Hi everyone,
We were TTC for 2 years: all the tests came back fine and when we went to see a consultant, he couldn't see any reason we shouldn't be able to conceive naturally. My tests were all totally normal: DHs a bit low on motility, but the consultant said that this ought to be compensated for by hgh density. Both of us non-smokers, not heavy drinkers, not over-weight, healthy diet, etc, so nothing that you could pinpoint as something to change.
It was stressful because our NHS trust doesn't fund IVF unless you have been trying for more than 2 years AND you are under 35 (and then only for one cycle), which meant that our window for being able to get it was very small, and I felt as though we were being forced into going that route more quickly than we were comfortable with. We had basically decided that we were going to have to start IVF while we could still get it paid for. This was upsetting for DH because he had this belief that it was 'his fault' but that it was me that would have to go through the stress of all the procedures. And both of us were also trying to make light of it for the other one's sake, and pretend that we weren't all that disappointed each month.
When I got the BFP it was shortly after we had finally got the paperwork through giving approval for IVF, and it would have been our first month TTC after the conversation with the consultant where he said "there's nothing we can find wrong with you, so the only options you have are either to start IVF now or just to carry on and hope something happens". I was away on holiday when I got the result, and the plan had been to do all the paperwork and start the ball rolling when I got back. So the timing felt really unreal and like a miracle. We had done the deed quite a lot that month, but I don't think we did anything different from normal. We both felt a bit like the consultant saying that there wasn't anything wrong had been like a pep-talk to the egg and sperm!
I think one of the consequences of having spent so long TTC was that it made it very hard for DH to believe that the pregnancy was real, because I suspect he was frightened of getting his hopes up. So for ages he'd be saying things like "if you really are pregnant", or then "if this baby actually arrives", and I think we were both worried at the 12 week scan that there wouldn't be anything there. But now I'm 26 weeks pregnant, have had a very easy time with no complications, and hoping to meet our baby in November.
I really hope things work out for you OP.