How's Bump??? And other inane questions...(165 Posts)
OK, so they're maybe not all inane, but I must be asked 'how's bump?' about fifty times a day!!!
How do I reply?? 'Bumpy', 'Fine' or instead provide them with a 20 minute assessment of my current pregnancy status?
Other crackers are - 'Does the bump hurt? and 'What can you eat?'
So come on ladies... what other questions really 'get your goat'???
Disclaimer - This is just for fun, I know most people are just genuinely being curious...
Chickpea someone at work today asked me "How's you're pregnancy going?". I agree, it just feels like a really weird, clinical question. Bleugh.
Mind you, he's the same socially awkward so and so who asked me if I'd had any pregnancy fetishes I think he meant cravings, but I had to bite my tongue really hard.
Depending on who's asking, my answer to the question how am I doing is either "tired and hot" or "tired and grumpy"
My DH's 95 yr old Granny keeps asking what my cravings are, beginning to grate a little now but I'll let her off due to age!
So glad I'm not the only one getting sick of being asked how bump is. I am going to use the answer 'bumpy' from now on though, that's brill!
The other annoying thing I'm finding at the moment is people asking 'so are you going to find out the sex?' when I answer with 'yes!' I get a very shocked 'are you really?'
Why the hell did you ask me if you can't handle my answer!!
I got asked 'where's the baby?'
I pointed at my stomach and said 'erm, in there!'
She'd got me confused with another mum who'd had her baby the previous day
Luckily I've only been asked that question once so far haha
"So have you got everything you need?" Yes thanks, everything. I don't plan on shopping ever again.
Not so much asked but told by an older gentleman...
"Make sure you get the tablet after this one"
This is my first pg at 32yrs old.....
You grumpy lot. I've been asked how's bump, or how I'm coping in the heat. Never occurred to me to be offended or bored by the questions.
Nice to be asked to be honest.plenty of so called friends are basically ignoring the fact that I'm pg, so its nice that people are asking how I am.
On the other hand... Comments on my size are not welcome thanks (with you all on that) and will be met with a snarky remark.
TickTock I resorted to a pout and 'Not a puppy' in response to 'what are you having?'
Current favourite (not) is 'Surely you've stopped being sick now?!' No, I have HG... I am still a human vomit machine. Go away.
oh your bump is small
those horemones are awful arent they?
how are you coping with the heat?
whats your craving?
oh your 3rd thats alot you will be busy
did you want a boy or a girl this time (having a boy after 2 girls)
hope your eating enough
you shouldnt do that your pregnant!
lots as you can see lol
Favourite answer with dd(4)
"what are you having?"
"Hopefully a baby, but dp keeps banging on about a dog"
I hate the question/statement
I suppose you'd like a boy this time!?
So rude, I don't mind if it's a boy or a girl Im not going to say yes I already have a girl now I want a boy! That would be a shut thing to say and your a shit for thinking it. Bugger off!
Thanks for letting me vent that OP x
Best question so far was by a colleague that I don't speak to on a daily basis but thought it ok to ask me in a open planned office quite loudly " have you hit the constipation stage yet?".
I don't mind people asking the inane questions I know (most) people mean well. What I REALLY CAN'T STAND is people
advising instructing you on what you should and shouldn't be doing. "Should you be eating that?", " you don't want to waste your money on xyz" blah blah blah
I don't mind the cravings/coping with heat etc questions. What I hated was when I was still at work (on maternity leave for the last 3 weeks) and one co-worker I barely knew said 'Getting bigger every day' every.single.time.she.saw.me.
My answer was always 'yes thanks, it's because I'm growing a human being in there!' grr.
I don't mind general interest but I seem to get the exact same questions from everyone, since the pg was announced, repeatedly from friends and family and strangers. and they drive me insane:
'Are you excited?'
'Is dp excited?'
'Is dd excited?'
'Have you got everything ready?'
What do they want me to say? That I'm dreading it? Do they want me to squee?! I get asked so many times that I can't even fake the enthusiasm. I am excited, the question just bores me to death making me sound unconvincing which is awkward.
'Do they want me to squee' - this is so true! I AM very excited...inside. But I'm not the high pitched 'eeeeeee' 'my life is amazing!!' 'let me breathlessly talk about my amazing pregnancy' type, and don't want to tempt fate, and am aware that things may go wrong, so always come across as a little flat.
Also, one very darling friend of mine always asks me (in front of all our other male and female friends) whether my boobs have grown since she last saw me
Oh I'm feeling left out, I hardly ever get asked about it, occasionaly get asked how my stomach is/ how the alien is, to which my reply is always - OK but baby and breakfast are having a fight if I run to the toilet you know who won!
