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Hyperemesis Support

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LucindaE Tue 15-Oct-13 19:53:28

I hope everyone suffering from the Horrors of Hyperemesis will find this thread useful as a source of support and information.

There's no TMI on here - can't be by definition - and nobody should feel ashamed of moaning as much as they feel the need to.

I used to include extracts from MOH's wonderful website
but I think that makes this link less visible so am merely putting the link. The information on this site is invaluable for sufferers, with information about medications, coping strategies, hospital admissions, useful links, advice for family members, and much more.

I would like to thank MOH and Everyone who has given such invaluable support and advice on this and on previous threads.

Remember when you are at your worst, 'This Too Shall Pass'. It really will.

LucindaE Mon 02-Dec-13 14:38:53

Aagh! Desperate need for new thread, here it is.
Mother hen hopes to see you there. Cushions, cyber pats on offer.
Noisy creche for ex sufferers next door...

Meerka Mon 02-Dec-13 14:35:20

living, v pleased to hear about scan and blood test.

super yes hormones go up and down. lots of us found the same.hope youre a bit better jen

uff horrible to relapse

Totesamazeballs Mon 02-Dec-13 12:22:11

Hi!Sally - pm me your address and I will pop it in the past (once. I have found it!)

Great news about your scan Living!!

Scheriously, first time round I was signed off work until about 19 weeks, from week 5! It is difficult but don't feel guilty, it's not like you can do anything about it.

Scheriously Mon 02-Dec-13 12:03:09

super I've had lots of those days and my midwife said it's normal, that we have hormone surges or something, so some days we can be okay and others are crap. I'm sure baby is fine, though I understand the worry. Damned if you do have sickness, damned if you don't!

Scheriously Mon 02-Dec-13 12:00:53

meerka I get those days - you thing you're coming through it and then you wake up one morning and it feels like it's begun all over again. Lots of sympathy, I hope it's a one-off and that the rest of the day is okay.

I'm going to try and get in with my GP - though can you believe the waiting list for her is usually 2-3 weeks?! She used to work in fertility so I think she's v popular with other ladies like me who had a bit of a struggle getting to this point.

Hope everyone has an easy day, and thanks again for all the responses.

superlambanana Mon 02-Dec-13 11:02:06

Oh wait. I may have spoken too soon...

superlambanana Mon 02-Dec-13 10:32:19

Morning all, and congratulations on the scan livingzuid! Very exciting smile

I feel strangely un-sick today.... It's a really weird feeling! I'm now worrying about going back to work and worrying that something is wrong with the baby...

livingzuid Mon 02-Dec-13 09:50:16

Just done with dating scan, put me back 3 days to 13+3 which is exactly what I thought it should be based on my cycle. All measurements wonderfully average. Got whipped in to do the combined test - just done blood tests and will have the neck scan thing tomorrow. I'm right at the very cusp of still having been able to do it fortunately! Am a 0.5% chance based on age alone.

meerka got some more info on the advanced blood tests we discussed, will pm you with it. Hospital were very good. Clinic in Brussels does the lot for 500 euro. Just got an 800 euro bill to fix the car though so don't know if new maternity clothes and test us going to be possible! Sorry you've had such a bad morning as well.

Back to sickness, I had a horrible night but was made better seeing the baby grooving away this morning. He/she wouldn't stay still for the measurements - I was cheering the baby on quietly - lots of movement is good!

jen stay tucked up and warm.

jenpatnim Mon 02-Dec-13 08:09:46

Scheriously, explain to the GP that any kind of exertion exacerbates the sickness, and that you have to stay in bed. It is the only way. I was basically prone for the whole summer, and although I did drag myself back to work, it was very hard.

Everyone else - big hugs, sounds like the struggles are continuing. I am still feeling rotten - yes Lucinda, cough and sore throat are present and correct. I am just hoping it doesn't go into my chest. OH had it last week and he is on the mend now so I hope it only lasts a week for me as well, and that the flu jab I got keeps it from turning into the full-blown flu. I am taking the paracetamol and trying to keep the fluids up as much as possible.... guess there isn't much more that I can do. My sinuses are so inflamed that my cheeks and teeth hurt. Fun times.

