and loves all things pirate, lord knows why.
This happened to me earlier this year. I was 11 weeks, started spotting, scan showed 6 week old baby and they wanted to rescan me in a week for growth, but I knew my dates were spot on, so prepared for the worst and I mc between the scans. Please look after yourself this weekend
Do, be prepared, but don't worry til you know for sure. It will get better in end, if the worst happens. Docs I saw were all supportive & going on mc association website a bit helped me make peace & family and friends were lovely. I didn't go to work for 2 and half weeks after & they understood, then had job interview as was commuting 4 hours a day at the time and got job, so moving to something new (and near home) helped me recover. New colleagues all brilliant about mc and pregnancy, so having good people is the best thing. If the worst - DON'T go to a Baby Show or near a baby department for a while - even to be nice to a friend (trust me, the booties nearly did for me every time). Good luck to you for scan / future, things will look brighter in few weeks / months...my nephew is poppet!
StuffedOwl, sorry to hear about your loss. Hope you are (slowly) coming to terms and have had good support. Its a really tough time, but does improve. I was sure on dates too as only stopped pill / started Folic Acid October last year so got preg VERY quickly! It was too soon though, and not meant to be that time. Sure this time too, period tracker app said period was day late, so tested 20th July and was pregnant. Haven't had any alcohol since (even at hubbys graduation that week after years & years of him trying to get degree) and slightly miffed at another xmas & new year with no booze or great cheese, but is worth it when I think of meeting my little boy. Stopped caffiene in Jan too, only do redbush / decaff tea now and tried to be healthier / drink less after mc - def helped me. Hope if you are trying again you are also blessed - Fingers X!!
OMG, yes, eat my share of the good stuff too!! :-) Then start again. Glad you have little girl already, being busy helps...but it is a shock & diff no matter what your circumstances and allow yourself to be sad (Les Mis film will help, I cried like baby for bout half of that during Oct half term...hormones are a bugger). Start with the healthy 2015!!! Cannot believe it is 2015 already, pretty sure there should be flying cars by now Lol!
Yes, you have to take pleasures in the small things to get through! Luckily I already have 2 DC, so didn't have too much time to properly dwell on it, but it did catch me unawares later on at completely random times. It was in April this year, and I got my bfp last week after trying for all this time, so now I am in a while new world of worry.
But mooley there is no set way to think/feel/cope/not cope at the moment, especially this "limbo land time" so do what your body and mind tell you, and there is always time to come out the other side when you're ready x
I am so so sorry mooley it is terribly painful emotionally! Its hard to know if you wanna be alone or be with your partner, but take time to grieve. Thinking of you! Big big hugs! Take care of yourself xx
So sorry for your loss, Mooley. My experience was similarly sad, painful and horrid. Allow yourself time and draft in supportive people. Amazing your daughter was born April, we're pleased as good time of year, near Easter hols and no other birthdays then.
It can catch you unawares Stuffed Owl, I still have moments very occasionally, even with all the lovely things that are happening these days and sure Jan will be horrible this year, but work and having my hubby, family and friends helps. I am very blessed to be so lucky to have good support.
Sianihedgehog, sorry for your loss, also had two scans after initial news of mc in Jan and that 2 / 3 weeks was a tough time. Hoping you had help and support from friends/family too and wishing you luck for future. Fingers X for you.