IVF Graduates - A place for pregnancy menkulling

[BeetlingAbout]

A chat thread for those who have conceived via assisted conception.

Come and join me egg buddies!

[nobeer]

Good morning beetle

Well, I still can't believe it's happening. I've got my first scan on Monday at the clinic, so hopefully things will seem more real then.

The cramps seem to have eased of today, and I've been feeling nauseous on and off. In a weird way I hope this continues!

[SecretGeek]

Hi, can I join you for some menkulling?

I'm new to mumsnet so wasn't on the egg buddies thread.

Currently 7+6 after 2yrs TTC and miracle BFP from first ICSI cycle. I have an abnormal uterus so all the risk factors are increased...cue major freaking out!

Did try the ante-natal boards but most people have had no issues and are blissfully innocent and too excited for my liking

[moggle]

Hiya, nice to see some familiar names and particularly nobeer - congrats! I still lurk on the egg buddies thread and saw you had a bfp. Brilliant news.
I have been fairly good at avoiding worrying - was terrible before the early scan but somehow since then I've been able to enjoy it 95% of the time, even though I've not had many symptoms. I think in particular the fact I've had absolutely zero spotting since embryo transfer has helped enormously. I'm just feeling weird enough to convince myself there's still something in there... 12 week scan is a week on Wednesday so then we'll find out for sure.
I am sick to the back teeth of fucking cyclogest though! My last pack melted in the car but I was too tight to go get more. They solidified OK again but lots of them have a fault line in the middle and break when I take them out of the packet. What's worse than shoving something up your ass? Shoving two things up your ass.

[moggle]

Oh and secretgeek - I agree on the antenatal clubs! I always lurk on the November one in case of any interesting info, but some people on there just seem so far ahead of me mentally! Especially those on DC2 or later.

[BeetlingAbout]

I'm so pleased to see so many here already! I totally agree on the ante natal threads. I am much too bitter to participate in pram chat before 35 weeks! And when something terrible happens and someone drops out of the thread and the responses are 'hope to see you back next month', it just reminds me how horrible this journey has been.

[BeetlingAbout]

Congrats and welcome, secret. Do you know what the plan is regarding your uterus? Will it be close monitoring?

[eurochick]

Hello all. I joined my AN thread but only a way into the pregnancy.

I'm 22 weeks now unbelievably. And still menkulling. My 20 week scan showed baby looks fine but picked up a blood flow issue to the placenta, which can lead to to pre-eclampsia and slow growth, in which case they get the baby out early. I felt very resentful when I found out (surely having had such a hard time getting to this point I deserve an easy ride now?) but I'm coming to terms with it.

[vallinnapod]

Well, I have the 2% positivity that Bugs is missing Hope to be here for the next 8 months.

OTD today so 4 weeks tomorrow.

Mentalling today as boobs don't hurt, not feeling sick and my PG test lines are not getting darker...oh, the joy

BUT....to steal from another thread...today I am pregnant. What a huge bloody milestone

Love there are so many friendly faces here

Moggle I had that the other day with one of mine...nice. Also this morning I genuinely couldn't remember if I had put one in so put another in to be on the safe side. How can I not remember shoving something up my arse?!

Anyone else still have the joys of injecting? I am on clexane everyday and gemstone on alternate days. I assume I will have my two beta HCGs next week. I'll ask them to test my progesterone levels too - I pray they are decent so I can stick to only every other day!

[moggle]

Hi euro- sorry to hear they picked up that, although of course at least the picked it up early. I agree we should get a free pass now to sail through pregnancy with no morning sickness and breathe our babies out at the end.

We are telling my brother and SIL tonight as they are coming round for dinner. Mixed emotions- my DB will be over the moon, I know, he has been badgering me to make him an uncle for ages. But mum let slip that they are considering IVF as although they haven't been trying as long as we did (think no more than a year), SIL is nearly 39 so time is ticking in a way it wasn't for us. I hope we are doing the right thing by telling them face to face; I always said that for my brother I would hate it if they felt they had to email or phone with pg news, I would want to give them a big hug, so I just really hope they feel the same about us. If we don't tell them today we won't get a chance until this big family weekend in May when (all being well with the scan) we will be telling aunts, uncles etc at the same time. I think they deserve to know before all that rabble :-)

[SecretGeek]

Thanks for the welcomes everyone

vanillia try not to worry. Easier said than done i know, but not everyone gets the typical symptoms and hpts aren't really designed to measure concentration of preg hormones, just that it's there. As you say, today you are pregnant

beetle I assume I will be consultant led with closer monitoring than normal. My FC aren't interested in my ongoing care. They've don't their bit I guess and have essentially said my midwife will decide and arrange it all. First MW app next Thursday so will discuss with her then. Slightly worried that my issue (unicornate uterus - basically half a womb) is quite rare and nobody really seems to know anything about it. I had to tell GP what it was ffs! I don't want to be a guinea pig for the next 7 months so will be pushing for specialist support.

Cyclogest is also the bane of my life at the moment...does it make anyone else bloated and savagely constipated? I've had to start wearing loose fitting, floaty summer tops at work and I'm sure my colleagues suspect something!

euro keeping everything crossed that all is well for you. After the pain and difficulties to get this far, it's the least you deserve.

moggle good luck telling DB and SIL. I'm sure they'll be pleased for you if also a bit sad for themselves at the same time. I think face to face with no one else around is the right way to go.

[time2deal]

Hi ladies! Nice to see some familiar faces. I know I was only on the TTC IVF thread for a little while but I have long lurked.

