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Pregnancy is a ticket to calling a women fat :( rant post sorry(48 Posts)
At work today and there's a fella from management, typical jack the lad always showing off acting like the big man. (Bit of a sexist pig)
Came up to me today and said hello fatty with a big grin on his face.
I'm 5 months but I don't look pregnant yet.
I'm about a size 14 to 16 so I'm not slim he made me feel like crap.
I few fellas have called me fatty porky etc sines found out I was pregnant. It's as if they always thought that but now I'm preg they have an excuse to actually call me that.
I was so hurt my weight has bothered me since I was 13 I lost about 3 stone and piled it all bk on. I'm not massive just arverge size. But you just don't need to hear that when your body is changing
Just needed to rant
My response to my MIL when she said I was getting tubby at 8 weeks was "you really shouldn't comment on people's size or weight, regardless of whether they are pregnant or not." Then told her I had to go and left her gawping like a goldfish.
I got frenzied text messages saying that I was clearly hormonal and over sensitive!
I worked on a market yesterday where everyone is lovely. Loads of people patted my belly. Although they are lovely, I take great delight in saying "that's my breakfast, baby is a bit lower!" I havent had many fatty jokes but there are plenty of comebacks! I like "That's the pot calling the kettle a fat arse!!!"
I have only just started telling people at work that I'm pregnant, 1 of them had the cheek to come up to me and pat my stomach saying in a baby voice 'oh you've made mummy fat already, she's gonna be massive!' I'm only 14 weeks!! I am a little rounder on my stomach that's only noticeable to me and my partner, in my work clothes you cant even see I've put on any weight. I almost lost it so bad inconsiderate wank stain some people just shouldn't be let out of their homes
Future conversations should go like this...
Him : hello fatty!
You : Alright wanker!
don't even pause for breath in between, then just stand there and stare in his face. Oh and make sure you say it loud enough for others to hear too.
If anyone looks too shocked just reply " what? just being honest!"
Over the last 2 days I have been referred to as chunky, tubby and chubby. All comments came from family members and to be honest it just made me smile - I love my bump and I know when people make such comments they aren't being offensive they are just commenting about how well the pregnancy is getting. I went to visit my friend last week (who is due in 2 weeks) and I hadn't seen her for about a month and my first words out my mouth when she opened the door were, "Bloody hell, you are massive!!" She laughed because she knows she is!!! I think it's just a case of me remembering that in general, nobody makes comments to me nastily and I just let it go over my head
It's a pain in the arse Clearly eh?
My latest comeback is, 'that's not a baby that is my dinner!' Que embarrassed faces all round
A friend touched my rather large muffin top last night... I was wearing a close fitting dress as I was struggling to find clothes for a dinner and said "hello baby". I pointed to my lower abdomen and said - baby is still down there...
Sooooo embarrassing. I'm looking forward for what waist I have/ indent at tummy button level to go... At the moment it's just podgy above and below my waist line.
Realised I'm also not going to be that ok with people touching my bump.
I have a good friend who starts every conversation with 'oh look at you, you're getting so big now' and touching me. I'm 15 weeks pregnant and have no bump, clearly have put on weight though.
It's so fucking annoying that I'm actually avoiding her before my pregnant rage makes me believe that I really hate her. (Because I don't I just hate this!)
Can't believe how insensitive or downright rude some people are! ClearlyMoo, I feel your pain - I've lost 7st over the last 18 months to get to target weight. Have put about a stone back on (half of which is pre-BFP holiday bloat anyway) but it isn't particularly noticeable and am only 10 weeks so no-one knows yet. Last night a friend (male, unsurprisingly) asked me if I wanted a drink and when I said I'd have a coke he looked shocked and said "FAT coke?!" then he patted my tummy and said "you want to be careful, you've put some weight on, what happened to fat club eh?". Cheeky fucker - wait til we announce it and I remind him of how he told me I was fat and made me feel terrible when I was actually pregnant and emotional - ha!
Of course it's not made any better by the fact that I'm naturally a fatty anyway, have been eating all the time to combat MS, haven't been able to do my usual exercise due to nausea and yet MIL keeps banging on about how my perfect 34 weeks gone SIL has only put on 1.5 stone, is all bump and even managed to do a ballet class last week Will remember some of these retorts for if and when the comments start though!
