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other half not amused.

18 replies

skoobykez · 13/03/2014 22:26

Well. I just told him that he is going to be a dad and all I got was he doesn't know what to say or what to do. Obviously he is shocked but I thought I would have had a better reaction than what he gave. Anyone else had the same?

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SweetPea86 · 13/03/2014 22:30

Were you both trying for a baby. Give him time people react differently. We planned our baby when I got a BFP I went in to total panic

SecretWitch · 13/03/2014 22:31

Oh dear. I'm guessing this was not a planned pregnancy? Perhaps he just needs a bit of time to digest this big news?

I got stunned shocked silence from my DP when I told him I was pregnant. We had only been together for three months. He came around but it took some time. We have been married six years now and have a lovely dd..

Congratulations btw..

skoobykez · 13/03/2014 22:44

Thanks. We been back together for around 10weeks. Were together way back and things went in different directions but we both realised we needed each other. Anyway, He knew I wasnt on anything and he didn't want to use anything so we both agreed if it happens it happens but I am happy and he doesnt seem pleased. Hope it is just the shock and it will all work out xx

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SecretWitch · 13/03/2014 23:02

I reckon he is just shocked that be the news...although he should not be as using no method of birth control can often result in a positive pregnancy test!

SecretWitch · 13/03/2014 23:03

That should read...he is just shocked by the news...

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 14/03/2014 09:59

How are you today skoobykez? Has DP been any more forthcoming about how he feels? It may take him a while to come to terms with this.

I imagine he's still processing the news. With men it can often take longer for the news to sink in because they don't feel any different or don't really have to change anything straight away whereas you are going to start noticing changes and over months will be aware of physical developments.

I am sure you want more than anything for him to be happy and relaxed like he was before this happened, but bluntly, he has to accept that unplanned or not you are pregnant so your lives have changed.

Snobble · 14/03/2014 13:57

Yep its cervix pain. I have been having it since 34wks and now im 38wks and its not anymore pleasent.

Its just DD's little head bouncing off my cervix according to the midwife... lovely. Sometimes it will also feel like the baby is trying to break free, this is also normal so dont worry.

Snobble · 14/03/2014 13:57

haha ignore that, silly phone rolls eyes

skoobykez · 17/03/2014 03:00

He has said he would rather not have a child just now and has said he would prefer it if it was dealt with. Gutted.

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Wurstwitch · 17/03/2014 03:33

Well, he should have thought of that before he decided not to use contraception, really, shouldn't he?

What you do next is entirely up to you. You clearly want different things from the relationship, and it depends whether you feel the baby or the relationship is more important.

Fwiw, I've been there, and from the minute his thoughts on the matter were known, I knew the relationship was over, in any case. Baby or no baby.

Your body, your choice.

And tell the man-child to keep it in the bag unless he intends to become a father. Unprotected sex equals contraception. End of.

Wurstwitch · 17/03/2014 03:34

Lol. Conception. Good autocorrect, though.

Blueuggboots · 17/03/2014 04:16

What an utter twat!!
Happy to fill you with his population paste but not happy to accept the inevitable outcome??!

Next he'll be saying you did it on purpose......TWAT.

differentnameforthis · 17/03/2014 06:44

Population paste? Urgh! It's sperm!!

MiscellaneousAssortment · 17/03/2014 12:46

Wow, well 10 weeks relationship and not using contraception was never going to be the best idea on both sides. But for him to be shocked then horrified that the absence of contraception has led to pregnancy, well, the mans an idiot quite frankly.

However, this is the situation you are in, so how are you holding up? What will you do?

Blueuggboots · 17/03/2014 13:29

hahahahahaha, sorry differentnameforthis - SPERM!! [:)]

TheOnlySeven · 17/03/2014 16:05

Sorry but he sounds like a complete dickhead. What did he expect would happen?

Would you be prepared to have the baby on your own?

Gen35 · 17/03/2014 16:33

Good luck op, sorry you are in this situation - do you have family and friends that can support you instead? An unhelpful partner can be worse than going it alone, you could post on the lone parents bit for support? He may come round, even though he should've known he may do the right thing, fingers crossed. Don't be pushed into anything, it has to come from you, what you want.

DonkeysDontRideBicycles · 17/03/2014 18:54

Sounds very neat and tidy dealt with so much for "if it happens it happens". It would seem he is not on board. What do you want to do next? Look after yourself.

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