31 week's pg with dc2, ds is 19 months, I'm Irish living in England!
In laws still keep calling me mummy, despite my saying from the beginning that I'm mammy. I keep correcting them, they keep apologising but keep doing it! I've had it all day today... Do this for mummy blah blah blah. I don't want to keep correcting them and i know they don't do it out of badness but it's really starting to upset me now.
Mil had a run in with a Midwife when I had ds. It's completely out of character for her but annoyed me and today she was saying 'hope I don't run into that midwife again' which again annoyed me cos at the time I really felt like it wasn't her place.
Now all this is really making me wish I had some family here 
cos I'm starting to feel a bit alone and that nobody listens to me or respects me.
Doesn't help that dh is working away for a few nights and I've just found varicose veins. I know it's all hormones but just need some reassurance or something!
For the record, in laws are great and helpful but doesn't help right now!
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feeling weepy and I miss my family
HelenHen · 11/02/2014 20:14
I don't know that I can reassure you, but I can tell you you're not the only one! I'm British but we live in DH's country and I'm really missing my family (I'm 40+2). I feel bad for DH (though he doesn't seem to mind) as I'm going out of my way to avoid contact with his mum & sister at the moment because I'm sick of being lectured and spoken to like I'm a foreign idiot (it's DC1 for me, and MIL told me last week that I have no right to have any views on childbirth or looking after a baby as I've never done it before; apparently I should just listen to advice). Last time MIL came round I grabbed my coat and ran out of the back door just as she came in the front
To make matters worse, my DSis recently gave birth, and is getting all the lovely, gentle help and support I'd be getting from our DM too if I lived closer by...
Anyway, I kind of know how you feel, and I sympathise. When's your DH back?
Oh thanks all 
it does help! Inglorious They actually had him today for a few hours! I dunno, I just feel that he's getting more and more English and there's not enough Irish influence in his life and he won't even know to call me mammy cos nobody else does! How terrible does that sound? They're getting more and more involved which, for the most part, is good... But sometimes for me it just emphasises how my family aren't involved. Sarah We'd love to move over too but dh has good job and we have House so it will be at least a few years if it ever happens! Oh Morien that sounds horrible will your family visit? He's back Thursday
Oh whitewolf Mexico's bloody far and I don't think it's wrong to feel how yours feeling. Do you have much support over here? since we've had ds our Irish trips are down to about two a year and that's ridiculous! My passport is also about to expire so I'll have to send off for as new one meaning I'll be without passport for about 6 week's which scares me!
I've just spoken to dh about all this. Typical man wants to fix everything instead of just agreeing with me and apologising whether he needs to or not 
. I've just drilled home all the points though and I think he gets it. I feel like I actually worded everything well for once instead of just being an irrational blubbering mess
Lol I know... Dh tries to explain everything from a rational point of view... But I'm not rational, I'm pregnant, fuck off
Oh no beewitched can somebody post you a box of homey foods? My family keep sending me sausages but I have gallstones so can't even eat them... We now have a freezer full of Irish sausages and white pudding lol. Hopefully you can meet people when you have baby? That's a horrible situation!
I'm the same, so homesick sometimes. I live in the Netherlands and it is lovely but not speaking dutch is frustrating even though all my appointments are in English. It's so foreign. And I feel sad that none of my family are in easy reach given they are all in the UK. Pil are lovely and very hands off but even so there is still the odd comment that makes me 
with pg hormones it doesn't help!
It really doesn't! I feel like I'm always having a go about in laws. Really I think I'm a bit jealous that his family's here and mine aren't. And obviously he gets defensive of them sometimes and that makes me feel more alone! His mom said before that I'm like a daughter to her and even that made me angry cos I didn't ask for another mom what the hell's wrong with me?
Ffs I just cried cos I saw the trailer for about time! Bedtime for me I reckon . Thank you all though, you've helped x
Aww at least mil won't gimme any unwanted advice, but she often ignores a lot of stuff I ask her to do, like not letting him play with remote controls, keys, phones, etc. It drives me mad.
Dh isn't gonna be Home til Friday now but I'm feeling a tiny bit better today! Just had some friends over which helps!
I think I'm gonna have to do the thing and start seeking out other Irish people and centres and groups and stuff... Even if it's only every few months at the mo. I even feel the urge to go to mass lol and I'm only a teeny bit religious! Just cos I know there'll be Irish there even though they'll be old probably! Otherwise it's gonna be tough to keep them in the culture if it's just me influencing it. I know I'm their mammy but that means they will rebel against me at some point!
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