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35 weeks and so uncomfortable that I want to shriek!

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calamityjane1 Tue 11-Feb-14 20:31:42

Just an argh! I am huge. Vast. Enormous. I have vice-like Braxton Hicks all the time. The baby's head is down and grinds in my pelvis like a power tool. I can hardly move. I can't get up the stairs without nearly passing out (low blood pressure!). I still have morning sickness. STILL! Almost every night is a torturous exercise in back pain and constantly needing to pee. I feel irrationally angry, as if I have PMT all the time. I also really wish it would stop raining –my children don't want to play outside and I think they have cabin fever. They keep fighting and whining (normally they play really well together!) and I feel like I have steam coming out of my ears!

Someone please remind me that in a few weeks I will be sitting outside in the sun (OK, maybe sun is a bit optimistic) with a cute little baby and 2 lovely children merrily playing, and that I will have lost the urge to run around screaming grin

Run? What am I thinking? The best I could manage would probably be rolling.

Tomkat79 Tue 11-Feb-14 21:19:06

Yep absolutely...just a few weeks more and baby will be sleeping soundly in the pram, you'll be back in your pre preg jeans and will be watching your dc playing happily in the sunshine.

And I will have a painless labour wink

Hang on in there OP xx

Spellcheck Tue 11-Feb-14 21:23:41

Aargghh, me too! 35+1 and just had enough. Active baby constantly makes me jump with sharp kicks and jabs. Each day brings fresh horror - today he is using my undercarriage as a punchbag. Braxton Hicks too much like the real thing for my liking. ELCS hopefully on 7th March, cannot come soon enough!

My bump is absolutely vast and I want to punch the many, many people in the face who feel the need to remind me daily - as if I didn't know for Christ's sake. Yes, there is only one in there. Yes, I am sure. Yes, I am knackered.

Other major irritations:
Having to sit down for 5 minutes every time I go upstairs to get my breath back and return the blood to my brain. Especially when carrying my 12 month old.
Gestational diabetes preventing (although not entirely) me from eating four times my body weight in chocolate, which is all I want to do right now.
These mood swings can just fuck right off. Sobbing uncontrollably one minute, manically cleaning the next, kids and DP just get on my bloody nerves.
Building work to make room for unplanned DC5 just finished, now entire house needs decorating and have not the energy to start.
Maternity clothes are vile and I hate them all.
None of my shoes fit properly any more.
DP still wants sex. Ha!
I can't sleep! Back pain, restless legs, palpitations, breathlessness, squirming baby.....aaarrgghh!

So, I sympathise! Not long to go...doesn't help, does it?!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 11-Feb-14 21:28:58

Right here with you! sad
36 weeks on thursday. SDP is fucking HELL and neither DP or my 2 teens can grasp the fact that I am in agony. GD has sucked the last pleasure from my miserable existence and fluctuating blood sugar keeps turning me into a raving psychopath!
I've had a cough for 5 weeks and every time I cough I wet myself, and I just feel really shit. And all my family do is creep off and hide. I just want someone to fucking understand! confused

Flumpinblues Tue 11-Feb-14 21:54:13

Couldn't agree more. 35 weeks and the size of a house. Reduced to 3 outfits and one pair of boots. Still working FT. Toddler launching herself at me / bump every 5 mins, SPD, cold/flu for the past f***ing 3 weeks with bright red nose, cough and now toothache as well. No appetite, can't taste anything anyway. Trying to sleep hurts hips even more, need toilet, can't get comfy or breathe. No energy. Decorating unfinished, no bags packed, looming mat leave means we will be broke and scheduled c-section which last time took weeks on end to recover from. No-one in RL gets it. Hanging on by my fingernails on a daily basis to prevent meltdown...!!!!!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Tue 11-Feb-14 22:01:35

Why is it that nobody gets it? A large percentage of adult women have given birth. Why don't they look out for each other more? confused
Men I can understand, bit what are mothers, sisters, aunts and grandmothers doing exactly?

