Before we had our scan we talked about whether we each had a preference. I was honest and said that yes I would really love another DD. DP said he really didn't mind aslong as Baby was healthy.
So we had our scan last week and found out we're having another girl. I am thrilled, over the moon in fact.
But once out of the room my DP was very quiet and blurted out that he was "gutted" it was another girl.
I was a little taken back as i thought he really didn't mind what it was, but I totally sympathised with him, I understand that he probably would have preferred a boy and put myself in his shoes had the roles been reversed.
However it's been a week now and he's still moping about it and hasn't shown any interest in going shopping for baby bits or discussing names with me and he keeps making sarky comments about being surrounded by girls.
I really felt for him but now its starting to upset me and to be honest he's taken away the enjoyment for me. I can't wait to meet DD2!!!
I did say maybe we could try again in a few years but DP is adamant he only wants 2 and so we will not be trying for a third.
Have any of you had partners that have been like this? How did you deal with it? How were they when the baby arrived?
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Upset at my husbands reaction to finding out gender of dc2
ShoesBagsDresses · 17/03/2014 11:03
being honest here, with my first I wanted a girl...went for scan and you guessed it, it was a boy. I barely made it out of the hospital before bursting into tears, my dh couldent understand why I was so gutted. (we both wanted a girl) but you know what, it was meant to be, it just was. When I saw the girls at his pre-school/school they were a nightmare, I don't think I could have coped! My ds is low maintenance and he is the kindest, most helpful, most loving kid and I wouldent swap him for any girl 
My dh gets to take him to the football, pub with his mates and their sons, get to have 'man' time, talk footy, have fun with the 3D telly and gadgets...this is what your dh is thinking he will miss but Im sure once the baby is here it will all click into place.
Plus its the man sperm that decide the sex....let him think on that 
This time I would like a girl, Im ready for that challenge but Im thinking its a boy and Im having to say to myself 'its meant to be' buts its tough. I know there are lots of peeps who say its wrong to want one or the other but lets face it we are human (and I want to buy pink glittery pretty things and talk nail polish not engine size ahhhhh)!
We didn't find out the sex but i know DH really really wants a boy so I am a little bit worried that when baby arrives if it's a girl he will be disappointed.
I'm sure he will get used to it though OP, He has got what 20 weeks?
I think your DH will get used to the idea. He won't be able to help himself loving the baby when she's born. A friend of mine is father to two beautiful daughters aged 2 and 4, and he absolutely adores them
DH wants a little girl. I don't mind. We've been through a lot to make it into 2nd trimester.
I was worried about him wanting a girl too much as we don't know if siblings will be possible (and we have to get this one first, high risk but fx). Although he says "I'd like a girl, but mainly I want a baby. It's a bit like a pie: if you were starving and someone offered you a pie, you'd be very grateful and grab it whether it was steak and kidney or chicken and mushroom." 
He thinks in pie metaphors quite a lot.
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