I'm 5+6 tomorrow and so I don't want to tell my friends yet, with most of the friends I have that smoke this isn't a problem, but I have one particular friend who I'm worried about.
She smokes in her bedroom and usually when I go and visit she smokes about 4 or 5 if I'm there the whole evening. I haven't seen her since I found out I'm pregnant but I don't want to go the whole 12 weeks not seeing her, until I can tell her.
She's a close friend and if it wasn't for her circumstances I would probably just tell her, but she has a recurrent miscarriage problem due to severe scaring on her uterus from a botched back street abortion when she was a teen and has never been able to carry to more than 14 weeks. She's a very close friend of my DP and I met her through him, and he had specifically asked me not to tell her until it is strictly necessary- she has lots of mental health problems and is currently slowly on the mend from a big episode (possibly partly caused by the birth of her nephew) so I worry that it would set her back a bit. She finds it very difficult to leave the house at the moment so I always go and see her (also we have my DSD living with us and she is worried if she was at ours then if she were to have a 'turn' when at ours she might upset/ disturb my DSD) - which means to see her I have to go sit in her room with her.
So what can I do?
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alita7 · 11/03/2014 22:13
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