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Luc1820 Sun 23-Nov-14 23:37:22

To start off I have two questions but kinda rela
1) I'm 19 and me and my fiance tried for a baby but I had Trouble conceiving leaving me having tests to c if I can concieve. Anyway my mum knew bout us trying and was OK about it. Now because I'm waiting for my results and because I go on holiday less than 10 months away my mum wants us to wait until the holiday is over before we try for a baby...I don't know if I can.coz I have real baby blues and all my friends r having babies which is making me jealous specially seen as I don't know if I can have children yet. What do you suggest.

2) if I do wait till nearer the holiday I want to know from pregnant women out there. Have you ever been abroad pregnant and not known you were pregnant and if you did know how much hassle was it. Thanks.

tiggy2610 Mon 24-Nov-14 06:55:26

1) As a grown adult who is consciously trying to have a baby, why is it up to your Mum to make decisions on when you are TTC? It took DH and I 4 years and multiple IVFs to finally get pregnant, my family had no say in when we didn't/did not TTC, it's a decision between me and DH.

2) haven't been abroad pregnant but there are restrictions on when you can fly if you are using this mode of transport.

purplemurple1 Mon 24-Nov-14 07:05:00

I live in Sweden and came to the UK at 3 month'sand 5 months, also flew internally at 8 months. Flying was fine for me as I had no sickness, spd etc. Also I speak English so was confident I could access health care if needed while abroad.

It also took me a couple of yrs to conceive and at no point did I discuss it with anyone other than my partner, or stop or alter my life just in case I got pregnant. But I didn't mind losing the money I'd paid if I wasn't ok to fly.

HappyAsASandboy Mon 24-Nov-14 07:06:50

If you're old enough to TTC then you are old enough to make these decisions without your mum.

Holidays while pregnant are fine, as long as the holiday is suitable. If it's a treking holiday around Thailand eating what you can forage in the forest, then maybe not so sensible, but a standard European package holiday shouldn't pose too many problems. Flying wise, most airlines will fly you no problem up to 28 weeks, and with a note from midwife until 32 weeks, though this is no guarantee that you'll be medically fit to fly at those points as each pregnancy is different.

If you do get pregnant before your holiday, make sure you check that your travel insurance covers pregnancy related stuff and upgrade it/get a new policy if it doesn't. If it's excluded, then medical treatment for you/baby could work out very expensive (even if the EHIC scheme eventually reimburses).

Luc1820 Mon 24-Nov-14 07:18:37

Thanks. We r going to florida (disney) so I wanted to c how much I'd hhave to plan. By the sounds of it there's lots to consider. But thanks for ur help.

InfantHercules Mon 24-Nov-14 07:27:41

You can safely travel when pregnant up to a certain point. I'm 20 weeks, travel for my job, and am just about to stop long haul.

Agree with others... This is your decision.

Most importantly, don't underestimate the time it could take to conceive. Not everyone falls pregnant quickly. Most have to persevere!

Good luck.

Luc1820 Mon 24-Nov-14 13:34:44

Obviously I have to think bwt it but if I got pregnant now then I could jeopardise going as baby would b due round the 20th -30th of august and we r planning on going away mid September. If it's late then I could miss going away.

Marshpillow Mon 24-Nov-14 13:39:09

I went to Florida for my honeymoon while 3 months pregnant and it's not a lot of fun being the bag holder at all the theme parks, as you can't go on rollercoasters while pregnant.

Purplecircle Mon 24-Nov-14 13:49:02

You need to make sure you tell your travel insurance company if you are pregnant.
American healthcare is very expensive and if you're not insured you're in big financial trouble.

You won't be able to go on any rides even if you're a tiny bit pregnant.

Personally at your age with plenty of time for TTC, I'd wait til you get back.

Previous posters are right though. It should be yours and your fiancés decision, not your mums

SilverStars Mon 24-Nov-14 19:27:27

You cannot fly at certain stages in pregnancy so if Florida is booked and you are too far in pregnancy that ticket and money will be wasted. As others have said you will have to pay expensive travel insurance if you are pregnant. If you have just had the baby you may be too unwell if a difficult pregnancy to fly - again holiday will not happen.

Have you already paid for the ticket? Of so it is up to you if you can afford to waste that money and watch rest of your family go. If you go as a pregnant person and end up ill and in USA hospitals ( if have good insurance) are you prepared to spend weeks etc in USA on your own? I remember a previous poster flying to USA, having to be admitted to hospital on strict bed rest and then have birth to a premature baby. The cost for a partner to stay weeks/months - is a cost to consider or insuring for if you can.

If there is a medical reason why you cannot have children the NHS will not treat you until you are 23 for IUI/IVF so sadly you would have to wait 4 years unless you can afford to go privately.

