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What to do on mat leave before baby arrives?!(115 Posts)
I've got 4 days left of work and am getting a bit worried about what people DO on maternity leave before their baby comes? I have a feeling my baby will be late- it's due 17th Sept and I finish work this coming Thursday.
I'm a pretty active person (thought getting more tired and swollen by the second) and worried about being bored- especially if baby is very late! Obviously I know that I'll be slowing down anyway, and that once I've pottered about the house and watched a bit of telly that will be time killed, but I'm so used to doing stuff!
So far my list includes:
-do hypnobirthing (try it)
-swim/walk/cycle (one a day if I can)
-touch up paintwork around the house
-cook & freeze meals
-photography and art
-Bumps & Babies groups
I have already packed hosp bag (had a couple of trips away so had to be prepared), baby room is finished and I think we're pretty much prepared. I do have a few friends with children I can meet up with too.
Anyone got any bright ideas?
(ps I know that relaxing and enjoying my last few weeks of being just a person, not a mummy is really key too)
Forevergeek some v good ideas. What I end up buying for baby on bike does depend a little on finances as I'd like to buy a new bike :-) Clearly don't have enough already!
So from your last post, maybe look up baby seats for bike!
Also think of things you really like to do now, and research how you might be able to do them with baby
Ie: dh and myself both like running. So I spent about 2 weeks ( way too long!) researching running buggys/ trailers/ devices etc to use once baby was 6 months.
We also swam lots so I found out which pools locally were the warmest and we started going there with baby once born. One swims, one stays with baby in pool/ change and then swap over.
Both of these have been key for us and we still do now 3 1/2 years later, with ds1, and now ds2 also. ( although had to upgrade to a double jogger after all!)
I watched Pointless and Take That DVDs.
Pinterest is your friend here-cuppa, feet up, laptop/iPad on.
cuppatea that's a shame Got lots of things on my list now!
Day one of maternity leave was today. I had a lie in, then washed up (slovenly housewife didn't do it last night!), then sent a few admin-y emails before having a visit from a friend. I took him out cycling to show him how to get to the forest (and left him there to have a ride... not in a weird "left him in the woods alone" kind of way) and came back. I'm now chilling out before considering reading Hypnobirthing and planning to meet with some mumsnet friends next week
I spent a lot of time worrying about things I couldn't control like the birth etc. I wish I had spent those last weeks seeing more friends, dinner with my husband, reading books, a pedicure and sorting out online grocery shopping....the haircut is a v. Good idea.
I didn't have any with DC1. Left work on the Friday expecting two nice lazy weeks of maternity leave, and instead gave birth on Saturday morning.
No time to laze about with DC2, as DC1 was still a toddler.
DC3 was prem, so I was still working when I had him, and DH had to phone work to tell them I wouldn't be back for a while.
I'm finishing at 6 months this time, and keeping the nanny on, so I can have some time to myself. So looking forward to it!
I had a few sessions of acupuncture in those last couple of weeks. I wholeheartedly recommend it. And then when you go overdue get them to try and get baby moving! It was unbelievably relaxing.
Definitely have a haircut - you want to look OK without too much effort if you're in the hundreds of photos that people want to take of the baby.
Just enjoy doing ordinary things like nipping out in the car to get something from the shop; having a quiet read; sitting in the garden.
oh and if you want to breastfeed, read up as much as you can before. I was amazed after my first baby that noone ad told me to stop worrying and 'the birth' and 'the stuff' and start learning about breastfeeding. pretty much as soon as your baby is in your arms it all becomes about breastfeeding constantly and there's unfortunately not much good support in the nhs unless you are lucky. i'd reccomend having a good read of kellymom and a look at around this site and at these videos and find out where your nearest breastfeeding clinic, breastfeeding support group and lactation clinic is. That way if you are one of the unlucky ones who encounters problems, you will have some knowledge and be empowered to seek correct information and support when you are sleep deprived, in pain, hormonal and desperate. Not setting you up to fail here, you may encounter no problems: i didn't first time round. but if you are unfortunate enough to need help, prior knowledge is power.
You say you can't sleep because of discomfort but it may be that you can manage short naps easier when you are no longer working. So make sure that you give yourself some time each day just to relax and breathe and do not a lot.
