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is there any way they could induce you because of depression(21 Posts)
I have been very depressed my whole pregnancy and it is just getting worse and worse. I really want this baby but its got to point where I'm really not looking after myself and eating, sleeping etc. wondering if there was any way they would consider inducing me early. I'm currently 37 weeks 5 days so pretty much full term. I just thought it may be better for it to come two weeks early rather than me not look afterit while it .is iside me for another 2 to 4 weeks. Does anyone have any experience of this happening?
She knows I'm down/struggling with the pregnancy but I havent wanted to admit how bad I really am because I'm scared it will mean they tell me im not fit to be a mother. I'm not normally like this at all so I.know the pregnancy hormone are playing a huge part. I feel like if im no longer pregnant the problem will be resolved.
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You need to talk to her properly. Ante natal depression can be treated or helped at least. You are not a bad mother in any way whatsoever. When are you seeing her next. She can talk you through options that you may have and she can find you some support. If it's a while away then call and ask to speak to someone.
You need to bear in mind that once you have the baby you are going to have lots of hormones flying around and there's a chance you could develop post natal depression. Again this is not something to feel bad about. Lots of mumsnetters have been there and got through it, including me. You may not so assume it will happen.
Being not pregnant may help your mood improve but newborns are rather high maintenance so the more support you have the better.
Have you talked to your DH or your mum or a friend?
Unfortunately there is no guarantee of how you will feel once the baby is born, I honestly doubt if they will induce you early for depression although you could probably discuss induction at 40 weeks? I suffered badly with antenatal depression in my first pregnancy so I know how tough it is, but honestly inductions when baby isn't ready to come out yet aren't ideal, and can lead to more interventions!
You need to tell your midwife how you are feeling, she can arrange counselling for you once baby arrives (it's highly unlikely you could get referred now before baby arrives) but it really does help, and admitting you're struggling definitely doesn't make you unfit to be a mother!!
Peeapod that's terrible advice. I'm sorry of you are having troubles but honesty about depression is much better than pretending it doesn't exist.
have you ever been there? Have you openly admitted your mh problems to the midwife who promises you support but refers you to social services and implies your a bad mother because you dared not to be ready for baby at 18w pg? Or because of an imminent move the house being a bit cluttered?
Have you ever got so paranoid you spent 48 hours cleaning non stop because someone told you that they were right to be concerned if the house was in any way messy?
Have you not slept because your so worried about the consquences of daring to ask for support because of your mh problems?
If you havent then please dont lecture me on good or bad advice. That is my experience, social services and mws see mh as a bad thing and mothers who present as having mh problems as not good mothers.
Peeapod are you ok? I had the same thing in my pregnancy with ds years ago. Please pm me if you like, you sound as if you are in the same situation I was.
In pregnancy I had depression anxiety and DH temporarily walked out, also postnatal depression and anxiety after birth - I had councelling and take meds, I was honest all the way and there has never been a sniff of social services so don't let one persons experience put you off asking for help.
Having the baby is a huge shock to your system and when you already feel awful it can hit you very hard with all the postnatal hormones all over the place. I would ask for more support rather than an induction. Do you have family?
I suffered from depression throughout the third trimester of my pregnancy. I had suffered a mc previously and felt that this baby was not the one I was supposed to have.
I was also having regular anxiety attacks at the thought of giving birth. I was having regular nightmares that I would have to have an emergency cs and, be put to sleep and wake up to a baby I wouldn't love.
I spoke to the GP who referred me to a consultant who agreed to give me an elective cs.
I think you should be honest with how you are feeling, especially when hormones are playing a huge part. Would you also be scared to admit how you feel after baby arrives? I had extra support from a mental health nurse for the first 4 weeks after DS was born and then I was discharged from their care so to speak when they were happy with how I was feeling.
I don't know if this is the case everywhere but my midwife team had a specially trained MH midwife so investigate if there is one for you to talk to.
