There is no 'should be'. Women follow different patterns according to their bodies. Personally I tend to pile it on in the first trimester, gain little if anything in the second and some in the third.
It is very outdated (barring other weight problems or health concerns) to focus on weight gain on a week by week basis. The NHS don't even weigh you now except at booking and possibly at 36 weeks-ish. The key thing is, if nausea etc allow, to try and eat and snack healthy and keep active. If you manage those two, let the weight do what your body wants.
That link obviously didn't do what I expected it to do. I was hoping what you would see from it was that there is a range of weight gain so not everyone is the same.
I agree with everything penguins says and I would try not to worry about your weight. If your mum is making comments without you raising the issue of weight then I would tell her you don't want to discuss it with her.
I asked the midwife at 20 weeks what would be 'normal' weight gain, and she said around 9-12 pounds, but that she wouldn't even think of worrying unless I'd put on two stone! ....so I reckon by that logic you're absolutely fine .
Thanks ladies. Casmama it was a good benchmark and can definitely see how it can vary I guess was a bit disappointed to be ahead of the top range for 15 weeks. That said I did have serious nausea for about 18 hours a day and only carbs helped! Having gone from pretty much a zero carb diet to this, no surprise I've put a fair bit on already. That coupled with having no idea what gym workouts are ok and which aren't.... It's just I'm not very large but I'm not small either and conscious of how hard it is for me to lose weight so trying really hard to be healthy for baby but at the same time be careful not to overdo it. Thanks Casmama, RaRa, Penguins and Kir5sty good advice. Just wish my mum didn't feel the need to raise it every time I see her.
If your mum is getting you down then tell her to lay off the comments. Sorry she is making you feel like this.
If that is likely to be difficult, how about a little white lie? Just say that you have spoken to your midwife and she says that, because you had to change your diet a lot for nausea early on the weight gain is totally normal and will level off, but you've been told very strongly not to police what you eat as it's important to listen to your body and what it needs. It's amazing how mothers (or others!) who are sure that they are right can sometimes be silenced by being 'overruled' by someone medical
older women were told a stone was ample in days gone by. I put on 3.5 stone and it was all gone after 6 months I'm now 7 lbs under pre pregnancy weight. breastfeeding helped me lose, especially after 4 months.
I know it's easier said than done but don't worry. I used to weigh myself daily and obsess too.
I have put on 1.5 stone already and am 30 weeks. I heard that 1lb per week in the last trimester is normal, so im looking at a total of 31 lbs / 2st 3lbs. I am hoping we have a great summer and the opportunity for regular walks, bbqs and if breastfeeding goes well it should drop off in no time. My mother is very similar to yours from the sounds of things, obsessed with weight, so she was shocked when she found that midwives dont regularly check it any longer
That's really unusual Moomin and not standard English protocol AFAIK. Unless there are concerns with your weight anyway or other complications? I should have said in my previous comment that the normal approach doesn't necessarily apply then.
I never weigh myself & only judge my body by how my clothes fit so have no idea what my pre pregnant weight was. I was weighed at my first MW appointment can't find it in my notes tho, I'm 37 wk now, not been weighed since. MW said she would weigh me at 36, but didn't. Everyone has an opinion about how big/small you are, it's the first thing ppl say to me, before hello! If MW is concerned they'll tell you, that's the only person you need to take note of, as long as you're measuring ok, then I wouldn't worry & I tell ppl, my MW isn't concerned so don't you be. (One week I measured small a cm, but that week everyone said I was massive!)