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Me and the wife trying to concieve wife 44 myself 34

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fish6634 Wed 25-Sep-13 15:18:35

hi all first of all apologies for being male on here i can honestly say i havent seen any on here as of yet. I am only on here myself as i have been doing research into the chances of a 44 year old lady concieving naturally and the odds on the internet dont seem very promising and disappointing.

Having found this site via a google search on a lady concieving in her fourties and reading alot of your experiences on here i was wondering how many of you have concieved naturally? Me and my wife have been trying for 4 months so far paying close attention to ovulation and taking our vitamins haha. I have to admit however that it is crushing to watch her being so upset everytime a period comes along. Last month she had a very light period and so far this month she has complained of sore boobs, stomach cramps, she is making the bed too hot for me so her temp is up she has been moody and short, which believe it or not i am very happy about because they seem to be all the right signs. I annoyingly check once a week if she has had any symptoms but this week non..... However she isnt having any period pains either, due on monday. Thanks For having a read and if some could any my earlier question about concieving naturally in the fourties i would be grateful.


absentmindeddooooodles Mon 30-Sep-13 09:28:30

smile sounds like you are both doing all the right things then. Hope it happens for you both.

fish6634 Mon 30-Sep-13 12:38:56

Great story about your mum absentminded

meditrina Mon 30-Sep-13 12:42:28

Have you spotted the MN Conception forum?

It might help you to have a browse right there, and there is an over40s TTC chat thread that you/DW might like to join.

fish6634 Mon 30-Sep-13 15:37:00

no i havent seen that forum i will have a look into it smile. by the way whats all this DW/DH i realise the H is husband and the W is wife but whats the D?

meditrina Mon 30-Sep-13 15:39:54

D - conventionally 'dear' or 'darling'

On MN also 'dratted' 'damned' 'dreadful' 'dickhead' etc - depending on what they've just done.

catdoctor Mon 30-Sep-13 18:29:01

Hi fish we've managed it twice in our decrepitude; DS1 was conceived when I was 41 after approx. 12 months of not trying very hard, DS2 when I was 45 (due dec) after 11 cycles TTC; DH is 52.

We made a decision not to go for IVF/egg donation etc - mostly as we couldn't afford it, but I was (reasonably) content to say what will be will be; for us the genetic cards have fallen well. I think as others have suggested that it is a good idea to have as much info as poss regarding your fertility - provided it doesn't stress you out.

I used Fertility Friend software- free on line, which really helped me understand my cycle - DH was on meds for heart disease so, bless him, not up to much in the DTD department so I had to be really canny in timing stuff - and I think that really made a difference for us. I also used OPKs but I found them less useful - it was really about understanding my own body.

Very best of luck!!

duvetheaven Mon 30-Sep-13 21:14:49

I am 42 and DP is 46 and just conceived at first attempt making use of Clearblue Fertility Monitor and taking a cough medicine containing guaifenisin a few hours before 'doing the deed' as thins the mucus in the body. I would also recommend acupuncture.
I have a DD5 but have experienced miscarriages in the past so am not through first trimester yet so 'not counting my chickens yet'.
Some people recommend royal jelly / Chinese medicine.
Good luck

fish6634 Tue 01-Oct-13 09:08:05

today is the day which is suppose to be the beginning of time of the month and no pains etc so fingers and toes crossed!! catdoctor and duvetheaven thanks for sharing your stories and everyone else its great to know there is quite alot of hope out there. We have mainly only heard and been told negative facts, even telling family we are trying especially the DW (haha) family have been negative and stating her ages etc which hasnt made her feel great. Hope is good

BlackberrySeason Tue 01-Oct-13 09:12:48

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duvetheaven Tue 01-Oct-13 19:16:12

Good luck Fish - hope things work out for you both smile

fish6634 Wed 02-Oct-13 12:01:29

The dreaded time of the month arrived........ Gutted sad

Felyne Wed 02-Oct-13 15:35:18

Sorry x

ejctm Thu 03-Oct-13 23:59:38

41 and accidentally pregnant! Thought I was starting menopause, but not yet. It can happen to anyone without trying, so if you are trying then you are maximising your chances. Good luck!

jessandme Fri 04-Oct-13 00:28:12

fish I conceived at age 44 totally accidentally. He's 11 now, his brothers and sister are in their 30's LOL.
Keep trying don't get disheartened. I would agree with some other posters who suggested some basic fertility tests to be sure no problems beside the age thing.
Good luckxx

LyraSilvertongue Fri 04-Oct-13 00:49:53

I'm 19 weeks pregnant at 42. Conceived naturally within nine months. I'd say it's too early to be rushing to the doctor. Just keep having sex as often as possible.

Blu Fri 04-Oct-13 00:50:28

Hello fish6634, sorry to hear you were not lucky this time.

Pregnancy in the over 40s is very common - Cherie Blair, most of my NCT group (including me, I was 43) and loads of MN-ers. However, the crucial factor is not average stats or how many other people conceive, but whether YOU do.

Get advice from a Dr now - they may be able to help, and they may be able to give an indication of how likely a pregnancy is, so that you can plan and manage your expectations.

The very best of luck to you both.

tannyLoo72 Fri 04-Oct-13 08:33:12

I'm 41 and find it easy to get pregnant (sorry) but staying pregnant is the tricky bit. Our bodies are crazy things, and sometimes relaxing a bit, not trying too hard and enjoying each other can make all the difference.
I'm pregnant again (just) and I'll try to apply my own advice!
Good luck, and have fun!grin

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