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why the heck am i missing the thought of not being preg already

(23 Posts)
princesscupcakemummyb Tue 24-Sep-13 22:49:51

as it says im on dc3 im 34+3 and already thinking about how much im going to miss my bump !! shock am i mad or what lol anyone else feel this way?

MultipleMama Tue 24-Sep-13 23:20:57

Nope you're not mad. I'm 30 weeks and I love being pregnant despite all the chaos and complications this PG has caused. I'm already starting to miss having a small bump and watching it grow. We're already planning #7! in a few years time of course

Franykins Wed 25-Sep-13 09:56:46

I'm also 30 weeks and am going to miss being pregnant. I've been blessed with an easy pregnancy and have loved every min of it even my wobbly day yesterday

MultipleMama I wish DP would plan our next but I think he wants to stop at his 4, this will be my first 2 (twins) and I think he will not want more sad but I have to respect that I guess

princesscupcakemummyb Wed 25-Sep-13 14:30:20

multiplemama ive loved every bit of my pregnancy to and be sad to see my bump go haha love the fact your planning another already dh is more then happy for us to have more babys so i could have more grin

franykins im pleased to know im not the only one aww are u sure u cant convince your dp to have more my dh really dont need asking twice hes more then happy to have more lol smile x

Franykins Wed 25-Sep-13 15:02:10

Well princesscupcakemummyb when we first had the talk about kids I did say I wanted at least two, then stipulated I meant two pregnancies (did I have a premonition I would have twins even though they are not in the family haha) and he said ok. But now when people ask if we're gonna have more he says no we've done it in one go. So I guess I will have to wait and see. Of course there is the possibility I won't want more I guess. But I do have to understand he now has 4. Only time will tell I guess.

Lj8893 Wed 25-Sep-13 15:26:04

I'm 35+3 and won't miss being pregnant! But I will miss watching my belly wriggle! It will take me some time to adjust not feeling my baby in my belly.

princesscupcakemummyb Wed 25-Sep-13 16:05:53

i see what your saying franykins no twins in my family so im not that lucky lol smile

princesscupcakemummyb Wed 25-Sep-13 16:07:02

aww lj8893 well you never know i just enjoy the whole pregnancy thing smile

MultipleMama Wed 25-Sep-13 19:44:01

Franykins & princess - DH and I come from small families - sibling wise. We've always said we'll stop when we can't afford them. I'm very lucky to have a DH who's so laid back about having more than 4! I've been blessed with 2 sets! (1 MCMA & PG with DCDA). Hope your DH comes round, Franykins!

honey86 Wed 25-Sep-13 21:21:24

me abit.. cos im single again and dont know if ill get that chance again. was hoping for a nice pregnancy with a supportive partner to share it with like everyone else but that went t*ts up sad

PastaBeeandCheese Thu 26-Sep-13 06:54:51

I surprised myself by missing my bump last time. This is my last baby so will definitely miss it this time.

I was wallowing in the bath the day after having DD when I had a real, adrenalin releasing panic that the baby hadn't moved in over 24 hours. I swear my heart stopped beating with the horror. DD was beside me at the time. blush

MisselthwaiteManor Thu 26-Sep-13 07:49:16

I really miss my bump and my baby is 14 weeks old now! I still sometimes put my hand on my stomach and then realise there's nothing there.

Franykins Thu 26-Sep-13 09:52:01

You are very lucky MultipleMama I do hope that if I want another one DP will agree to it, but lets get these two born first haha.

princesscupcakemummyb Sat 28-Sep-13 11:15:58

PastaBeeandCheese funny isent it how we just miss our bumps im 35 weeks now and people keep asking me am i fed up yet do i want the baby out i said no im not fed up in the slightest i cant wait to meet my little boy but i love being pregnant and will def miss my bump oh my gosh haha odd isent it about the bump when its gone

Sadie204 Sat 28-Sep-13 21:02:18

I'm 21wks with DC4 and have discussed that this will be last one. Feel sad already that this will be last time we do the whole pregnancy thing. I love being pregnant! Watching bump grow, getting excited for each scan, feeling baby move and wriggle is the most amazing thing ever (well apart from holding your newborn for the first time!) We had discussed stopping after number 3 but then a missed period later and baby number 4 is on the way lol! Suppose I should never say never wink might bring it up in a few years time lol

Hyperhelpmum Sat 28-Sep-13 22:50:17

Had to read this as I'm total opposite and couldn't imagine ever missing bring pregnant! Then again been hospitalised with hyperemesis and felt ill entire way through. At a naturally small and active size 8 when not preg I hate being so cumbersome and big and slow. I hate bring kicked and punched in the pelvis and the heartburn..... Don't even get mt started! I just want my body back! I sound like such a whining horrible bag compared to you lot! Shame on me!!!!

MultipleMama Sat 28-Sep-13 23:20:40

Hyper - I feel like that most of time but I would still miss being pregnant (my first 3) not this bed rested crap and being hospitalized for oligohydramnios and IUGR. Hate feeling like this but would miss my bump even though I'd get to play sports again. smile

maggiethemagpie Sun 29-Sep-13 10:59:24

Although I have had a difficult pregnancy due to health issues and gave birth last week, I am kind of missing being pregnant. I am delighted to have the baby out of course, but it is a bit anticlimactic as I was just soooo excited about having her and now I have a feeling that life will never be that exciting again. We aren't going to have any more.

I do miss my bump a little too, and had a few phantom kicks where I thought I felt a kick and then realised I couldn't possibly have!

It's strange as a couple of weeks ago all I wanted was to get the baby out and stop being pregnant, I think it's just that I want to go through the whole birth experience again - the excitement, the joy of the arrival, the first few days getting to know the baby -and I know that'll never happen again in my life now.

I have a healthy baby though - I am too quick to forget how anxious I was in the whole pregnancy and particularly the last few weeks that something would go wrong/be wrong, so it's good not to have that anxiety anymore and know that it all worked out.

Kelly1814 Sun 29-Sep-13 11:55:00

I absolutely do not miss being pregnant (was v high risk and stressful) but I do really miss having a baby in my tummy.

Hyperhelpmum Sun 29-Sep-13 17:49:14

I think it must be due alot to the incredible high you feel when you have the baby and first meet it. As the endorphins drop you feel a bit like you miss something and it is of course that surge that was getting you through the last bit and helping you bond with the baby when it arrives. I will miss the build up and excitement but not the physical sensations!

maggiethemagpie Sun 29-Sep-13 18:59:34

I guess it's like anything - the more you look forward to it, the more the anti-climax when it's over. Not that it's really over - just the end of one era and the beginning of another.

Midwifeandmum Sun 29-Sep-13 20:48:33

I cried my eyes out a week after having dd1 and dh thot i was suffering from pnd. Lol. But i was upset to not be pg anymore. I had horrendous pg and birth (emluscs) and with dd2 i had another emluscs at 34 wks for grade 4 placenta praevia - so i never got to enjoy being pg that time either. I dont think u fully appreciate pg till its not there anymore l

Zoe xx

MultipleMama Sun 29-Sep-13 20:49:29

You both describe it perfectly.

DH told me this and it comforts me; "Your body is a safe haven for our children and when they're born it's like you've lost that role, you're no longer the home, the safe haven and it's sad because you can no longer feel them making themselves at home or kicking you because you made them uncomfy by laying differently but now you gotta think; it's a new beginning, we are now the protectors, their mentors and the faces they'll see and love instantly. Grieve for what it was but move on and make a new safe haven for them."

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