Peacenquiet2 Tue 11-Feb-14 23:00:05

Spellcheck, we have same date for emcs.
Ile be 36 weeks on fri op, and although i dont think im feeling quite as bad as you yet im slowly getting there.
Just think about how quickly time has gone since your last dc were born and i bet those last awful weeks seem like a distant memory, just like these moments will also do soon enough!

Jolleigh Tue 11-Feb-14 23:25:16

34 weeks and every bit as miserable! But knowing I've got between 3 and 8 weeks to go isn't helping much because I've officially realised I'm terrified of labour...and I have to get through that before I have the joy of being able to stand without grunting or going up the stairs without having to sit and get my breath at the top. So I'm getting more and more nervous and frustrated by the day.

MummyPig24 Wed 12-Feb-14 09:17:40

Can I join in? 35+3 and I'm hoping the next few weeks fly by. I feel like an enormous whale.

I'm in constant pain but the dr doesn't know what it is so I'm just trying to take paracetamol which doesn't help at all, and rest. But resting isn't so easy when I already have two children and a million things to do.

I'm tired and out of breath and crabby!

Kellsbelles83 Wed 12-Feb-14 09:41:36

I remember it very well!! I got to about 32 weeks with my daughter before it all started to go mental; couldn't breathe, couldn't sit, stand, walk, lay down also had low blood pressure. My nostrils got so swollen at night time I had to wear breatherite strips. Just remember to keep telling yourself that it's not too long now and just rest and chill out. If there's something you don't want to do, just don't do it! Hope it's not too long for you x

Flumpinblues Wed 12-Feb-14 10:17:57

Mantra for everyone on this thread and myself: This too shall pass (and in the meantime we are not alone!!!)

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Wed 12-Feb-14 10:49:27

The bizarre thing is, other than spd and the rage, I feel great! I've lost weight, my hands and feet have gone down, I'm not breathless, im just in agony and I want to kill someone! confused

middleclassdystopia Wed 12-Feb-14 12:07:17

31 weeks and been awake since 4am feeling anxious and sobbing on and off.

I'm also huge already, low blood pressure, breathless etc and trying to entertain two kids as school is off this week.

I lost it with dh because he wasn't going to get me a Valentine's card, I normally hate bloody Valentine's day!

I want my sanity back as well as my body

Mummytobe2014 Wed 12-Feb-14 12:12:38

Same here, 36+2 feel huge, SPD, had a cry last night because my dp was moody as he was tired from a night shift (waited till he left house to cry) and felt he just doesnt get me at all!
Cant sleep well as its hurts so much when i turn over, cant eat as much as there is no where for it to go, starting to really worry now that nothing will be ready for lo when he arrives as his bedroom is no where near started and all his clothes are in our room in boxes sad i just want to get sorting and i cant which is extremely frustrating!!! I havent even packed a hospital bag yet...
The only place that understands what it feels like is here!!
Oh and i have the biggest ankles/feet i have ever seen, they look a bit like elephants feet!

Bingbongbinglybunglyboo Wed 12-Feb-14 14:48:57

Oh my, 35 weeks here, yes yes yes to all of everything has said. I feel like utter crap, thank you all for making me feel normal and not like some moaning twat. I too have no clothes that fit, am so uncomfey, can't sleep, have painful, back, and hormonal and feel sooooooo tired. I need someone to tell me that weeks 36-40 are a breeze because the thought of another 5 weeks of this is making me weep.

Bingbongbinglybunglyboo Wed 12-Feb-14 14:50:59

And I hAvn't done hospital bag as I haven't sorted clothes yet as am too bloody tired. God knows when that will be done. It was all I could do to go out to buy some bigger pants for myself yesterday.

calamityjane1 Wed 12-Feb-14 15:07:50

Thanks for all the replies – sorry that we're all in the same boat, though. I had a miscarriage last year – after one normal period I was pregnant again, so by the time my baby is born, I will have been basically pregnant for a YEAR, except for one month off in which I was mostly feeling sad and very, very weird.

Grateful to be up the duff knowing the struggles that some have, but WILL I EVER FEEL NORMAL AGAIN?! I can't believe that I ever will. I used to be really sporty and now I can't even walk up the stairs. I feel so weak! With my last full-term pregnancy, I was in the gym every other day right up till the end.

