Talk

Advanced search

Would you like to be a member of our research panel? Join here - there's (nearly) always a great incentive offered for your views.

40 weeks today and membrane sweep,please advice me!

(15 Posts)
lupo5 Tue 25-Nov-14 08:35:22

I am 40 weeks today.I have high BMI and high bp which has been under control with labetalol. Last week I didn't see my consultant-she had an emergency in the delivery suit and had to go (she is really good).I saw someone else and she scared me a lot.Also,she told me to book membrane sweep for this week with community midwife which I did. BUT....I really don't want to have it at least for another 2-3 days,I want to see if something will happen naturally without them intervening.
My question is ,can I decline it tday and book it for friday (they work only tue and fri) or I have to go through it today (have app at 10-20am)?
Thank you .

lupo5 Tue 25-Nov-14 08:40:29

I feel very disappointed -not sure why and very down. It's like I am being forced to do something that I wasn't ready to do...anyone please

Jodie1982 Tue 25-Nov-14 09:27:12

It's your body Hun. You don't have to do anything that you feel uncomfortable with. If your happy n well enough to not have it then leave it. Call them and tell them you'll give it a miss to see if things will happen naturally, which they will eventually. (Speaking from experience, I'm on 5th baby! Lol)
HTH. Jo 28+3 x

lupo5 Tue 25-Nov-14 09:31:03

Congratulations on your babysmile
I read lots of different stories,experiences also positive and negative stories.
I really don't want to go through that today,I want to give another few days {it's my third baby) but what if midwife starts telling me off? And if I want to change for friday and she doesn't want to do it on friday? What do I do??/ Thank you....

fuckwitteryhasform Tue 25-Nov-14 09:35:23

please. Just say no thank you. Please don't have someone perform an intimate procedure that you don't feel is right because you are worried about being told off. It's totally normal and appropriate to decline a procedure when pregnant as a competent women after being advised of the pros and cons. You do not lose autonomy over your body because you are pregnant. Don't be bullied into it. If she says she's not available Friday then don't feel you have to do it today. There are midwives at hospital every day so if it was medically necessary (which I don't think a sweep ever is, it's just something to try that might work) then it could happen in hospital. Even if you were advised it was essential it's actually still entirely your decision

tomanyanimals Tue 25-Nov-14 09:37:09

It's your decision it didn't start things off for me so I would be tempted to as it didn't hurt me etc. but it is your decision and if midwife disagrees just say it is my decision and after thinking about it I would like to make an appointment for later on maybe next Tuesday if u feel Friday is to soon she shouldn't make you have it if you don't feel comfortable having it today good luck with the rest if the pregnancy hopefully it will all start on its own

lupo5 Tue 25-Nov-14 09:53:02

Thank you so much.I am going to get ready and I will see how I will feel by the time I speak to midwife.
I don't want to do it but I will see what midwife will say.Thank you so much for all your support and I will update you once I come back.
Thank you so much

TobyLerone Tue 25-Nov-14 09:57:23

What fuckwittery said. You don't ever have to agree to a medical procedure you don't want.

lupo5 Tue 25-Nov-14 10:20:17

Thank you for support.My DH is saying the same thing but I get easily intimidated.
I am off and will let you all know what happened afterwards.Feeling so weak,honestly.Thank you flowers

Jodie1982 Tue 25-Nov-14 11:45:30

Bless you, nobody should feel so intimidated. I hope it all goes your way Hun. Update us when u can. X

bobs123 Tue 25-Nov-14 11:51:55

As long as your BMI and BP are under control I'd stay away and let nature take it's course.

After being induced with DD1 (2 weeks late) I made it clear I wanted things to happen naturally with DD2. I had low bp and, I think due to my age, I agreed to have check-ups on a monitor every 2 days after 40 weeks. I think she arrived about 10 days late - and it was wonderful to give birth naturally - and very quick!!!

Jodie1982 Tue 25-Nov-14 17:16:40

How did ur appt go Lupo?

weelamb123 Tue 25-Nov-14 18:08:01

Yes, I would agree. Just say no and wait for it to happen naturally. I had membrane sweep with little boy and it was very unpleasant ��

lupo5 Wed 26-Nov-14 00:18:46

Good evening...I am sorry for a late update.I just didn't stop all day.
I went for my app and met two new (to me) midwives.They were lovely and didn't mind my list of questions.I refused to do the membrane sweep today and postponed it for Friday.
They were really kind,understanding and full of information.I got all answers and they didn't judge me or made any negative comment.I left very ,very happy and calm....
Thank you all for words of support -it gave me lots of confidence.Thank youflowers

SnowPetrel Wed 26-Nov-14 00:40:24

Agreed- as long as everything is medically fine there is absolutely no reason for a sweep, the nhs uses them far too much for no reason IMO and many find them unpleasant and violating (including me). It is scary disagreeing with the medical establishment though. With DS2 I declined a sweep at 41+2 (no medical indications for it, I was absolutely fine) and said I was sure he would arrive when he was ready and he did- 12 hours afterwards! Stay well away from sweeps.

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now