Peeapod I don't know the full circumstances of why you have been referred to SS but I can categorically state that if the OP is struggling with antenatal depression your posts are NOT going to be helpful, and they are also inaccurate - as I stated above I got the help I needed by asking for it, as have other posters on here, so the only thing I can presume is that there is more to your story than simply "I was depressed, I asked for help and now I'm known to SS"
its that simple. Sorry to burst your bubble. I went to them for help and support with my depression and thats what happened. Dont dismiss me as some random poster, it happens and you have to be careful. Labels are powerful and sticky. It does not pay to be honest but cautious. Its your choice but dont say i didnt warn you.
Word for word my councellor said to me that I am safe to say anything in therapy without fear of consequences as long as there is no apparent physical threat to myself or my baby. And even then, she would confer with me before making any sort of referral. Even if SS get involved it isn't a baby snatching cult, they have many many ways of supporting families and it may well be useful to you. Scaremongering based on one single experience is damaging, especially when your full picture situation may be wildly different to OPs.
I was diagnosed with PND peeapod. I saw perinatal mental health services, my GP and my health visitor. Not one mentioned anything about social services. Clearly your experience has been different but that isn't a reason for the OP not to talk to her midwife. They can help and assuming that things will get better when the baby is born isn't necessarily realistic.
OP, I do hope you talk it your midwife or GP. There is a lot that can be done to support you. Best wishes.
I've struggled with my depression resurfacing during this pregnancy and suffered from severe anxiety during the first 4 months - my midwives have been fantastic and my hospital has specialised mental health care for women who need support through this difficult time.
They've been really supportive and just being able to talk to them about it instead of suffering alone and only crying on my husband's shoulder has really helped.
I have suffered terribly in this pregnancy (partly due to losing a baby near term) and I have received only help from the midwives, my GP etc. I think it is very important that you tackle this now as it really could get worse after the baby is born and you factor in the utter exhaustion of a newborn. There was a programme on radio 4 about this only yesterday. See if you can listen to it on iplayer. I think there has been a huge shift in how antenatal depression is understood and treated only very recently. There might be options for an induction at 40 weeks (I am having a cs at 39 weeks) but having done that I think it would be better to get the right support so you can deliver when the baby is ready I am sorry peeapod you had a very different experience but I would really worry if the op does not get help.
Op your hospital should have a mental health midwife who specialises in this kind of thing! You should be honest with her, they can put things into place or at least plan for the huge extra support you are
Going to need when you baby comes! Good luck!
Pea pod - sorry you have had a troublesome time but because
You had a bad experience of support does not give u right to dismiss what the op is feeling in asking by
Just telling her not to bother in asking for support! Everybody takes support differently !
Hi juju I've started a similar post in childbirth. I have severe ocd which has worsened throughout the pregnancy, and I'm now really struggling unless dh is with me constantly. I'm 36 weeks and would prefer this baby to be out sooner rather than later because I'm so anxious all the time. I already have alot of involvement from the mh team so mw aware of my difficulties. My psychiatrist would support a decision to deliver me earlier - I'm meaning 38 weeks+ not now. Spoke to the mw yesterday and she didn't seem to think it was an unreasonable request -just said I'd need to speak to a consultant if I felt that was what I wanted/needed to do.
Please don't be afraid of telling your mw how you are feeling. It doesnt make you a bad parent and you may feel better just getting it out in the open. No doubt she will have seen nany women with similar problems. There's is a surprising amount of support for pregnant women with mh problems once you ask. Hope you feel better soon
I was consultant led in my 1st pregnancy last year and at 37 weeks took my H to the consultant with me and asked that I be induced.
He had no problem with it, gave me a sweep at 38 weeks, (apparently not done until 39) to see if I was favourable and if not we would go for full induction the week after. I wasn't favourable but went into labour naturally 2 days later.
So they do listen and do act, please just be honest with your midwife and I hope they help.
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