I'll definitely have a think about work stuff- though my funding currently continues to March 2015 (I work for a charity) so I feel pretty confident!
Good idea about the mummy friends- I'm working on being a bit too forwards with all new mummy-to-be friends I meet!
Ooh and if you have an NCT or other baby-class group, set up a Facebook group page - one of our lot did this and it was a lifesaver, esp in the early days when we didn't know each other well enough to call around to see who wanted a catch up.
We still use it loads two years later, seeing who's around for a meet up or to pick each others brains on stuff.
Widen your social circle of people you can socialise with after the baby is born.
I didn't do this, and was crawling up the walls with boredom and frustration - going from a busy, stimulating job to being at home with a demanding baby and no adult company almost drove me mad. I was back in work very quickly as a result!
Looking back, if I'd had more people I could socialise with, it would have been easier and more enjoyable.
Nah - but 6/12 months is a long time to be out of the office. Assuming that you want to return either because you love your job or financially need to [if you have no intention of ever going back then please do ignore me you lucky thing], then it's a really good idea to write down all the stuff you are good at professionally just before you leave work, or when you are at home in the first few weeks.
I kid you not, if you have to sit in an interview 12 months from now and someone asks you about your "recent achievement", you will not be able to remember a single thing except reciting The Gruffalo in the dark/removing and cleaning up a poo explosion without transferring it onto you etc etc.
If you are unlucky enough to be one of the many people on here who's employment goes south while on maternity leave you will be really glad that you took the time to prepare yourself for interview/start your own business while you had the time to do it without the stress of doing it while juggling a small child and a brain which is still mostly engaged .
I know it's not what you started this thread for so sorry but I wish someone had told me not to count on a return just because I was told I was a valued member of the team
Get a haircut. when i was having my twins it was something i forgot about until the last minute-then couldn't get an appointment. I didn't manage to get it done for 6 bloomin' months. and go for a pedicure-i couldn't reach my feet so it was bliss (DH can't even cut his own toenails without chucking, so he was useless).
take my advice or don't, but don't be offended by my honesty! it is meant to be helpful and my response is hardly why people afraid of MN (and most of what you said does not describe the type of person I am).
I'm sorry you can't sleep, PSD is a bitch.
if you have it I'm not sure about long walks and breast stroke swimming is definitely a bad idea.
I don't know if you have tried osteopathy yet, it did help me a lot.
I know you are anxious to get things done, but please don't overdo it.
I wish you a lovely time for these last few weeks and a quick and safe delivery of your baby!
It absolutely flies by so just enjoy the quiet, peaceful time and doing stuff for yourself. Relax, read, cinema, some batch cooking definitely and a hair cut all good. I was a week early despite being sure I'd be late so mine went all too quickly.
A bit at your OTT response to Zing...
Anyway! Just adding my tuppence - I got a whole three days of my four weeks maternity leave as DS decided to show up rather early! I really hadn't expected that and was completely caught off guard. I wish I had been a Scout - Be Prepared!
However, it sounds like your house is ready and you've got most things prepped, well done! Mine was a tip, I was supposed to get it all sorted in that 4 weeks... Ha.
Anyway - things I most wished I'd done were read a few baby sleep books, as by the time I needed them I had no time to read. Things like the No Cry Sleep Solution etc, would have been so much easier to take in without a baby screaming in my ear (literally, DS was a Velcro baby).
Also I wanted to do a baby journal and photo album, these things got left by the wayside in those early months, and can't really be backdated.
If you find yourself stuck on the sofa cos you're physically exhausted but frustrated - try putting a family tree together for your DC. It takes a fair bit of effort, but you'll at least be 'resting' at the same time.
I hope the baby moves down soon and eases your discomfort.
Ranitidine can work wonders, do ask your GP for help.
oooh.. just another thing to add quickly.. take photos of your bump on a daily basis, I've been told that its amazing to look back and see how your bump makes the drop in the last couple weeks (it also proves to your kid that they were not adopted when they become a teenager and scream 'must be adopted' heheh)
goodasitgets I've had a friend offer to come around and do me a foot massage and pedicure post baby! How amazing!? :-) Can't wait to take her up on that!
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