Angry gosh and I thought Waiheke was well heeled! Not surprised about Cambridge though...
Why do people think "You're getting so BIG" is an appropriate way to start a conversation? How about just asking "how's the pregnancy going." When I've told people I don't like them commenting on my body they say "oh but all pregnant women love being told they're getting bigger." Um, really? REALLY??
Well i read this post yesterday thinking i cant imagine anyone having the cheek to tell someone they are fat, pregnant or not.
Then lo and behold this morning as i walked out of the school playground one if the mums announced loudly i was now obviously showing, and people who did'nt know yet would think i was just getting fat!
Have to say i did laugh as i quite like the mum who said it and we do have a bit of banter now and again, but had it been someone i was'nt keen on i think i would have felt bit differently!
Ignore the lowlife creep who made the snide remark op and as others have said, next time be armed with a few cutting remarks to throw back at him ;-)
I have friends calling me fatty and skinny(!) at the mo and it doesn't bother me as it's said affectionately.
However, if someone spoke to me insensitively and I didn't know them very well my response would be: "Hello ignorant and rude person!" Then I might finish with a phrase I use on teenagers who lack awareness: "Social awareness. Get some!"
Glad I made you laugh sweet pea made me laugh to remembering his chin hit the floor!
Mr tumble...I'm on Waiheke!
But I lived in cambridge before here, and seriously, pc has not caught up, IMO!! I can't tell you how shocked I've been at some things openly said by otherwise perfectly "normal" looking people.
The humour in this country (nz) is a bit different, and things like that are tolerated more readily.
Jesus, whereabouts in NZ are you? I'm also a Kiwi and where I live this would NEVER be considered acceptable!
Hey ladies thanks for all the posts had a norther fella say your starting to show now or are you just eating well. Kind if took that one on the chin coz he's ok.
ANgry beaver the hello baldy had just made my day can't stop laughing good on ya. Xx
Feeling your pain OP. Several men at my work have taken to calling me chubbs etc. I think it's their way of acknowledging my pregnancy without running the risk of someone talking about wombs, breast feeding, child birth or other scary stuff.
Lots of the women comment daily on my bump and how much bigger it is than yesterday etc - I know they mean well so I grin and smile but today when several were having the daily "it's really big now/you're massive/you sure there is only one in there" chin wag 2 made comment that left me
1. And to think you used to do all that running... As if I should just give up now I will never be fit or slim again
2. It's amazing your bump and your bum are so big now .... MY BUM! Since when were you allowed to comment on my bum?? Queue hours of twisting and looking in the mirror
You will have a gorgeous baby after & they will still be pathetic losers.
Cheeky fecker! As another poster said, report them to HR. Its harassment if you want to get technical and completely out of line!
Personally, I would have had his balls in a sling! I'm a market trader. Men don't mess with me!
Its not on though, and if it is upsetting you it needs to be dealt with.
How about "I may be PREGNANT, but you are a DICKWAD and I will give birth eventually!
Yeah i've had that from guys in my workplace. But to be fair, they are all fatter then me anyway (+ im not really showing yet either 20+2)
I think to be honest its just male humour. No its not acceptable, but some people just lack common sense + brain to mouth filter.
In the end, i'd just let it roll off you. You will have a gorgeous baby after & they will still be pathetic losers.
Agree this is outrageous OP.
Most insensitive comments come from from the older women in the office for me. I think of them as veiled jealousy, because most people are sweet and excited for you when they see the bump.
People are hideous. The only comment anyone should make to a pregnant woman is a compliment. Uninvited comments about weight gain or body changes are rude and unnecessary, even if they are supposedly in 'fun'.
Know exactly how you feel.... People don't realise they being really insensitive, especially when like you say, weight and being overweight has always been on the mind.... I always go up and down in weight, and an older lady I know said to me ' you've put some weight on again haven't you dear' to which I said, 'actually I'm pregnant' and she said ' no I didn't mean your tummy I meant In your face and arms' I was so upset by this as I was only about 20 weeks! From that day I vowed never to talk to that woman again!! Lol
Just remembered another one in this pregnancy.
A woman I hardly know said "look at you. You fat bastard!!" When I went to say hello! Again my mum was like
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