I'm 16 weeks now, and starting to relax a little bit. I'm consultant led for other medical reasons than the IVF, and getting scanned every 3 weeks which is reassuring. secretgeek I know what you mean about re-explaining everything each time. I thought I was seeing someone new the other day (turned out she was the nurse assistant) and DH saw me visibly slump at the idea of having to explain everything again! Thankfully I'm getting some consistency now - well at least the last two appointments have been with the same consultant. It's also hard when every doctor you see gives totally different advice!!

Euro sorry to hear about your 20 week scan, but it's better that they know and can manage it. I also hoped pregnancy would be the easy bit after years of TTC, but the whole process has been harder than I expected. But at least we are all finally out of the starting gates.

If it makes you feel any better, once you quit the cyclogest, the bloating and constipation stays anyway!! I have prunes, prune juice, laculose, all bran and anything I can think of that will help. Oh the joys. :)

[talulahbelle]

Hi all
I used to post on the egg buddies thread ages ago - I remember euro and nobeer
I'm 27 weeks and all is going reasonably well, still plenty of menkulling when I've not felt the bump kick for a while though.
Here's to healthy and happy pregnancies for all of us!

[talulahbelle]

Ps, porridge for breakfast and dried apricots are my guaranteed constipation cure :D

[CaipirinhasAllRound]

Good to see a few familiar names here. I'm now 41+2 and in hospital! My waters broke yesterday and i'm waiting to move to the labour ward
Good luck with your pregnancies ladies xx

[Ferreroroche123]

Hi all,

I've seen some of you on a few other general pregnancy discussions... Can I join?

I'm an IVF warrior on my third IVF pregnancy and more anxious than ever.

My son was born after my first IVF attempt 4.5 years ago. We had a three year break where we TTC naturally, then gave up and started IVF again in February 2013. Amazingly, I got pregnant on the first go again, but it didn't go smoothly and after an empty sac at the first scan, followed by 2 follow up scans showing a behind schedule fetus, I had a MMC at 9.5 weeks and had to have an ERPC. It broke my heart.

Then followed months of complications (post op infection, ovarian cysts, decidual cast), I had a failed cycle in August 2013, followed by a successful cycle in October 2013.

My first trimester went without hitch, until I hemorrhaged at 11+6 weeks and was rushed to A&E with suspected miscarriage.

Turns out it was actually a subchorionic hematoma and here I am still pregnant at 26 weeks and still with the hematoma.

I have been signed off work since 12 weeks and worry everyday that I will go into premature labour.

I am on one Antenatal thread but agree that it was difficult listening to those with no issues harping on about prams and nurseries at 13 weeks when I was terrified for my baby's life.

As for the cyclogest, I am still sticking them up my a* now. My GP has kept me on them to keep the uterus relaxed while the hematoma is in there irritating it. I think my a* has become so accustomed to it! I may feel lost when they are gone. LOL. Although I won't miss trying to hold my bowel movements in until the damn things are absorbed.

So that's me.... Good luck all x

[eurochick]

Aw it's good to see lots of lovely egg buddies here.

Massive good wishes to Caipirinha. X

[nobeer]

Exciting news Caipirinha! Good luck

Great to see other egg buddies on here, and welcome secret, time and ferrero. I'm sure one of the other egg buddies had a unicornate uterus secret but I can't think who for the moment.

I forgot to tell you how many weeks I am. 6w1d (yes, I am counting ).

[Hatteras]

Hi everyone,

Another egg buddy graduate delurking! I was only on the egg buddy thread for a couple of months whilst we had our second round of IVF. I was one of the end of January BFPs. Time if I remember correctly, I think we are just a day or two apart. I'm now 16w 3d (also counting).

It's great to see so many successful IVF pregnancies/ egg buddy graduates. If I am honest, I have found pregnancy post IVF to be as bad as, if not worse than the IVF itself in terms of worry. I really hadn't expected to feel like this. I think I thought that once I got a BFP that would be it, but it has been just the start of a whole load of different menkulling!

Starting to feel more confident as time goes on. Horrible first trimester nausea pretty much gone now and actually feel quite well now (which then of course starts to freak me out...)

[Hatteras]

Oh yes, meant to add, constipation here too. It is definitely worse if I have too much bread/heavy carbs. Best thing I have found to help is a glass of prune juice each morning.

[time2deal]

Hat, yes I 16+2 based on IVF dates. From the 12 week scan they said I was measuring slightly ahead, but since my dates are no in doubt they have left my due date unchanged.

nobeer knowing your weeks and days is par for the course! In fact you will be asked it so many times by every medical professional you come across. It's lovely to see the days tick by, although it still feels a long way away.

Took a big step today and bought some baby stuff! I realised I had over £100 of boots points I was saving for a special occasion, and this feels special enough. Will be delivered next week and things may start feeling a bit more real. With IVF I think you don't settle down and start to believe in it for a long time.

hat how is your bump going? I can sort of feel a hard tummy when I poke around, but from the outside I just look fat! I'm hoping in a few weeks it will look more like a bump, although I suspect I am going to end up just massive and fat no matter what I do. Oh well! It's what I wanted. :)

[chocolocodowninacapulco]

Oh, what a lovely thread! Well done for starting it beetle

[Hatteras]

time - Funny you should ask about bump size, I was about to ask you and anyone else round at this stage about bumps. Like you if I poke around, I can definitely feel there is a hard bump, but it is still covered in a 'lovely' protective layer of flab! DH diplomatically tells me I look pregnant to him, but if I was someone he didn't know was pregnant, he wouldn't ask.

I was incredibly bloated post IVF and all throughout the first trimester which didn't help. Now that I am feeling better I have started exercising again (just gentle swimming, lots of walking etc) and I feel that slowly my abdomen is starting to look a bit less flab/bloat and slightly more baby. I have started wearing maternity jeans though, no chance now of doing my normal ones up!