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schmalice Fri 21-Nov-14 20:08:49

I am fed up of being tired all the time, of feeling the size of a house, of feeling like death, of not being able to do all the things I used to do and of my body not feeling like my own anymore. I'm really, really fed up of my husband not wanting to have sex with the pregnant me because it make me feel even more rubbish about my body than I do already.

I feel like everything I do is impacted on by being pregnant, I know that from now on my life will be totally and wonderfully different when the baby is here but right now I am feeling utterly selfish and grumpy.

I'm not at all sure why I'm posting or what I'm hoping to achieve but I guess at 35 weeks please reassure me that I'm on the home straight!

EstRusMum Fri 21-Nov-14 20:39:42

I can definitely relate. I'm 33 weeks today and really really really don't want to wait any longer. I want to fall asleep and wake up in January. Or at least in like 3 weeks or so.
The only difference with you is probably the fact that my OH does wants to have sex, but he actually can't do it very often - slipped disc. So we are doing it for short times and carefully. But finding a good position is a nightmare anyway. I'm glad I have a rabbit in the box. grin
The only thing I can recommend is just hold on. Hopefully it's not gonna take too long now. My first pregnancy lasted 39,3. So if yours will be like that, it's not so bad. Just keep your eyes on the prize. It's just few more weeks and LO will be here. smile

schmalice Fri 21-Nov-14 20:55:37

Thanks est it's good to know that I'm not the only one.

I finish work next week so hoping that will help with feeling so tired and grumpy. Must say the sex thing is getting me down most. DH is fab and so excited and doing all the things he can to make me feel loved but I do feel like the intimacy is missing and I'm worried it won't come back. I am also spend a fortune on batteries!

Lizzy86 Fri 21-Nov-14 22:42:36

I could have wrote this.

I feel like a hormonal mess. Sex is non existent and to top it off... I feel like crap most days. I have terrible acid reflux so cannot eat or drink anything without downing a bloody bottle of gaviscon.

Keep hinting to my fella that mamma needs some loving, but all I get is a rub on the tummy and a kiss. hmm

Totally sympathise

EstRusMum Fri 21-Nov-14 23:20:42

Ladies, you can always make them feel guilty about it. A line like "I'll go and play with myself, because you don't want me anymore" usually works a treat for me. Alter it for your man though. Add "don't seem" or "appears" to not actually blame them. After all you are the ones who know your men the best.
I got myself these to make him more passionate and well... They worked. He nearly broke them. wink
You should also mention the 6 weeks after labour... I mean, mine is waiting for it with horror. And I'm thinking about painful jaw. grin

Sex advice on pregnancy forum - I've fallen quite low this time. I hope I won't be banned or something. gringringrin

Peaceloveandbiscuits Sat 22-Nov-14 00:08:27

I've had enough now as well. I just want to be able to sleep for a few weeks before the baby arrives sad and I'm the complete opposite with sex - I don't want it at all but feel like I ought to give it a go for DH confused

schmalice Sat 22-Nov-14 08:17:40

Hahaha I'll take the advice anywhere I can get it! The thing is if it were the other way around and he was hassling me for sex when I wasn't up for it then we'd all be appalled!!

I have pointed out that we are unlikely to be up for it for a while post baby. I will try seducing again this evening although we start NCT today so that may totally turn him off!

sparklyandbright Sat 22-Nov-14 08:26:55

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schmalice Sat 22-Nov-14 08:31:52

Oh sparkly I should STFU in the face of your SPD, it must be horrible. I hope you're able to rest up and you are being looked after?

sparklyandbright Sat 22-Nov-14 08:44:42

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janshavingababy Sat 22-Nov-14 13:18:49

Yh I'm fed up too. Some days I have energy, other days I'm exhausted....I want my body back lol

GooseRoasties Sat 22-Nov-14 13:26:11

I am very fed up, at nearly 37 weeks and suffering badly with SPD I'm struggling to amuse myself with just tele and desperate to clean my house... I have bleached to an inch of its life everything I can reach at standing/sitting on a chair height and short of bum shuffling my way around the house to scrub floors until dp comes home to help me back up running out of things to do!

sparklyandbright Sat 22-Nov-14 14:12:54

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NaiceNickname Sat 22-Nov-14 14:32:12

Another one fed up! 37 weeks and just want this over with now. I should try and enjoy it more, it's my last pregnancy as DH has now had the snip... But I'm just too uncomfortable to. My public bone feels like it's going to snap, I'm getting awful braxton hicks every bloody night when I finally manage to sit down, sleep is and has been impossible for a longer stretch than half an hour since around 30 weeks, and I feel absolutely fecking huge.

I went 2 weeks over with DD and ended being induced, if this one thinks it's happening again then it's in for a bloody shock. I'll happily throw myself on the floor at the delivery suite and scream and sob until they induce me if I go more than a week over.

EstRusMum Sat 22-Nov-14 14:40:46

I really miss pate. And blue stilton. Drooling now...
Also could do with bigger stomach for Christmas. Something tells me I'll be getting loads of heartburn... sad

schmalice Sat 22-Nov-14 16:52:59

You know that Stilton is ok to eat! NHS say so and everything!

Had our first NCT today so have met other women who feel just like us. Think I always feel guilty saying anything negative about being pregnant because I'm lucky to be and it took us so long to get here!

DH was hungover at NCT so I'm making him go to ikea as punishment. I'd bloody kill for a hangover and I never thought I'd say that!

sparklyandbright Sat 22-Nov-14 18:54:35

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EstRusMum Sat 22-Nov-14 20:44:46

Okay, now I'm thinking about beer... Carlsberg citrus. Light and yummy.
Don't feel guilty about that. I'm sure if they would get pregnant, they'd be moaning too. But not only moaning. Probably would go to GP every day about these problems because they would be worried that it's not normal.

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