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Single mum - issues with dad please help

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CarlyKins Wed 05-Nov-14 15:09:20

Hi ladies, to cut story really short I had a little fling with an old friend and unexpectedly fell pregnant. There are no feelings between us which makes that side of things easy. He started seeing someone after I told him about the pregnancy they have been on off more times than can remember. our son is 6 months old now, despite him being involved he always seems to put his relationship first. He see's baby once a week (what he asked for) smokes weed and sells it. He's lied about having a job and numerous other things. Now he wants his girlfriend involved, I'm so depressed because I do not want someone els playing mummy with my boy. I Get that this happens and it can't be helped but it's not like he's 3/4 hes flippin 6 months and no way am I ready for her to be lookin after him I don't even know her, they both sit and smoke weed which my baby won't be anywhere near thats for sure. I could go into so much more detail but am I wrong for not wanting her with my baby yet? If I am then please someone help me to deal with this I'm so fed up can't think straight sad

DecaffTastesWeird Wed 05-Nov-14 15:36:26


Sorry to hear about the problems you are having.

I can't really advise, but I found this which might be helpful? Sorry I can't be more help, but didn't want to read and run! flowers

foxyfemke Wed 05-Nov-14 15:48:36

There's a lone parenting board on here, maybe you can get some good advice there...

CarlyKins Wed 05-Nov-14 15:52:48

@decafftastesweird...thanks so much I really appreciated it will have a read on there smile x
@foxyfemke...thanks aswell for the link, I did go to post on there but it said the last thread was 2011?? So didn't think would get a response. Am just desperate to have some reassurance and advice before I go crazy x

CarlyKins Wed 05-Nov-14 15:57:32

I apologise have just looked on the other threads and there are recent ones lol will post on there instead

Jodie1982 Wed 05-Nov-14 16:38:26

In no way are u being unfair. Your baby boy always comes first. I wouldn't have my kids around druggies. If he wants to be a good Dad and put his boy first he'll come off drugs, and not have a druggie GF around his Son. At least you have your head screwed on for sons sake. Good luck.

ladyflower23 Wed 05-Nov-14 20:49:05

My son is 3 years and still could not bear the thought of someone else trying to play mummy! No way should this woman be trying to muscle in on your baby, what you are feeling is completely normal. Also I agree that your baby should not be left alone with them until they are both off the weed. Good luck with it all but don't let them make you feel bad. You are the responsoble parent.

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