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OMG. Total shock. Just found out pregnant and I'm old and single!

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supersupersupershock Mon 24-Nov-14 15:49:13

Well title says it all really. I'm 42 and just found out totally unexpected.

I am single. Changed jobs two months ago to very high stress job that I am struggling with = no maternity pay... nor do I think I can stay doing it because of the stress

Holy moses! Have one child and have always, always wanted another but resigned to the fact that it would never happen.

Despite the shock and I am so utterly super excited I can't tell you smile

Hamsolo Mon 24-Nov-14 15:52:03

Congratulations! Do you know how far along you might be?

NotMrsTumble Mon 24-Nov-14 15:52:36

Congratulations flowers

42 isn't old (I hope!) grin

Enjoy your surprise.

LaurieFairyCake Mon 24-Nov-14 15:53:28

Congratulations!

Do you think the father will be pleased?

Unless your name is Mary wink?

TheSpottedZebra Mon 24-Nov-14 15:54:10

Oh wow, congrats!

supersupersupershock Mon 24-Nov-14 15:54:11

Oh thank you lovely people - I'm all over the place I don't know what to do with myself. My period is two weeks late, and done two tests which 100% say yes.

I hope 42 is not too old but seems to be around here smile

broodysnoopstie Mon 24-Nov-14 15:55:05

Congratulations my dp is older than me so he will be 45 when our little one arrives in Jan. smile

LikeSilver Mon 24-Nov-14 15:55:18

My mum had me at 42. You aren't old. Congratulations smile

foofooyeah Mon 24-Nov-14 15:55:19

Definitely not too old!
How old is your current child?

CantBeBotheredThinking Mon 24-Nov-14 15:56:24

I hope 42 is not too old but seems to be around here

not too old as far as I'm concerned but since my youngest was born when I was 43 I'm probably biased. Congratulations.

LaurieFairyCake Mon 24-Nov-14 15:56:32

Bollocks, it is old grin

I'm a teeny bit older than you and my face would be doing this if I was suddenly upduffed shock

MrsCurrent Mon 24-Nov-14 16:04:19

Congratulations! Awesome news. Feck the 'old' malarky though, you'll be super looked after by the docs and after that it's the same sleepless nights and smelly nappies as everyone else.

supersupersupershock Mon 24-Nov-14 16:08:56

Oh thank you. Doc just told me I am not old either!!! DS is 10

What do you do these days.... Doc just said relax... oh my god I need a book or something... obviously no wine.... what else?

supersupersupershock Mon 24-Nov-14 16:09:15

By the way I'm a regular who has namechanged!

supersupersupershock Mon 24-Nov-14 17:45:03

Anyone recommend any good books re do's and dont's. I feel so out of touch I don't know what to do with myself

BeginnerSAHM Mon 24-Nov-14 17:45:46

Congratulations!! You may well be entitled to statutory maternity pay if you weren't pregnant when you started... Google 'am
I entitled to maternity pay'/'leave'. I was pleasantly surprised I was!

Hamsolo Mon 24-Nov-14 17:47:38

You need to get yourself over to the due in (ooh my maths is terrible) August(?) thread. My dd was only two years ago but I have already forgotten!

supersupersupershock Mon 24-Nov-14 17:48:13

Oh thanks beginner will look into that. This is so precious to me - something I thought would never ever ever happen that I want to remove any stresses and i would rather be totally poor than possibly affect baby... oh my goodnes.... a baby....!!!

ajandjjmum Mon 24-Nov-14 17:50:26

Congratulations!

shushpenfold Mon 24-Nov-14 17:51:46

Congrats - how exciting!!!

bonzo77 Mon 24-Nov-14 17:52:51

Google stat maternity allowance too. If you are not entitled to SMP you will be entitled to SMA. It's the same amount for the same time I think, but for women who have not been with their employers long enough, or are self employed.

dorasee Mon 24-Nov-14 17:54:38

I'm 42 and I have a 6 month old, our third. He is adored because he was a total surprise. I thought I was done. So glad I wasn't. I am enjoying every single moment. I never read the books, so no advice really other than reduce your stress. Seriously, we're not 24 and having babies. So just be aware of your needs, take it easy, eat very well and enjoy this immense blessing!!! Congratulations!!!

BikeRunSki Mon 24-Nov-14 17:56:58

I had dd 3 weeks before I was 41 and I am not the oldest mum of her peers.

GrouchyKiwi Mon 24-Nov-14 18:05:28

Congratulations!

My Mum was 43 when my youngest sister was born. We were all very excited. My little sister is 13 now, which is insane.

I found a book called "Your Pregnancy Bible" really helpful with both of my DCs.

ladyflower23 Mon 24-Nov-14 18:15:01

Congratulations!! Loads of women are having babies in their 40s these days it's definitely not considered old these days! If you go on to the nhs website they have a pregnancy section with all the do's and dont's on l. Enjoy! Very exciting grin

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