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you are HUGE arn't you?!

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sprite25 Thu 05-Sep-13 16:26:50

Ok I know this has been done so many times on here and when I read other peoples experiences I just thought it wouldn't bother me BUT...I am getting reeeally fed up with people having no shame in telling me how big I am. I was big (size 14) before I got pregnant but had lost over a stone in the run up to getting pregnant, I'm now at 27 weeks and cant believe how shameless people are in making comments to me! I've had my nan squeezing my hips and telling me I'm 'the size of a house, and its not all baby', one woman at work just flat out telling me I'm 'huge for only 6 months', another woman at work saying how massive I've got, how even my face is filling out and then pointing out to other colleagues (literally pointing her finger) about how big I am. I usually get on with this woman really well but every time I see her its like its all she can talk about! I know I shouldn't be such a sensitive little darling but I've always been self-conscious about my size/weight and sometimes it feels like people saying negative stuff like this to me gets me on a bit of a downer. I know I have put on weight but when I've been measured by my midwife she said I'm just under for my dates and that's fine and hasn't mentioned anything about my weight or size so thought it was all good now I feel like instead of liking my bumpy belly I feel like people are looking at me walking down the street thinking I'm just mega fat. Is it just that people forget what pregnant woman look like and that for some women its normal to not be stick thin with just a football bump??? Sorry for the long rant just had to get it out!

BangOn Fri 06-Sep-13 14:02:17

No doubt there are some people who just get a sad kick out of insulting pregnant women, but for most people I think they're just looking for a way to connect & doing it very clumsily. It's such an amazing, private thing we're doing & people want to be a part of it.

For the record i had a playground full of people commenting on my bump yesterday & had to keep trying to remind myself to smile & nod politely.

Definitely think we need a light hearted mn campaign entitled "All You Need to Say to a Pregnant Woman is "You Look Beautiful" '

afrikat Fri 06-Sep-13 23:12:45

Ha, we ARE all beautiful smile I love my bump and know I am going to miss it when it's gone. Won't miss the bloody comments tho.

Hyperhelpmum Sat 07-Sep-13 08:11:19

There are two people at work who comment on my bump independently and both are skinny to the point of looking ill, probably naturally so but you know when people are literally skin and bone. I'm naturally an 8-10 and 5ft 4, about a size 10 now at 30 weeks but third child and bump sticks right out. One of these women not only comments but just STARES at my tummy. I feel SO self conscious and have taken to holding bits of paper in front of my bump if going to photocopier or to get post nr her desk. She constantly says 'Ooo you're all bump' or 'look at that' or 'your bumps coming alongside' . Yes , it's a baby. It will grow and grow and grow and then come out! Sorry to high jack OP but any ideas of what I can do say? 'stop f'ing staring at me, I'm not a freak show' sounds a bit aggressive!

Hyperhelpmum Sat 07-Sep-13 08:12:18

Sorry ' bumps coming along nicely'!

MunchkinJess Sat 07-Sep-13 08:28:12

first time preggers here and I have never come across so many negative comments and predujice as I have while being pregnant. .its been a real sad eye opener...

before pregnancy I was 10.7 size 8/10 5ft3. I am now 34 weeks pregnant and have out on a total of 2 stone so far. I have suffered with weight problems all my life. I had a gastic bypass 7 years ago as I was severely obese and since then have always kept my weight down through the exercise and diet.

since getting pregnant its been hard getting my head around my changing body and weight gain.

one lady at work this week who is overweight and never been pregnant told me that I must clearly be carrying twins. when I said no she said oh must be a big baby thenenvy ...I had enough and said well I can clearly see you are a medical professional but just so you can sleep well tonight im due to give birth in 5 weeks, im measuring normal, normal weight gain and news flash the bump will get bigger as im cooking a baby in here not a roast dinner!!!! ..then I waddled away lol...ive had so many comments about how big or not big I am angry sad envy

justnapping Sat 07-Sep-13 08:38:50

I feel for you. Me and my bump were absolutely huge when I was pregnant and people commented on it all the time. Are you sure it's not twins blah blah. I actually started saying in a jokey(ish) manner - how rude! I'm growing a person in here! Which didn't stop all of the comments (did stop some) but also made me feel a bit better, without being too confrontational. I don't know why it's such a badge of honour to be tiny when you're pregnant?!

Sarahmains40 Sat 07-Sep-13 15:18:33

People can be horrible pregnant or not I don't ever think you can justify calling some one huge. If some one says that to you again just bite back saying at least my excuse is I'm pregnant, I'm a size 14 to 16 I'm only 8 weeks and I'm 5ft 2 so I am dreading people telling me I'm huge lol I think it would actually make me feel really down.

MunchkinJess Sat 07-Sep-13 16:25:15

I told someone the other day at work who asked if my partner was tall hence why I may be having a big babyenvy ...I said under this baby is a size 6 model so dont stress yourself ....ive had so so so many comments at work...

one of my fiances friends said to me oh your bigger than last week arent you..well yes captain obvious im hardly gonna get smaller as the pregnancy progresses. .. honestly I would never dream of saying such things to people

Sarahmains40 Sat 07-Sep-13 16:39:40

It's those mouthy idiots who would be upset straight away if you said summit to them, IDIOTS

Chrissy178 Sat 07-Sep-13 16:58:19

I'm 33 weeks now and my mum's gotten into the habit of calling me 'chubster' and 'fatty', then giggling like it's the funniest joke in the world. I just ignore her, she's quite chubby herself so I can't take the names seriously.

Ls271082 Sat 07-Sep-13 17:05:24

I've had similar - mostly at work too. I'm 38 weeks now and why people feel the need to comment is beyond me. Why do they think its ok to comment on weight suddenly. I would never dream of commenting on someone's appearance preg or not.

I've had -

I look like a tele tubby
How's the pie eating competition going
Greeted with 'hi fatty'
Is it twins
God u are ready to drop (at about 20 weeks)
U must have loads of stretch marks
You look in proportion - you've put on weight everywhere

Aargh - tossers!

mrspaddy Sat 07-Sep-13 17:09:20

Your mum... Oh that is not on...

With seven weeks to go you need to get her cheeks and say...' Oooohhh chubby chubby yourself' sorry.

SaucyJack Sat 07-Sep-13 18:53:33

I'm taking back my yesterday's comment now, seeing as earlier on DP came in when I was bathing, did a double take at my belly and went "Oh crikey, you really are pregnant aren't you?!" with a kind of shock look on his face.

sprite25 Mon 09-Sep-13 13:19:59

Was talking to another woman at work about a workmates wedding in October and when I said I didn't know what I would end up wearing, she looked me up and down and said 'a tent' im really starting to dislike the people I work with, not that I liked many of them in the 1st place.

MunchkinJess Mon 09-Sep-13 15:47:34

that is so rude did people not think before they speak?!?!...honestly cant wait till half of them are pregnant. ..not that I would stoop to their level but just so they know how it have your body high jacked and then have nasty comments made when you are at your most vulnerable !.... I have one who.keeps calling me fatso at work then has the cheek to say its a bit mean but cant help myself! ! charmingenvy

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