TywysogesGymraeg Mon 24-Nov-14 19:38:28

So let's say one go is all it takes, and you find yourself pregnant, conceived this evening. Would you want to go to Disney with a 1 month old baby? I wouldn't.

IMO, it would be better to wait until after your holiday. Having a baby because all your friends are is not a good reason. You're 19. You have your whole life ahead of you for having children. You can wait 10 months!

Luc1820 Sun 07-Dec-14 21:04:47

I'm not having a baby because my friends r.

TestingTestingWonTooFree Sun 07-Dec-14 21:17:49

Why don't you get married first? It's a good way of protecting yourself financially. Having had a wedding and a baby, I'm glad I got married while I still had the time and money to do it. It would be a lot more difficult now. You're very young so time is on your side to have a baby.

leanne963 Sun 07-Dec-14 21:37:37

You are still so young, a year won't make a difference in the grand scheme of things. I would personally enjoy the holiday and give yourself something to look forward to after your holiday is over by trying for a baby.

Luc1820 Sun 07-Dec-14 22:09:32

Unfortunately time is not on any women's side seen as the clock is ticking nd now I'm on meds to help me to ovulate it's made it ten times harder.

Siarie Sun 07-Dec-14 22:18:16

Travel insurance does not deem pregnancy as a pre existing condition so it doesn't make any difference to the price.

I'm currently on holiday and will be 20 weeks tomorrow, planned and luckily we conceived quickly otherwise I would have had to have stopped for a bit.

I would not have wanted to be travelling in my 1st trimester as I was very unwell and knew that could be the case. But it's been great so far, nausea is gone and everyone loves a baby bump. Sure I miss not drinking but resorts will cater with non alcoholic drinks. A activity holiday wouldn't be appropriate though so depends what you want to do.

If you are American then you may have different insurance details to sort through.

ToriB34 Sun 07-Dec-14 22:24:00

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Luc1820 Mon 08-Dec-14 17:18:47

I agree I'm young but i had already been trying and ended up wasting time concieving as I didn't have a period for four months hense y I'm now on meds. I can wait a year but it can make me broody which I'm sure u women can understand.

I don't know what you would call an activity holidays but i suppose disney world florida is. I'm not American either I'm a UK citizen if this makes any difference.

leanne963 Mon 08-Dec-14 17:36:51

How long have you been trying if you don't mind me asking?! Pregnancy is a funny thing, you can try for years to conceive and nothing happen, then the night you say 'let's have a break' you fall pregnanct.
I would love to have one last holiday to Disney world before I settle down cause you never know when you will get the chance again, but that's just my opinion.
Sounds like you have already made your mind up what you want to do...

tiggy2610 Mon 08-Dec-14 17:54:44

Although I did comment on this earlier asking OP why her Mum was involved in the decision, I do feel compelled to point out that if you know you have fertility issues people pointing out your age is not only upsetting, it can be quite offensive.

DH and I started TTC when I was 22 and soon found out it didn't matter how long we tried or how young we were we would not get pregnant without medical intervention. Sure enough 4.5 years later it took every procedure and 3 IVF cycles to get pregnant, my age had absolutely no baring on our chances or success.

Funnily enough neither would taking a break or just relaxing...

Sorry to hijack, this is just a bug bear of mine and it pains me to see people say "you have ages!" When I've been on the upsetting receiving end

Pico2 Mon 08-Dec-14 18:15:47

It would be a big waste to go to Disneyworld while pregnant. And not really possible after perhaps 28 weeks or with a newborn. Do you need to book now or could you book closer to the time?

Luc1820 Mon 08-Dec-14 23:36:36

I've been trying for possibley 4 months

Luc1820 Mon 08-Dec-14 23:38:51

My parents want to book in January.

Brummiegirl15 Tue 09-Dec-14 20:55:45

My advice would be don't book with them then. Book separately when you know you have a better idea.

I'm currently 5 weeks pregnant after 2 miscarriages. My family have booked a holiday for Florida next year and if this pregnancy continues then my dc will be 2 months old and I'm happy with that (it's not a Disney hols by way, it's a staying in a villa lazing in pool doing nothing with family holiday)

However if god forbid I have another mc and then become pregnant again I could be in the not fit to fly camp. There are just too many variables for me.

There are so many flights to Orlando with BA and Virgin - 4 a day from Gatwick, 2 from Manchester and 1 from Glasgow that they are like bloody buses. You will get a flight. So carry on as normal and then when you know what your situation book your flights. That is exactly what we will do.

Pico2 Tue 09-Dec-14 22:12:33

I agree with Brummiegirl - book separately. I'd say you seem a bit over-involved with them anyway, for someone intending to have their own family.

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