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I know this is ridiculous, but I don't think I'm ready to share him....

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Writerwannabe83 Tue 18-Feb-14 20:06:27

I feel guilty for even thinking this but I can't help it!!

As the birth nears I'm so looking forward to meeting baby but at the same time I feel very sad that he's no longer going to be just mine and it isn't going to be just the two of us. I love having him in me and feeling him wriggle and I love that I get to talk to him all day and I'm not looking forward to it coming to an end.

I try and picture him being here and visitors coming round to see him and asking to hold him and it makes me feel nervous - I just can't comprehend him no longer being a part of me and my body and being separated from me.

I know it sounds silly but I hate the thought of it.

Please tell me I'm not the only one....

Shellywelly1973 Wed 19-Feb-14 19:28:08


I gave birth to dc6 16 days ago. I really understand how you are feeling. I felt it with dc1 & now Dc5 & 6. With the other dc I couldn't wait for them to be born so I could get back to normal.

With dc6 I miss my bump but I adore her. She absolutely amazing!

If any person visiting a new mum doesn't understand the mum not wanting to hand her new baby over - really should have consideration & question themselves as to why they feel so entitled to hold someone else's baby.

You will miss your bump but you will gave a gorgeous baby. You might feel very different once the baby is here.

Don't worry about what 'might be'!

Best of luck. X

Writerwannabe83 Wed 19-Feb-14 22:26:28

Thanks everyone smile

And congratulations shelly on your little girl - I have seen you lots around the board and had always thought WOW when you mentioned you were pregnant with your 6th smile

I went to visit a friend today who had her baby 4 months ago and I was discussing it with her and she said she felt exactly the same. She said that within 3 hours of giving birth all the relatives descended and baby was being passed round from one to the other and she said it physically hurt her to see it and she just wanted him in her arms. She said it was really difficult. I'm hoping that when the time comes it won't affect me to the degree that I'm worried it will but I guess I will just have to wait and see.

wigwam33 Thu 20-Feb-14 12:27:46

I think it's TOTALLY fine to hold on the your baby in the first few weeks of its life. It's a normal instinct. In many cultures, mothers and babies are isolated for the first few weeks of life to allow bonding time. The whole 'pass the baby round to everyone' is entirely cultural IMO.

With my DC1 I wanted him close to me all the time but others kept taking him away. I'm convinced this made breastfeeding much harder as it took longer to establish the bond and to latch on properly. I just want to encourage you to follow your gut and do what YOU want to do, not be peer pressured or told by others. Hard with your first, but be strong!

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