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34 weeks and can't get to/tidy up my bits. Any tips??

(31 Posts)
Tiredemma Wed 07-Aug-13 19:04:14

I dont recall this being a huge issue when I had DS1 (age 12) or DS2 (age 10). Really struggling to tidy up my nether regions and currently housing something that looks like a dead cat.

In the grand scheme of things in life I don't suppose this is a life or death situation, but really don't fancy going in to give birth in the state I am at the moment.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sat 10-Aug-13 20:55:34

step only just read your reply. My bikini days are over grin I know what you mean.

I also know what you mean about being conditioned into not liking hair. I didn't do a thing to mine till I was about 25, not even trim it. Then I just got really used to having no hair, it feels odd to have hair now but it didn't bother me one little bit till I started waxing.

stepmooster Thu 08-Aug-13 09:41:25

Hi when I don't just wax for the doctors either, just the way I've been conditioned I suppose that hair is disgusting etc.

But tbh DH has been asking me for a while to let things be a bit more natural.

I do try to avoid in grown hairs, but sometimes they happen. I never knew they could become abscesses.

Personally speaking once the birth is over and abscess completely gone, I'm never waxing again.

My bikini days are already over!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Thu 08-Aug-13 08:50:36

step that post made me cringe. I don't wax for the medical profession, I do it because I feel cleaner and fresher afterwards. This is obviously really important after the birth, I was hairy last time and felt disgusting.

I think I'll go for daily exfoliation, I've got the gloves already.

gillybeandramaqueen Thu 08-Aug-13 07:46:28

I'm almost 34 weeks and last night I got my darling to clipper my treasure trail!!! Keeps it short and trim but avoids the jaggy stubble growth... think I will get him just to do that til post-birth when I'm able to shave /wax again... :-D

crumpet Thu 08-Aug-13 05:06:42

I didn't bother- not sure it occurred to me with either of mine. I let the midwife get on with it, particularly for cs no 2 - shaving/ veering a CS scar would not have been something I'd have felt brave enough to do (still not 7 plus year later), but anyway, I don't remember thinking about it

stepmooster Thu 08-Aug-13 04:39:46

Ladies, just bear in mind that we have extra sweat, and discharge down 'there' along with increased pressure from the baby making things more swollen.

I just had an abscess removed from my labia caused by a blocked sweat gland or ingrown hair. I got a lecture by the gynaes on the maternity about how not keeping things natural down there causes a higher risk of abscesses. The medical staff genuinely don't care about our lady gardens, and I felt like a massive idiot.

Having an abscess removed is incredibly painful and of course our pain relief options are limited. I'm on 2 sets of antibiotics, which have now given me thrush, along with having stitches which I am praying heals the wound enough before I give birth at the end of the month.

I just wish I could rewind time and put the veet down. sad

SupermansBigRedPants Thu 08-Aug-13 01:02:24

I'm 39+ 3 and have to do some wild gymnastics to get to mine blush I'm ginormous and unfit at the best of times never mind now, I found hair at the top of my legs the other day I must have been missing it for months shock had to 'lift' my bump to see it!

I find lying down and feeling my way around is best ;) df refuses to do it in case he cuts me <terrifying>

SeriousStuff Thu 08-Aug-13 00:30:20

I went at mine with scissors tonight for the first time in about 5 months...couldn't see a thing and had to guide the scissors with the other hand. It feels much tidier but I'm sure it's pretty patchy!

BunInMyOven93 Wed 07-Aug-13 23:48:13

fakebook exfoliate everyday? Even're a bit bushy? May try! (never thought id be chatting online about my pu-wabs!!)

Fakebook Wed 07-Aug-13 23:39:50

If you exfoliate every day in the shower with exfoliating gloves (best things ever created) then you don't get itchy stubbly regrowth and it leaves your body feeling nice and smooth too smile.

HaroldLloyd Wed 07-Aug-13 23:38:59

I had a few hacks at mine with a razor it probably looked like a badger that had been run over.

