Mortified, full term and just found out I have genital warts!

[Mummyelliebear]

I am completely mortified! I am a FTM and as the title states I'm 40+2 now and anyone who is pregnant knows you cannot see down below! I was tending to my lady garden and found a lump so immediately called my gp, it turns out I have 2 small gential warts, which may I add I have never ever had before, apparently it is very common for them to come out in pregnancy because of your immune system being so low... This does NOT make me feel any better. I am so embarrassed about it, I have had them frozen but I know they will still be there when I go into labour. My partner knows about it but his sister is also one of my birthing partners and I am scared she will find out... I just feel disgusting :(, I know there is nothing I can do but I just want to see if anyone else has been in my position? I wish I'd noticed earlier and they could have been gone by time I go into labour but now it's too late. Will the midwives judge me or mention it in labour???? :( please someone make me feel better.

[ScrambledEggAndToast]

My ex-partner very kindly gave me genital warts whilst I was
pregnant so I too had to go through giving birth with a whole load of them. And believe me, there were loads. I was really embarrassed but nothing was said. Hold your head up high, you've done nothing wrong.

[Stealthpolarbear]

Oh you poor thing :(
Can you not tell your sister before? You shouldn't be stressing about this in labour

[Mummyelliebear]

I was told the virus can lie dormant for years and me and my partner have been together for 2 years so I could have had the virus before I met him or he could have given it to me we will never know but he has taken it very well and just said he doesn't really want to talk about it haha.

I just feel dirty, I know I shouldn't because there is nothing I can do and apparently very common with 1 in 4 people being carriers! Still doesn't make me feel any better.

I don't want to tell his sister because I'm scared it will embarrass my partner, I know that midwives have to be informed but I'm scared they will mention something about it when in labour :(, or even worse his sister will see them! They are only small but still noticeable :(.

I am just stressing so much about them I'm finding it so hard to be excited and happy that I finally get to meet my little boy and it's such a shame :(. Glad I'm not the only one it's happened to though but still feeling horrible about it :(

[Mummyelliebear]

(It's my partners sister)

[Stealthpolarbear]

It should be your feelings you're worried about not his! He doesn't sound particularly supportive

[Mummyelliebear]

He has bad anxiety and I hate worrying him, everything is made to be 10x worse in his head so I know deep down he's panicking! I'm completely embarrassed about it so would find it difficult to talk much about it.

I have another midwife appointment tomorrow and i am going to inform her and obviously it will have to go in my notes but I'm hoping she puts my mind at ease and will tell me nothing will be said when delivering... I'm probably over reacting but it's just a shock that's all... Once the babies here I'll completely forget about them

[FoodieMum3]

Don't be embarrassed, I'm sure midwives see things like this all the time. I'm sure they won't comment on them whilst you're in labour and have other people in the room, it would be very unprofessional.

I bet they're hardly noticeable but if you're nervous, you could ask your sil to stay with you at the top end of things

[Mummyelliebear]

You are very right, I'm just panicking about nothing... Thank you :)

[Stealthpolarbear]

Good luck in labour :) I hope you feel well suported

[Mummyelliebear]

Thank you, I am well supported, just a bit of a shock really, had such a perfect pregnancy so something was bound to crop up (quite literally) :)

[FamiliesShareGerms]

Do you have to have your SiL as a birthing partner? You need to be completely comfortable with whoever is in there with you.

Litmus test - how would you cope with her seeing you poo during labour?

I'm genuinely not trying to scare or distress you, but it might be that you need to rethink your plans anyway?

[Matildasmam22]

I'm sure the midwives have seen worse. Could you not have a word with his sister on the quiet and just say you don't want him to know she knows as he might get embarrassed.

I'm sure when the contractions start they will be the last thing on your mind.

though shite timing for you and good luck

[FamiliesShareGerms]

And just so you are prepared for the conversation your midwife may have with you, in some cases there may be complications.

I'm sorry you're going through this

[MontserratCaballe]

Poor you, I am so sorry.

I agree staying at the head end best for all concerned. I've not been a birth partner and if i were i dont think i would venture down the business end, but even if I did I am sure I would not be studying my SIL's bits and would not think to inquire/ comment in anything other than the baby!

Could you write something about how you feel and how your partner feels in the birth plan just so the mws are aware of it being a sensitive issue?

Very best wishes. Remember that the midwives will have seen it all before and will not bat an eyelid.

Take care.

[beebop100]

I'm a midwife and can assure you it's not an issue for us at all so please don't be embarrassed, these things are fairly common. My advice would be pop a wee note into your birth plan that you'd prefer it if MW was discreet about it as not all birth partners are aware. Good luck.

[capecath]

Are you sure they aren't haemorrhoids? Very common during pregnancy and they come out towards end, during labour. Only noticed it for me with my second! Gone down again but still there now...
www.nhs.uk/Conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/piles-haemorrhoids-pregnant.aspx#close

[poisonedbypen]

Believe me your SIL isn't going to be examining your nether regions. Would you?

[Mummyelliebear]

Definitely warts I went to my gp and then got sent to GUM clinic to be frozen :).

I am very comfortable with my SIL but I would rather she just didn't know and save me and my partner more embarrassment!

I am going to ask my midwife tomorrow to put something on my notes anyway just in case.

I'm just panicking that's all, I'm a FTM and I don't know what's really normal and what isn't in labour ect it's all so new to me and it's just scared me a little bit! I'm just embarrassed really :(.

I'm just being silly about it I know my SIL won't be inspecting my nether regions but just if my midwife mentioned it I would be very embarrassed that's all and my partner would also be mortified haha.

Thank you for all your comments I am feeling better about it ready. I know all of this will be worth it when I have my little boy in my arms and I won't have a care in the world about my new little friends

[Lucy61]

The note in the birth plan idea sounds good. Also, if you feel even slightly uncomfortable with your SIL being there, you know you can change your mind or ask her not to be at that end. She probably won't notice it.

Don't let it interfere with this special time for you all. All the best. X

[capecath]

Yeah I would have thought the midwife would be sensitive about it. Giving birth is so undignified you prob won't care at the time and not sure there is ever a normal!!! All the best x