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Upset about this planned holiday

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AlwaysDancing1234 · 03/03/2014 13:09

We are (finally) expecting DC2. 24 weeks now but had a very hard time early on, we lost a twin and I had two horrendous bleeds and lots of problems from about 12-20 weeks. Thankfully everything has settled down now and things are progressing normally.
My Dad and Step-Mum were delighted to find out we are expecting their first granddaughter and made lots of promises to look after DS when I have the baby etc
So hence my shock and upset today when Dad calls and said they have booked a 2 week holiday abroad, leaving 2 days after my due date! Bearing in mind DS was almost 2 weeks late it seems extremely likely they will not be here for the birth of their much anticipated granddaughter. I didn't say much on phone to my Dad but am I being silly in feeling upset?. I don't expect them to put their lives on hold for us I just feel they could go on hols any other time, just not then! If you think I'm being selfish or silly feel free to give me a (virtual) slap and tell me to pull myself together

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Inglori0us · 03/03/2014 13:16

You are right to be upset. Although it's just them being thoughtless rather than mean. Do you have anyone else who can help with your ds when the baby comes?

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Writerwannabe83 · 03/03/2014 13:22

I'm due this month and my dad has booked himself 3 separate holidays!

He will either be in America, Amsterdam or Budapest for the duration of the month bar 3 days

I don't let it bother me, I just joke with him that hopefully he'll be in the Country when the baby arrives but if not he'll just visit when he returns from his holidays. I don't expect his life or holiday plans to be put on hold just because at some point I'm having a baby.

However, I can see why you'd be upset if your dad and his wife have previously said they will be here to help you with your son - it's a bit 'off' to withdraw that offer at this late stage. However, millions of women have babies when they have other children at home and they manage perfectly well on their own. Pick your battles, don't turn this into a huge issue and don't let it taint what should be an amazing time of your life.

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AlwaysDancing1234 · 03/03/2014 13:30

Inglorious my In-Laws have said they will help out with DS. It's not that so much, more the fact they both made a big fuss about it being their first granddaughter but will probably not be in the country when she's actually born.

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AlwaysDancing1234 · 03/03/2014 13:32

Thanks writer I know it's not the end of the world, just hurts that after all the fuss they made they would rather go on holiday and miss the whole thing

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Rockchick1984 · 03/03/2014 13:33

I'd be upset too. Silly question, but do they actually realise they have booked it for then? My parents got as far as knowing the month I was due, but couldn't have quoted the date so maybe they think they have booked for a couple of weeks before you're due?

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AlwaysDancing1234 · 03/03/2014 14:05

Hi Rockchick yeah they know the date, my Dad asked me earlier. He said in the phone call "oh I hope she comes on time as it's only 2 days before we go".
Like my DH said, no point getting upset, it's all booked now and DD will make her appearance when she is ready so if they miss her birth there's not much I can do about it now