Unplanned pregnancy

[Pickledmouse]

I'm after some reassurance. I think I am pregnant. My partner and I haven't been too careful (used withdrawal method - well aware of risk) as always thought it wouldn't be disastrous if it happened. But now my period is late and I'm terrified.

We are getting married next year and it looks like if I am pregnant we will also have a small baby there and the thought of the stress of that makes me wonder whether we will need to rearrange the wedding

I know everyone will say POAS but to be honest I'm too scared as then it will all become real and I don't think I'll get through the working week if I am.

I'm new into my job and love it and to be honest a major concern is what my boss will think.

I don't really know what I'm after here. Quite nice just to write it all down.

[MexicanSpringtime]

It is a frightening responsability to bring a new being in this world, I too was terrified of that responsability and let it happen by accident. And I, for one, am so glad I did.

[PilauMice]

I hope you get the result you want. Children are lovely though, don't worry about what people think.

[FreeSpirit89]

I think testing is the best way. I drove myself nuts over worry once, with no need.

However my pregnancy was planned and I still freaked out when I got the result x

[Pickledmouse]

Thanks for your kind replies. The funny thing is we've just bought lots of condoms about a week ago as knew what we were doing was tempting fate. Decided we needed to be more careful up to the wedding.

I think we both want children at some point but assumed it wouldn't become a reality for a couple of years.

You always think it won't happen to you....

[perfectpanda]

I got pregnant (withdrawal method...) before we were married (still not got around to that). Was absolutely horrified when realised I was pregnant, such a shock. So I sympathise. It turned out it was the best thing ever for us.

I've been pregnant a fair few times since then, and even when planned I feel horrified at the beginning. Something to do with the enormity of it, and also a lot to do with hormones. Best of luck, however it works out.

[Sleepyhoglet]

How many days late are you?

[Pickledmouse]

Glad it all worked out for the best for you perfectpanda. I'd hope that it would be a similar situation for us.

3/4 days late now. I'm usually quite regular (give or take a day) and always have a couple of days of spotting beforehand. So I would have expected some spotting about 5 or 6 days ago.

I think I will take a test Saturday morning then if it's positive I'll have a couple of days to get used to it rather than having to go straight to work.

[Polkadotscarf]

We were a withdrawal method pair too! Didn't live together but knew it was a serious relationship and would one day have children however nothing prepared us for the shock of the positive pregnancy test!! Now four months pregnant, living together and passed the shocked and scared stage and moved on to excited and scared!!
You are in a strong relationship and all will be fine! Good luck