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Almost 49 and 7 weeks pregnant.

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mekel3 Thu 30-Jan-14 18:43:04

I am new to this site but enjoyed reading so many of the posts so I decided to join. I am a mother of 3 my youngest being 11 yrs old. I am going to be 49 in May and I just found out that I am pregnant. I conceived naturally and I am almost 7 weeks along. I am still in shock as this was not planned. My boyfriend is 15 yrs my junior and he already has 4 children. Neither one of us ever figured on having any more. I had my first appointment with my Ob and although she has warned me of all the risks involved and has assessed me as high risk and one of her most difficult cases...she also offered congratulations and a huge smile for me. So far...I have yet to take blood test to determine levels and the following first ultrasound. I am aware that the first 10-12 weeks are the most common for miscarriage and am prepared for this. I guess I am taking a.. wait and see.. one day at a time attitude. Or maybe it's just the shock. When your life plan is suddenly altered it always takes some time to adjust. I will follow up with high risk for their consult and do all genetic testing necessary. I am leaving it in God's hands. With his help and good medical care I am hoping for a healthy baby. With each day that passes I am falling in love with the idea of having another child. I just have so many worries because of my advanced age that I am almost afraid to be happy. I am hoping for some support so that I can try to enjoy what could be a very wonderful experience and not allow the fears to lessen my joy. Staying hopeful.

Elllimam Thu 30-Jan-14 18:46:44

Congratulations what lovely news smile hoping for an easy healthy pregnancy for you xx

SweetPea86 Thu 30-Jan-14 18:50:19

Congratulations Hun and welcome to the board. I swear this board has got me through some tough times, lots of lovely people giving helpful advice, wishing you a healthy happy pregnancy smile

Strongecoffeeismydrug Thu 30-Jan-14 20:52:26

Wishing you a healthy 9 monthssmile.
I'm 40 years old with a very unplanned 3rd babywink.
4 days and I'm having a c section, it took a while for it to sink in and forme to feel happy but now I can't wait to meet this little girlsmile.

StealthPolarBear Thu 30-Jan-14 20:53:41

I read that as 49 weeks pregnant

longleggedlady Thu 30-Jan-14 21:16:26

Congratulations! and i also read that as 49 weeks pregnant!!!

Irishmammybread Thu 30-Jan-14 22:49:02

I also have three DC, 20,14 and 10 and am currently 28 weeks pregnant with DC4. I'll be 46 in a few weeks.
I have had several miscarriages over the last few years and am having consultant led care for this pregnancy due to "advanced maternal age" but so far there haven't been any complications.
My testing for chromosomal problems came back as low risk despite my age and though it is hard not to worry about things going wrong we are very happy at the thought of another little one in the family and hoping for the best.
I hope all goes well for you too,when will you have your first scan?

Shellywelly1973 Fri 31-Jan-14 01:10:34


I'm 40 & 3 days over due with dc6.

Just want to wish you the very best of luck. Take care of yourself. X

willitbe Fri 31-Jan-14 05:56:49

Hi, I am 8 weeks pregnant and 46 this week. This will be my 4th too, although my youngest is only 5 years old, so not quite s big a gap.

Like Irishmanmy I have had several miscarriages since my last baby. Advanced maternal age does unfortunately make it much more likely.

But for today - congratulations and I wish you a happy and healthy pregnancy. grin

woodhj Fri 31-Jan-14 13:41:35

Its only modern day society that makes us think its too old to have children in our 40's. Women were having children into their 50's years ago. There is a programme on soon 50 and pregnant, Mimi from Shameless is pregnant at 50 and its taking you through her pregnancy. Might be worth watching.
Congratulations again x x x

ChicaMomma Fri 31-Jan-14 13:49:04

Congrats to you, what wonderful news!

My boss had her first at 47, complete surprise and what a gorgeous (perfect) child, she's 2 now.

It'll all be fine, i wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy!

flagnogbagnog Fri 31-Jan-14 13:51:48

Can I just add my congratulations also. I think it's truly amazing and such a blessing for you and your family. 49 is young these days and the care available during pregnancy is the best it's ever been.

Just wanted to share that my midwife had a baby at 47. About 5yrs ago. Shock pregnancy, but once she got over it she was thrilled. She had a lovely little boy now as well as ready made babysitters in her grown up children!

All the very best x

mekel3 Fri 31-Jan-14 17:43:31

Thank you all so much for your kind words of support. I am going in this weekend for testing. Fingers crossed. We will take it from there. Boyfriend is getting past shock and warming quickly to the idea. So cute. I apologize to anyone who read this wrong. I didn't do the very best job of posting the title. Is there a way to edit it without losing the thread?

mekel3 Tue 04-Feb-14 14:57:18

congratulations. Blessings to you and your family.

mekel3 Tue 04-Feb-14 15:03:08

I will have my first scan scheduled as soon as my HCG levels come back.
I should know the results today or tomorrow. Good luck to you and congratulations !! Please let me know how you are doing.

willitbe Fri 07-Feb-14 05:05:44

Did you get your results?

elQuintoConyo Fri 07-Feb-14 06:02:21

Congratulations mekel3 thanks

A good friend had healthy twins 3 months before her 50th birthday, they're now coming up for 2yo. I think she's a better mum than me (38 with a 2yo) and she is handling it great!

mekel3 Tue 18-Feb-14 11:47:15

I want to thank all of you for your kind words of support. I think this forum is a wonderful place to receive information but more importantly help from such caring and loving people.
I am saddened to say that I did not have good news at the doctors office. It has been a few weeks at least since I have posted. During that time I discovered that the baby stopped growing at around five or six weeks. And at almost ten weeks I had my miscarriage. It was a very emotional time, but I am convinced that it is for the best. I believe that there must have been something wrong with my egg. I would rather have it happen early and I am at peace with it all now. This isn't to say that I didn't grieve the loss. I am a loving mother of 3 and count my blessings each day that I have them. One more would have been a joy and a miracle. Again....thank you all for your caring words. I know you were praying for me....and we all hoped for a better outcome. I would love to say maybe next time...but as I wasn't trying for this one, and because of my age, I will be practicing much safer sex in the future.

ChicaMomma Tue 18-Feb-14 11:56:42

Sorry to hear it Mekel. I think you are right though, it is nature's way of dealing with something that isnt right. You are right to be philosophical about it despite how hard it must have been to get that news. All the best and hats off to you for being so strong, you're an inspiration!

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