I'm so down and don't know what to do with myself I just keep staring into space and crying. I'm just wondering if anyone else had been through something similar and it's turned out ok. I guess I'm just trying to find some hope to cling on to.
I'm 6+4 but had an early u/s 2 days ago (due to some early spotting) but the baby was only 2.5mm and there was no heartbeat. They told me I must only be 5 weeks and have booked me in to go back a week later. They said my chances are 50/50 but just wouldn't listen to me when I said I can't be 5 weeks due to my dates.
All of my symptoms have gone, my boobs were a little sore and swollen but are now just normal and deflated.
I'm so scared my baby has stopped growing and has died and just cannot stand waiting in limbo. How do I go on until Tuesday knowing that my baby might have gone already?
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so scared I've lost my baby
starfish99 · 08/01/2014 16:45
I had a scan when I thought I was 6 weeks as they suspected my pregnancy was ectopic.
There was nothing to be seen and my hcg levels were so low the doctors told me to expect a miscarriage as they said they were too low to sustain a pregnancy.
Turns out everyone had got it very, very wrong - me included. My ultrasound was a few days out and I got my dates slightly wrong which sent everything off kilter.
I'm now 37 weeks and have a foot stuck in my side.
Good luck. Did they take any bloods? 
Thanks starfish - it was six years ago now but it is horrible waiting. We get so used to being able to have answers for things within a day or so at most, so to be told "time" is the only thing with answers is extremely hard to deal with.
With each scan my hopes faded a lot more so by the time I had the last scan at just after 9 weeks I was pretty sure it was over so in a way it was a gradual let down. I had a loss a few years before that (had DC1 in between) and that was a very definite loss at 7 weeks and I think in a way that affected me more as it was so sudden.
However I am now pregnant with DC4 so despite my initial bad luck, I seem to be doing a better job at hanging onto them now! 
As everyone has posted - there's so many chances for it to still be okay and lots of positive stories! You should get some sort of answer in a week - most babies either stop growing or only grow a day or two so it's obvious it's not going to work out, or they grow as they should. I was unlucky and fell in a grey area somewhere between the two hence the prolonged limbo, but for most people it's pretty clearcut.
I hope the next week passes quickly for you - keep reminding yourself it's out of your control and what will be will be, I know it's hard though! I was hopeless at not obsessing. Some places insist on a two week wait so you were lucky there at least!
Hi starfish - sorry you are having a rough time of it. When I first got pregnant me and my husband had an early private scan and the company told me there is no point doing a scan until 7 weeks gestation minimum as the chance of seeing a heartbeat is so slim and all it does it cause unnecessary panic.
Also, even if you know for definite when you ovulated you have no exact idea timing of when conception took place and no exact timing of when implantation took place. Some eggs can implant in the womb lining after 6 days whereas other eggs can take up to 12 days - that is quite a big scope for variation. I don't know if the date of implantation has any bearing on the size of the foetus at various stages but it is still something to keep in kind. You genuinely may not be as far gone as you think you are.
I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you 
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