Meerka Mon 02-Dec-13 07:53:31

<drags herself in depressed> woke up at 5 with the full blown vomitting and nausea again, like during the worst days. Christ I hope it's just a one off, its morning too, usually its afternoon and evening that's been bad sad


scheriously how anyone copes with serious sickness and works I have -no- idea. can you maybe get your own gp and ask her for a month? gives you some peace of mind which is really important, and if you improve then you will some very-much-needed recovery time before work again.

Scheriously Sun 01-Dec-13 23:20:26

Thank you so much for all of the replies - what a great thread. It's nice to read stuff I can relate to because I feel like not many people understand it in RL and just think 'get on with it'.

I'm going to the doctors again on Tuesday to get my sick note renewed, and I'm dreading it already. How do you have this conversation?! I feel like I'm being cheeky, it's ridiculous. My GP is great (when I see her) and signs me off for two weeks at a time which is useful without me having to say anything, but the others just give me a week after I sheepishly ask which is a bit annoying when I'm having a rubbish day and know I have to go back down to the doctors each week to say 'yep, I'm still gross'. I'd never been signed off previous to this in my life, and know I'm a bit silly for worrying but I'm so scared of them refusing me! Work would be torture. I don't know how other women do it - hats off.

Meerka Sun 01-Dec-13 20:56:34

Hi scheriouesly and sorry you're here! Yes, HG lasts a lot longer than 12 weeks usually. It seems to be connected to the hormones. You're just plain unlucky, sadly :/

there's a lot of info here on lucinda's link Have a good read, the site is excellent. I'm afraid that yes, if you have it once you're 85% likely to have it a second time. However, there are meds that help fortunately, glad you've been able to get them. Btw, female doctors arent necessarily any better than male when it comes to HG :s

superlambanana Sun 01-Dec-13 19:43:25

What is it with burgers? It's one of the only things I can eat and enjoy too!

eggybrokenoff Sun 01-Dec-13 19:40:04

living i know that feeling - and the dog stare too!

livingzuid Sun 01-Dec-13 19:04:50

Eggy I agree and I would love to go outside and normally it would help. These last 2 days though I can't even sit upright and am scared to move once I find a position that is relatively nausea - free. I'm getting quite dizzy as well. Guilt is not helped by my dog sitting next to me right now with a really wistful look on his face...

lucinda no bravissimo near the folks unfortunately. Will see if I can persuade DH to stop somewhere else route!

eggybrokenoff Sun 01-Dec-13 18:59:41

i do find i feel better if outside - even if i cant go anywhere sitting well wrapped up in the garden makes me feel a bit better

livingzuid Sun 01-Dec-13 18:49:30

jen hope you get well soon. What a combination!

I just got a bit shouty with DH who is nagging me to go out for a walk. I was like do you honestly think I want to lie here feeling sick all bloody day? I'm doing my best! He's only saying that because he's trying to help and he's waited on me hand and foot since 7 weeks but dear lord this nausea and sickness is not a walk in the park!

I'm also wondering how much my lithium is contributing to it. I felt really good this morning when I woke up and within 1/2 hour of taking it I was feeling so rough. But they don't want me to stop as they worry about a relapse. The risk to the heart has passed that would have happened within the first few weeks of pregnancy if there was going to be a deformity. But how can I go on like this? It's all a bit too much for me right now.

LucindaE Sun 01-Dec-13 18:48:56

Eggy Cross posted with you, too. That's the awful thing about this condition, a women with it get so used to feeling unnaturally terribly ill that when things improve all she can do is worry. I'm very confident things are OK.

