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Pregnant with Number 2 and I just can't connect

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Katzia85 Tue 02-Jul-13 22:46:13

I am really worried as I am 20 weeks pregnant with my second child, and whilst I am happy about giving my first child a sibling and adding to our family, I cannot connect my heart to what's going on in my body and the inevitable of another baby arriving at the end of the year.
I am hoping when the kicks really start, that I will start feeling a bit more connection, but right now it just feels bizarre like I know I am pregnant and my body is showing I am pregnant but something is just not associating this with me.
With my first I was so excited and used to revel in every aspect of pregnancy - I think it was a new novelty.

I feel so bad even saying this out loud, but I just wonder if I am totally on my own with this and for someone to please say something clicks eventually.


Northernlurker Tue 02-Jul-13 22:49:28

You're not alone. Lots of people feel like that. It's much harder to connect with an unknown child when you have your delightful pfb in front of you. It WILL kick in eventually. I know my mum has told me that whilst she bonded with me instantly she found it much harder with my sister. Personally I know I bonded more quickly with dd2 and dd3. Everybody's different. You aren't a bad mum for feeling this. It's just a weird quirk of nature.

quertas Tue 02-Jul-13 23:10:16

Katzia, I was you three weeks ago. Happy second pg but had no sense of connection to the baby- found him kicking downright annoying actually. He's now 2 weeks old today and I'm crazy about him. Don't worry and don't be hard on yourself, there's plenty of time for bonding after your baby's born

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