So I got my BFP on Wed! Part of me is of course super excited but at the same time I am constantly thinking that something will go wrong. Had a mc at the end of Dec and I have therefore fallen pg in my first cycle after the mc. Just worried that I am not going to allow myself to enjoy this pregnancy at all?? Anyone else in the same situation and if so, how are you feeling/dealing with it.
I got pregnant first cycle after a mc - currently 32 weeks with a healthy baby boy.
I found the first trimester the hardest - couldn't stop running to the bathroom to check I wasn't bleeding and I kept a stash of pads with me at all times 'just in case'. I don't think either me or dh believed the pregnancy would really last. I relaxed a lot after a scan at 10 weeks showed heartbeat.
Best advice is to just enjoy every day you are pregnant. As time goes on you will get braver.
There's also a group on the pregnancy board for people who are pregnant after mc.
Pregnancy after miscarriage is a very stressful time, especially the 1st 12 weeks. There are good helplines at the Miscarriage Association. Most pregnancies after loss go fine and result in a healthy baby.
Oh darling you are in the same boat as so many women. I miscarried on Saturday and have resolved next time to not even consider myself pregnant until I get that 12 week scan under my belt.
I am definitely a person who would rather deal with a worst case scenario situation in my head so I'm not sure if that approach could work for you. Almost expect the worst but hope for the best and take each day at a time?
Massive congratulations and praying you have a fab 9 months with no problems xxxx
I had a miscarriage in October and just got a positive test result last week. Happy of course but it is so easy to worry and get yourself in a state isn't it? I am trying very hard to stay in the moment and remember that right now everything is fine. I've had my wobbles but I am distracting myself with films, books and even a sewing kit project. I also 2nd the PG after MC thread is massively supportive and people understand what you' re going through. I've only been on there a week but made to feel very welcome. Sharing with people has really helped. Wishing you lots of strength and a quiet and uneventful pregnancy x
Wow, thank you all for your supportive responses! I will certainly join the recommended thread. Will try to take each day for what it is, and hope that this one will stick. Will have first scan in about 3 weeks so if I reach that, it will be the first milestone. Thank you all again, I really appreciate that you took time to read and respond.