DaleyBump Wed 07-Aug-13 23:36:09

Nobody is being silly curlew. Maybe you have to accept that what you're comfortable with is different to what others are comfortable with. The OP didn't ask how to accept her full bush, she asked how to get rid of it so your comment is not only un helpful but silly in itself.

Hagrid's beard grin 23+4 and have lost all sight of my privates, so right now I'm running wild but DP has promised to help me out soon smile

BunInMyOven93 Wed 07-Aug-13 23:29:55

curlew i think its a case of each to their own smile

valiumredhead Wed 07-Aug-13 23:28:18

Think I prefer hair to stubbly itchy regrowth!

curlew Wed 07-Aug-13 23:20:15

Or just accept that adult women have pubic hair and stop being silly about it !

BunInMyOven93 Wed 07-Aug-13 23:14:00

Im 23 weeks atm so im managing ok for now!! (when i can be bothered lol!) dp has promised to help me when i get too big though! Loving the hillarious descriptions though so marking to read through! :p

Newmum0113 Wed 07-Aug-13 23:07:56

I personally like to keep tidy downstairs too, usually a Brazilian if I've got the money, a Gillette if I haven't smile

I haven't been able to do either since having surgery a couple of months ago - waxing obviously would pull open the wound, and I can't put too much pressure to pull up and look so I can't shave either IYSWIM.

DH did shave a bit at the top for me when he was changing my dressings after surgery but I was a bit blush as I'm usually neat! Couldn't get him to do the full Hagrid, as another poster called it!

It isn't about the doctors seeing for me as such, I just find it more comfortable to be clean and fresh. I imagine childbirth is pretty hot work - need all the help I can get to stay cool!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Wed 07-Aug-13 23:07:28

Fakebook is so right about the blood and sweat after giving birth.

I was two weeks early with dd so didn't get chance to tidy things up before birth. Having your neither regions bathed in blood and encased in an enormous sanitary towel for 4 weeks is just repulsive when you add pubic hair into the mix .

DaveMccave Wed 07-Aug-13 23:07:17

"He's going to emerge into the world like those kids entering narnia through a load of old fur coats"

Best description ever.

I didn't have a problem first pregnancy. Haven't been able o see or reach for ages this time. I abandoned my landing strip and just went in blind and took it all off. I'm sure it looks terrible and I miss patches, but what I don't know can't hurt.

LindsayS79 Wed 07-Aug-13 22:45:46

Hair removal cream and a mirror!!! Although goodness knows what state it was actually in as I'm sure I overdone it in parts due to struggling to see!! I prob had uneven bald patches where I didn't mean to. hopefully it helped the doc do her stitches LOL!

Fakebook Wed 07-Aug-13 21:19:22

Use a mirror or just feel with your fingers where you need to shave?!

I always start clearing up a week before I'm due and just feel around and do it over a couple of days.

I don't do it for the doctors, I do it for myself because I would hate the feeling of the heavy flow of blood and sweat in my pubic hair straight after childbirth and the weeks that follow.

Tiredemma Wed 07-Aug-13 21:17:10

mines like hagrids complete head.

BroodyAndMoody Wed 07-Aug-13 21:07:09

DH dealing with Gandalfs Beard in my house too grin

FreckleyGirlAbroad Wed 07-Aug-13 20:40:37

Dh's job from now on!!!

TruJay Wed 07-Aug-13 19:35:48

Haha I know how u feel, I don't exactly usually have a brazilian or anything but I like to keep trim. I'm only 28 weeks but I'm struggling, I wouldn't really be that bothered but as well as my hubby, my best friend and lovely 'auntie' to my son and bump is my second birthing partner this time around and I just keep saying to her as long as u understand I don't usually look such a state down yonder lol she says she doesn't plan on looking at I'm sure she will when the moment comes. I don't really have any advice to be honest as I'm in the same position

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