Any other time I mention it (i.e. if I can't physically do something), I tend to get a blank look and then - oh yeah forgot you were preg. (34wks so its not like I'm not showing)
Oh how I long for the inanne questions, I guess there is no pleasing us preggos
And there was me feeling awful because when the same other mother at the childminder asks how I'm doing I've realised I've only given weather related answers for the past two months.
The trouble is I seem to have lost all small-talk skills since getting so hot and uncomfortable, so say the first thing that comes into my head. Being English, that's the weather
I've forgotten what wound me up in pregnancy, I think it was just the same questions over and over and over again. 'Is it kicking?' and 'what are you craving?' I once stuck a notice on the bulletin board "I'm fine, babys fine, no morning sickness, no kicks today, and no new cravings!'
What bugs me now is the question everyone seems to ask...
'Is he a good baby?'
No, at 3 months he's setting fire to stuff, joyriding and swears too much'!
Dp wants me to say the above, I just go with 'yes'!
My mother keeps making little comments about me having a "belly".
I lost it a bit the other day and said "Stop! How would you like it if I said 'your boobs are massive!'?"
I really hate this about pregnancy. I know people are just trying to be nice, but I loathe the constant questions and obvious looks at my abdomen. And if my sister tries to fucking GRAB my bump one more time, while laughing about how I won't let her touch it so she'll just do it anway, I will not be responsible for my actions.
I'm 36 weeks and people are now asking me, 'Are you nervous/scared/dreading the birth?' Really charming question, especially from people you barely know xx
Queasy - that's the one thing that annoys me too. I actually quite like the questions and don't mind people touching my bump, it's such a joyous event that I find it all the more lovely others are interested, but I DO NOT want to hear your birth stories thank you very much!!!! I'm trying for a Hypnobirth and currently very much excited about and looking forward to the big day, please don't undo all the hard work I've put in and try scare me with your thoughtless comments about how 'oh so horrible' your birth was!!! And breathe....!!!!
Ahhhhh SO TRUE.
At work, I get a lot of "Soooo, not long to go now?!" (said with a sort of wink and a nod at my bump, as if I might have misunderstood).
I've also had "You've still got 7 weeks to go?! But you're huuuuuge!" and the bafflingly inane "Ooh, you look like you're geting bigger every day!". i am honestly confused as to what to say to this one.
It's the non pregnant people that are unable to sleep in this heat that grate on me.
There's one guy at my work, who everyday moans about how unbearable the heat is and that it's soooo hard to sleep. Try being just as hot, having to wee at least every hour and having a baby kick you from the inside every time you get comfortable before you moan at me about being too hot!!!
He even moaned that much last week, that his line manager sent him home, when he came in the next day, our CEO had bought him a bloody desk fan!!!!
Sorry, can you tell it gets to me a bit
I genuinely don't mind people asking me questions about my pregnancy, But I do hate the question 'was it planned'... there are so many judgements either way with that, and its plain rude!! They might as well be asking 'did you stupidly plan a pregnancy or are you just shit with contraception!' lol. I am constantly being asked if it is my first, to which the answer is no, my third. 'THIRD??!!? You dont look old enough!!!' (I am nearly 30).
Not pregnancy related, but I hate being constantly asked who has my children when I am at work. Errrm the same as other bloody people who have kids and work, eg school, childminder, grandparents! I don't see why people are so bloody well concerned what my childcare arrangements are!! GRRRR... I bet there is not a man in history who has been asked this question.
That reminds me... I also get... 'wow, your boobs are going to be HUGE by the end aren't they'? Just because they were a fair size to start with!
How am I meant to know how big they'll be? Why do you care about my chest measurements anyway??
maybe I should comment on their boobs/ man bits!
Also the other day I had a friend who I hadn't seen for a while, come straight up to me and LIFT MY DRESS UP to get a look at the bump!! Way worse than the sneaky grab!!
All of the above - I'm trying really hard not to get annoyed as I know people are just being nice and showing an interest, but yes answering the same question a dozen times a day is annoying.
Whats really getting on my goat at the moment though is people asking how long I have left, then looking disbelieving when I say 9 weeks - 'oh, you look ready to pop!'. No I don't, I look pretty average for a 7 month pregnant woman - you do understand there is a human being in my stomach right?
Oh, and woman in the office commenting 'its surprising more women don't die during childbirth really isn't it?'. Brilliant, cheers for that
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