LucindaE Sun 01-Dec-13 18:46:17

Livingzuid Poor you too, I lost my message for you. Glad you'll have a look at Bravissimo. I thought the 'Sophie' bra nice, but I don't know if they're still doing that one.

eggybrokenoff Sun 01-Dec-13 18:44:36

to offer some hope - this is my third hg pg. with ds 1 i had terrible treatment and was ill the whole way through. ds2 got admitted and actually given some good drugs that worked and i stayed on them all the way through but was able to live a normalish life after 20 weeks or so. this time hg, drugs early but sickness and nausea has abated quite a bit. i am 15 weeks. and terrified something is wrong with baby rather than enjoying it doh!

LucindaE Sun 01-Dec-13 18:43:39

Scheriouesly Welcome, I am so sorry that you have been bed bound with this dreadful thing. Don't feel guilty about work, you have to put
your and the baby's health first, and very few people manage to work in the first sixteen weeks at least with this (I take my hat off to those who do, but it must be hell). It doesn't sound like the GP's really understand the condition if they think it should have cleared by thirteen weeks, that's very unusual with this, for most people it starts improving between fourteen and twenty. You can't just pull yourself together and shake it off as those Dr's seem to be implying. The nausea is one of the worst things.
Totes Poor DS. How is he now?
Jen Oh, no, you poor thing. That isn't just a cold - it's a vicious virus, if it's the one going round here with prolonged sore throats and coughing. Do take care of yourself, and take pharacetemol to keep your temperature down says mother hen.
Sally How are you now? What a tedious business. I think they should have excused people who couldn't have a natural birth from making the visit.
Only1Scoop Oh no, that sounds so awful! The blood spurting out of mouth and nose is foul. Poor you, too.
Meerka Lol about DS insisting on reaching the world. It's rather sweet!
Five and a half years is certainly a long time. I remember it took my neighbour three years, and I admired how she didn't despair.
Hugs to all. Oh dear, Everyone seems to be in a bad way.

livingzuid Sun 01-Dec-13 18:43:38

scheri don't feel bad and change GP surgeries as yours sound like they have no clue what they are talking about.

I have spent all weekend in bed. Haven't moved today apart from to shower. All that stays down are McDonald's cheeseburgers and Nutella sandwiches. I tried a healthy dish for lunch and it came straight back up.

I am also off sick lots on a temp contract which finishes in 3 weeks when I go on leave and then end. To be honest I can't wait to not work any more. I feel like a shit mum and I have only just started the second trimester sad

You aren't alone please don't feel bad.

only that's good news though! Sign of things ending?

Only1scoop Sun 01-Dec-13 18:18:02

Scheri....I totally understand what you mean about the nausea....I have probably had my best day yet today been able to get out and eat a proper lunch. The nausea never actually goes for myself but the actual sickness has subsided a little.
It's my 2nd prg I have a dd 3 and I had it with her. At this point though I had been in hospital twice though so have avoided that so far this time. I think I get so low at times because I had it all the way through with dd and I fear it won't go again. Not meaning to make you feel worse as for some people it can dissapear.

I really hope it starts to improve for you. This thread is wonderful lots of lovely ladies with great advice I have picked up many tips on coping.

Let us know how you go x

Scheriously Sun 01-Dec-13 18:09:30

Thanks only1scoop I can't remember what I'm on now, but it's made a tiny difference but I find the nausea almost as hard as the sickness, and nothing I've tried helps. I just sleep a lot! The GP said seeing as they can't find a reason why I have it (thyroid okay, no twins) that I will probably have it if I get preg again (this is my 1st) and that it will get worse each time I get preg which is... Not a great thought! How are you getting on, has your sickness got better at all?

Only1scoop Sun 01-Dec-13 17:51:27

Jen poor you I hope you are able to rest and feel better soon thanks
I ventured out with dd for a nice country pub lunch and a walk. Managed roast dinner even a tiny bit of veg! Living....I'm with you on the tap diet Coke!!!! had a pint of it and felt much better.
Hope you are all as well as can be

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