Early pregnant and worried

[Londongirl84]

Hi there,

I am 4 weeks 6 days pregnant and am terrified something is going to go wrong. This is my first pregnancy. Can anyone relate to my worries and/or offer advice? x

[heidihole]

I think probably EVERYONE in the history of the world with a (wanted) pregnancy can relate to your feelings :)

[Holly94]

Hi Londongirl :) first of all, congratulations! just thought I'd share my story to give you a little bit of reassurance. I was terrified of things going wrong. (And still am!) I got pregnant on the pill and mixed all my dates up so I thought I'd be 6 weeks. I went to A&E with bad pains and got an early scan. Nothing to be seen on the scan. Had a blood test which came out at a hcg level of 230 and I was told to come back in 2 days to see if it was doubling normally. They told me to expect it to be ectopic or to start bleeding. Went back 2 days later and it had more than doubled! Had a scan on Sunday and they found my tiny baby with a beating heart and put me at about 6-7 weeks. After all those weeks of worrying it turned out I'd just been too early.
Just take it easy and don't panic!!! I'm sure on your first scan you'll see that everything is okay just remember the worry is natural!

[Londongirl84]

I thought that would be the case... :)

I'm just worried about every symptom/lack of symptom and can't bring myself to beleive that there is actually anything in there!! X

[Londongirl84]

Thank you Holly94. Congratulations to you too! How lovely that you've seen a beating heart. Hope so much I get to that stage.... x

[Holly94]

Trust me I know the feeling! Even now when my symptoms go away for a bit I panic but it's normal for them to come and go, especially in the early stages. I'm sure you will!
I know exactly what you mean about not being able to believe there's something in there.. It didnt become real for me until I saw it on the screen!
Your body is growing another human being, there's nothing more amazing. So take care of yourself and try not to worry too much :)

[heidihole]

Dont worry, symptoms didn't kick in for me until week 6 with my first. I'm now on my second and 5 weeks and still no symptoms at all. Don't worry...you'll be hugging the toilet bowl before long!!

[Londongirl84]

Thank you heidihole! Congratulations to you.

My worry was heightened this morning as I fell on my way to work (so clumsy today!!!) and spent the morning on the phone to NHS direct who basically told me not to worry as I landed on my hands, elbows, knees... my worry reached new levels!!!

I'm not sure I will stop worring until I have a healthy baby in my arms. x

[CornishFirstTimer22]

I felt exactly the same. Panicked when I didn't have symptoms, felt rotten when I did. Also constant checking, boob squeezing to see if they still hurt, googling odds etc etc...

It's so hard, but you just have to trust in your body. If your little bean is meant to be ok they will be. The odds are good, and there's not a lot you can do otherwise.

I followed the 'week by week' developments religiously and found that helped too.

Then if you really feel like you need reassurance, in a few weeks you can have an early scan, I paid about £60 for one at 9 weeks and it helped so much to see the little heart beating :-)

Good Luck LondonGirl - hopefully all will be well - enjoy it as much as you can, it's an amazing experience :-)

[Holly94]

Haha Cornish that's exactly what I'm like! Constantly touching my boobs at work to see if they're still tender and dashing to the loo every 5 mins at home when I've got mild cramps to check if there's any blood.

LondonGirl, not sure how reassuring this is to you but it definitely helped me, especially when I didn't know what was going on with my baby. I kept telling myself what is meant to be will be, and that if something did (and trust me, the odds are very much in your favour of everything going to plan) go wrong, then it's down to my body realising that something is wrong with the baby. I'm sure everything will be fine, it's always worrying before that first scan.

[Londongirl84]

It's so funny to hear that other people are as mad as I am with the 'boob checking' etc. I was thinking that I was actually going crazy!! Thank you to you all for your lovely replies. I wish poas was a guaranteed baby and none of us ever had to worry. I thought as soon as I saw those 2 lines all my prayers would be answered- it only starts a new level of worrying!!!! X

[valiumredhead]

I felt the same, in fact I still do and ds is 12. Anxiety is all part of parenthood I think.

Congratulations

[MrsRV]

I'm 4 weeks (found out Sunday!) and I must say that I am much more relaxed than last time... Exactly 2 years since I found out I was preggers with DD.

