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Dilemma - asthmatic and visiting friend whose daughter is prone to tonsillitis

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honeyharris Wed 05-Mar-14 09:39:23

Hi, I feel silly posting about this but my husband is sick of listening! I'd planned to visit my friend in just over a week's time but am having serious second thoughts, the reason being that last June I caught tonsillitis from her daughter. However having had my tonsils out at age 30 it settled on my chest triggering my asthma and a week later I wAs in the emergency docs being prescribed antibiotics and steroids, which is something I'm terrified of happening while pregnant (I'll be 34 weeks at the time of the visit). I know I can't avoid contact with germs or illness as I work with the public, but am feeling scared of going down in case the same thing happens again as her daughter is prone to to tonsillitis. I know I could ask her to let me know on the day if anyone is ill, but I know she won't be as cautious as me as she's looking Forward to my visit and will think I'm being paranoid. Would welcome any thoughts on whether I'm being irrational or reasonably cautious

honeyharris Wed 05-Mar-14 09:59:34

Hi, I feel silly posting about this but my husband is sick of listening! I'd planned to visit my friend in just over a week's time but am having serious second thoughts, the reason being that last June I caught tonsillitis from her daughter. However having had my tonsils out at age 30 it settled on my chest triggering my asthma and a week later I wAs in the emergency docs being prescribed antibiotics and steroids, which is something I'm terrified of happening while pregnant (I'll be 34 weeks at the time of the visit). I know I can't avoid contact with germs or illness as I work with the public, but am feeling scared of going down in case the same thing happens again as her daughter is prone to to tonsillitis. I know I could ask her to let me know on the day if anyone is ill, but I know she won't be as cautious as me as she's looking Forward to my visit and will think I'm being paranoid. Would welcome any thoughts on whether I'm being irrational or reasonably cautious

honeyharris Wed 05-Mar-14 10:05:03

Sorry I double posted this, not sure how that happened!

Peacenquiet2 Wed 05-Mar-14 17:44:04

Personally if it was me i would avoid the visit if i knew for a fact her dc was poorly. I have a friend i see once every couple weeks or so and her two dc are forever ill with one thing or another but she never has the curtosy to tell me before expecting us (i always warn her pre visit if either of my dc are ill and let her decide if she wants to come or not).

This pregnancy ive turned up three times to find out both her dc's had chicken pox, 2nd time conjunctivitis, and then all 3 had chest infections. Luckily we did'nt catch any of the illnesses but i would have been naffed off if we had, esp given im pg and already tired etc.

I caught pneumonia shortly after dc 2 was born and i felt like i was dying so i know how bad it can feel to have a very bad chest and i would avoid that feeling like the plague if i thought i could, and i imagine it would be especially bad being pregnant at the same time.

Maybe postpone visit till new dc here and then you can turn it into a chance for her to meet dc as well?

honeyharris Thu 06-Mar-14 10:19:46

Thanks, I don't know for a fact that she is poorly, just that she is prone to throat infections so I would need to check on the morning before I went, if I decide to go.

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