This time, I just feel like utter shit. Did anyone see that TV programme Baggy Bodies the other day? That's how I envisage myself looking afterwards, too. Splendid.

–hands out Support Cookies–

CrispyFB Wed 12-Feb-14 20:31:11

You will feel normal again.. nearly everyone does!

From a wheelchair to literally running a marathon in 18 months.. that's my story after DC2. Having never done any running before I vowed never to take my mobility for granted again and said I would run a sodding marathon and I did (for the Miscarriage Association - believe me I know all about the feeling grateful but in pain scenario!)

More recently I've taken up skiing, although obviously that stopped not long after BFP!

Currently 33+6 with DC4 and as usual dying here in pain <sigh>

I walk hobble painfully to and from school with a crutch since 20 weeks with all three DC (2 year old needs to come with me to school as I can't leave him alone) each day, gasping in pain with every step. The (count them) FIVE other families in our small cul-de-sac who walk the same way with one or two children at the same school have NEVER, EVER offered to take my two sensible schoolgirls in with them. It's a five minute walk with no roads to cross and no major roads and total pavement. They ask me how I am feeling occasionally (trust me, I don't hold back, I used to at first!) and they offer sympathy but never help. They know I have no family support. Sometimes they stride past quickly offering a brief "morning", and other times they blank me.. until I started struggling they were always so friendly and chatty! Now they try and avoid me as much as possible, even though I try not to complain unless they ask how it's going. Guilt, totally. Lost all my respect for the lot of them.

So that's my vent!!

Mim78 Wed 12-Feb-14 20:48:09

I remember celebrating that I could finally reach the floor to put on shoes minutes after having dd! So you may feel much better v quickly...

Shroomboom Wed 12-Feb-14 21:00:15

DD is three weeks old and already I've almost forgotten how absolutely fed up, sick and uncomfortable I was and how I was convinced I'd be pregnant forever...
Now I have no time to myself, feel like a zombie, have sore nipples and am covered in baby sick grin Much as I am loving it and adore dd I do actually miss being pregnant hmm How on earth did that happen?

Wuxiapian Wed 12-Feb-14 21:04:56

Sorry to see so many of us suffering.

My first pregnancy was an absolute breeze.
My second was fine up until about 7 months when spd and carpal tunnel set in.
This pregnancy, well, I've never felt so rotten: constant colds/bugs, spd (worse than in 2nd pregnancy) since about 5 months - rendering me pretty much useless, headaches, breathlessness, nausea, tiredness, and on and on...

Feeling guilty about not taking DC2 (12 months) out, too. I'm physically unable to sad

Hoping I don't go 15 days over as I did last time!

calamityjane1 Wed 12-Feb-14 21:42:27

Ugh, it's all so tedious isn't?

Crispy They sound like bastards! Can't believe they don't offer to help when you are on crutches. Did your consultant agree to a section earlier than 39 weeks in the end? IT was you I was talking about that with, right? Amazing about your marathon!

Saggy "I'm just in agony and I want to kill someone" Yes. YES. I'm feeling that!

middleclassdystopia I am sending you a big hug. I too have been weeping every night - more at the thought of how many weeks I have yet to go. I told my DH that I fucking hated him last night. I don't. Poor man.

wuxia you poor bugger. Your DC2 is probably really happy just being at home with mum, though.

Larty74 Wed 12-Feb-14 22:32:00

SO glad i found this thread! I hate that we are all suffering in so many ways, but nice to know we are not alone. Dig deep everyone, it will pass! envy

Wuxiapian Fri 14-Feb-14 17:33:40

Well, my sufferance is (kinda) over.

Miss baby Wux was born in the early hours of this morning (3 weeks early) after emergency c-section due to placental abruption.

We're both fine, but they need to keep me in for a couple days.

Very best of wishes to you all!

SaggyOldClothCatPuss Fri 14-Feb-14 20:18:34

Congratulations Wux. smile smile
Glad to hear that you are both safe and sound. It must have been really scary! sad

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