Good things about a newborn/ new motherhood?(68 Posts)
So I'm 8 days overdue with dc1, and realistically have to face up to the fact that the baby wil be here sooner rather than later . I've had a difficult pregnancy and although I can't wait to meet the baby, I'm worried about PND and how Dh and i will cope with the lack of sleep and general chaos. We are as prepared as we can be with baby stuff and advice but I'm very scared --- everyone is keen to tell us how hard it's going to be.
Can anyone give me some good news? What is nice about being a a new mum? What did you enjoy about having a new baby? I know it will be hard but surely there must be some good bits?
The moment your baby is put on your chest is the most amazing moment of your life. There is nothing that compares!
The smell of your baby's head is the most delicious smell ever.
You can spend hours cuddling your baby on the sofa/ in bed/ anywhere. There is nothing better to do!
Everyone tells you how hard it is, and yes it is extremely hard and the lack of sleep is a killer, but be positive and think of how lovely new babies are and how much joy your baby will bring. Don't dwell on the negatives!
Good luck! Xxx
Ooh I'm so jealous reading your post, the early days are the best! My first was also a summer baby and it was so nice, sitting eating lunch out the back while she slept in her buggy. Enjoy every minute
Baby cuddles are the best cuddles. The feeling of 'I grew you' when you look at your tiny newborn. The triumph of getting the hang of feeding and soothing.
Then later on watching him/her develop their own personality, smiling, gurgling and babbling, growing out of their newborn clothes.
It makes it all worth it
The early days are amazing - I LOVED them, despite the lack of sleep. You need to get to know the little one and so don't worry if you do it wrong / right. All they need is food, love and comfort. Everything else they get from you is a bonus!
My best advice is not to listen to any advice seriously, take on board what makes sense to you, and smile and nod at the stuff you don't instinctively agree with!
You'll be surprised how natural it'll come to you.
I always said, dd didn't change my life she just added to it and made it more amazing that it already was.
My dd is 3 weeks old and I don't think it's possible to get bored of looking at her and cuddling her
The only advice I would give you is to ignore the housework and make the most of having a beautiful tiny baby
Thank you all - it's wonderful to read your positive experiences! Am looking at the pile of baby clothes with a bit of a tear in my eye ...
Hello my dd is a week today and it has flew by!!
The first few days are just adjusting to a different routine, but your body is excellent at coping with lack of sleep,
You'll wonder what all the fuss was about!!
I remember feeling very lonely in the middle of the night while the world slept but I didn't realise that it was for a very short time and des was sleeping through or at least till 6am at 12 weeks so remember that all the hard bits are really short term & it's gets easier every day! Best of luck, it's such an amazing time
I found pregnancy much harder then having a newborn both times. Although everyone said it would be v hard I didn't find that it was - yes it was v tiring and with ds1 a v steep learning curve but it was also amazing just watching the little life that you created. The first two nights with ds1 I didn't sleep because I just stared at him in amazement (the first two nights with ds2 I didn't sleep because he wouldn't - slightly different though still wonderful second time around).
I felt that suddenly my life had meaning, a meaning I didn't realise was lacking beforehand.
When your baby falls asleep on you it's just lovely, the close intimacy of feeling them breathe is beautiful. I still love it when ds1 (4.3yo) falls asleep on me which is v rare these days.
Fresh 'from the oven' baby smell. Just looking at how perfect your baby is. Cooing. First smile. Smiles. Baby sleeping on my chest. Other people making tea for you
The lack of sleep sounds infinitely worse than it is because your hormones help you adjust to cope. In fact, maybe I was lucky, but I found having a newborn far, far less stressful than going to work. Good luck.
You can put their feet in adult size shoes and it's very funny.
Also when you are breastfeeding you can watch a lot of tv or films with no guilt.
I felt just like you & was also overdue. I couldn't really see the upsides but just sort of took it on trust when people said 'its worth it'
6 months on & its been best 6 months of my life! DS now sleeps from 7-7 & has done for a while, he grins and grins, & has done since 6 weeks old. It's like getting a puppy X a gazillion. I was about breast feeding before. thought i'd do 3 months under sufferance but did it for 6 months as it wasn't so tricky as I thought, I enjoyed it & really wanted to do the best for my son. Everything's been a bit like that.
I can only describe the hard bits as rather like revision for exams, a necessity but not the most memorable part of being a student.
Perhaps having very low expectations of the whole thing has made me pleasantly surprised. No one can explain what the love feels like.
DD2 is two weeks old. I am really enjoying this newborn time as, even with a full-of-beans toddler around (who still wakes 3-4 times a night and needs to be carried back to bed and settled back to sleep), I now have the pleasure of doing the 'early days' with the benefit of hindsight, a feeling and understanding I wish I could bottle and give to all new mums who worry about how they will cope with sleep deprivation etc. This time around I just know that I will, and it is so reassuring to know that I can just relax into being a bit tired and fuzzy around the edges (it's not as if I'm going to be operating air traffic control or performing brain surgery) and eat this particular elephant a little chunk at a time. One hour / meal time / night at a time, I think that's how you do it. If all you manage in a day is a shower, washing up and putting a pizza in the oven, well done! And really, do try to catch a few zzz's when your baby is napping; I never bothered with DD1, but this time I am finding those catnaps totally magical!
And as for what is lovely with a newborn; so, so soft and floppy, that little lolling head... When you have the first eye-gazing moments, looking into your baby's eyes and knowing that they're seeing you too. It is really lovely and quite surprising how enthusiastic some people get about the birth of your baby and you might find yourself on the receiving end of some very sweet acts of kindness.
Having my first baby was like the feeling I got on Christmas day as a child except that boxing day never came...I had never felt so tired but so happy. Neither of mine were good sleepers and we still see them at night now (5 & 3 yrs) but it doesn't matter to me. It is so wonderful to love another human being in the way a child lets you love them.
DS1 is two weeks two days today. The last fortnight has honestly been the most amazing time of my entire life, and nowhere near as bad as I expected it to be. Yes it's tiring etc but more rewarding than I ever imagined - and all he does is eat and sleep!
Good luck and enjoy - the days are whizzing past...
Thank you all so much! You never hear the good things - only the hardships and the struggles. I might even be looking forward to this!
The first moment when you see your baby and hear her cry is amazing. Something just instantly changes and the instant love you feel is something no one can ever describe.
The skin to skin.
Snuggling into you and just having this little baby in your arms so trusting.
There's so much more but there's alot of baby talk and its making me broody and my Dc isn't even 1
When they first look you in the eye as if to say "where the hell am I and who the hell are you"
Babies head smell great, bums not so much.
Having the time to study your new miniature scale human.
It is hard but lovely at the same time.
Don't do any housework unless you absolutely have to. (I'm a bit of a clean freak and I think trying to be supermum doing everything contributed to pnd ... I had pnd with dd and ten yrs later I had ds and gave myself completely to focusing on him and I found life much easier).
Get out as much as you can when they are little and sleep lots because when they get to ds stage now 13 months and don't want to sit in a buggy at all its bloody hard work!
The cuddles! Cuddles from your tiny person are the best thing ever. And when he or she does their first smile - wow, it squeezes your heart ! My DS is 12 weeks now and today he put his arm round my neck when I picked him up. It was probably completely by accident but it was amazing just the same! OP you have the most joyful time ahead of you.
I'm glad op that you started this thread, I can't add any positives as pregnant with my first and like you I'm scared how I will cope and I'm fed up of people already saying how hard it will be.
I think people just like to say the bad bits and they never say the good bits. Such lovely positive stories xx
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