Pregnant with DC5 no not many opportunities to put my needs first these days .
I've had PND with my others and traumatic births with DC's 2 and 4.
Last time I decided to focus on my needs and told people what I wanted instead of being polite and saying yes come and visit while I'm expressing and I'll sit and make small talk when I want to sleep. Mostly people respected that apart from one person who felt the need to sneak in to visit DS4 in SCBU when I'd said no and talked about it for ages . Some people weren't happy about it though and are still moaning now.
Is it ok to do the same this time or is there some kind of birth etiquette that means after major surgery/childbirth you need to pull yourself together and be a good hostess? I'm currently 32 weeks pregnant, tired, achey and emotional and I can't see myself turning into someone who wants to be surrounded by people when this baby comes out. I don't want to argue with people when DS5 needs a feed when they are holding him and I don't want anyones unhelpful comments.
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Is it ok to be selfish?
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elliejjtiny · 13/05/2014 19:40
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