I remember sitting on the loo one morning thinking "please feel sick, please feel sick"!!!! I literally had no pregnancy symptoms apart from sore boobs for a few days.... I bled on & off from 8 weeks to 34 weeks and still all fine! Prepare yourself though.... You'll feel like this forEVER now, it just gets different. Once 12 week scan is out of the way you worry about 20 week scan, then you worry about the birth, then you worry about keeping them alive.... Then you have another one & it all begins again!!!! But at the same time it's completely and utterly ACE

Hope to hear how you're getting on over the weeks x

[Londongirl84]

Valiumredhead that's very reassuring- thank you :)

MrsRV your reply made me laugh! Thank you for your reassuring words too :) x

[valiumredhead]

It's a big shock, no one tells you how anxious you will feel about everything, all you know is that you stress meant to be delighted. I felt delighted for about 3 days and then worried constantly

[ceara]

I'm so very pleased you got your positive result. Brilliant news. Welcome to the next bit of the rollercoaster! I decided obsessive worry counts as a pregnancy symptom and on that basis I am always having at least one. It's very early days for you at not quite 5 weeks to be feeling much and I'm told that every pregnancy is different so not to be too paranoid if you don't follow the schedule in the books even several more weeks down the line. Like you, this is my first pregnancy and I'm just 4 weeks ahead of you at 8+ weeks. I had zero symptoms to start and was convinced there would be nothing there at my 7 week scan (routine scan as it is an ivf pregnancy). But there was. Evening heaving (no mornings involved and no throwing up, and really it's pretty mild) started the next day. Still very little breast tenderness to speak of, but I've never had it with PMS, nor with the ivf drugs. I am now worrying frantically over my "reassurance" (hah!) scan next week. I think MrsRV is so right that it never stops. My mother says that nearly 4 decades after getting pregnant with me she's still waiting for the worrying to ease up...

I have my fingers tightly crossed for you and for good news at your first scan - when is it?

[valiumredhead]

Are meant not stress-am on silly phone!

[MrsRV]

P.s. when you start to feel the baby move (and you'll worry about when that's going to happen! DD first movement was 23 weeks so don't panic!) that's very reassuring too. And a bit weird. But then you'll worry about "counting kicks" (I always forgot) and then you'll not feel the baby move and worry some more.

Thinking about it all its enough to give you a feckin breakdown really. And I'm going to do it all again!?!?! Arrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhhhh!!!

[Londongirl84]

Ceara I am also an IVF pregnancy so have a 7-8 week scan on 8th July. Can I ask how your clinic dated your pregnancy? I feel sick already about that scan- I dread to think how I will feel 5 minutes before!! I can't cope with the thought of having to do IVF all over again...

MrsRV I can't wait to get to the kicking stage- finally evidence a baby is actually in there!! But I imagine I'll only worry everyday about that too!! Indeed it IS enough to cause a breakdown!! :) Will keep on touching wood and crossing fingers for us all x

[ceara]

Hi again, yes I remember your thread a couple of weeks ago on the other board - so glad they were indeed fighters and you've come this far.

I think like me you had a day 5 transfer? So on that day you were 2 wks 5 days. Egg collection day counts as 2 weeks pregnant so easy to work it out from there. The date of your last period isn't relevant for ivf-ers' 0 weeks is instead taken as the date 2 wks before egg collection. Your dates shouldn't change with scans further down the line which would normally date based on size of the baby, as your dates are fixed and known.

Good luck and fingers tightly crossed for your scan. It seems so long to wait but the time will go. Things to distract the mind are your friend in these next weeks!

[LittlePeaPod]

London I am 11+1 and I have been terrified since getting BPF. I still find myself constantly knicker and toilet checking when I go to the loo. It's normal! I am on the antenatal thread for babies due in January2014 and most of the ladies there have been exactly the same.

With regards scans. DF and I have had private scans done every two weeks since six weeks and I get really worried every time we have one. But it's soo amazing seeing our baby with a heart beat. At 8 weeks we saw the heart beat, arm and leg buds and the baby was jumping around...

Good luck and congratulations.

[LittlePeaPod]

Just a thought.. Wh don you have a nosey on the Februray antenatal thread. Lots if ladies the same number if weeks as you going through the same worries...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1760133-February-2014

[SugarMiceInTheRain]

You're not alone. Worry is part and parcel of pregnancy. I've just found out I'm pregnant (about 5+4 but I don't have regular cycles so it's hard to date!) My last 3 pregnancies ended in MC so I am convinced my lack of symptoms means this one won't stick :( However, I am still cautiously optimistic and this time when nobody knows except me and DH is great - like we have a really exciting secret

Congratulations by the way! :)

[Londongirl84]

Thank you ceara- yes I had a 5 day transfer. My clinic said that the day you poas- 14 days after transfer- you're only 4 weeks! When I questioned it on the phone, they said that's just how they date it. Don't get it!! Thank you for replying :)

In fact thank you all for your lovely replies. It's so fab to see how all early pregnant people are such worriers. That 8 week scan seems like a million years away. Need to keep busy!!!! X

[Londongirl84]

P.S huge amounts of luck to you all x