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5 weeks pregnant and exhausted - Husband says I'm just being "lazy" - Am I???

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pinky27 Fri 31-May-13 10:17:56

Hiya, I am only 5 weeks pregnant but feel absolutely shattered. Husband says that I can't possibly be this tired at this early stage and I'm just using it as an excuse to stay in bed. Did anyone else feel tired out at this point of their preg?or am I a lazy beast???

Guntie Fri 31-May-13 10:19:30

Your husband sounds charming...

I remember being very tired around the same stage. I hope he becomes more supportive.

Good luck and congratulations on your pregnancy thanks

AmberLeaf Fri 31-May-13 10:22:10

In the very early stages I felt so tired I could have slept from 6pm, it was so bad that if I sat down I couldn't keep my eyes open.

You are not being lazy.

I hope your husband gets on board soon.

Madratlady Fri 31-May-13 10:22:25

I was incredibly tired for the last few weeks and I'm only 6+3. It's getting better now though. Your dh sounds like he's being a total arse! After all your baby is developing super fast at this stage, that must use a lot of energy reserves.

Bejeena Fri 31-May-13 10:24:52

I was most tired at the early stages, your husband needs to get a book on pregnancy and read it, just to show you that he knows what he is talking about and that he isn't lazy.

ProbablyJustGas Fri 31-May-13 10:24:53


You are not lazy. The baby goes from being the size of a poppy seed to the size of a navel orange in the first trimester. The placenta develops with it. It is tiring work for the body.

Getting exercise like swimming, jogging (while you still can), and walking might help you feel slightly less tired, but I've done that and still wanted to crash after work.

FannyFifer Fri 31-May-13 10:25:27

The pure exhaustion in the early stages is really common.
I could barely stay awake. Had to go for a sleep on my lunch break.

Your husband is being an arse.

Varya Fri 31-May-13 10:26:13

Doc said I was' malingering' when I was vomiting like crazy, expecting my twins. Wot does any male actually know about pregnancy anyway. Hope your partner realises and becomes more supportive anyway. Varya XXX

UnrequitedSkink Fri 31-May-13 10:26:17

He's lovely isn't he? I have never experienced tiredness like I did in the first trimester. Even at 38 weeks it wasn't as bad as the early days. Tell him to do some reading and start being a bit more supportive.

doublecakeplease Fri 31-May-13 10:27:30

For the first 3 months i was dead on my feet with tiredness. We went on holiday (camping / visiting friends / no car so backpacks) for 3 weeks when i was 8 weeks gone - worst 'holiday' ever. I cried every day for the last 3 because i was just so tired.

Listen to your body - in a few weeks your placenta will start to nourish the baby. Until then it'll suck out all your energy. Your husband is silly - mine was too though!

MrsKwazii Fri 31-May-13 10:28:13

I always find the first ten weeks or so absolutely exhausting - many women do. In fact needing an afternoon nap is one of my first clues that I should take a pregnancy test. Your husband is being ignorant and unsupportive, hope he'll buck his ideas up soon.

FaddyPeony Fri 31-May-13 10:28:40

Your husband hasn't got a fucking clue what he is talking about.


I think he needs to do some serious reading and research.

PumpkinPie2013 Fri 31-May-13 10:28:58

No you're NOT being lazy at all!!!

I'm 14 weeks now but from literally 4-12 weeks I was exhausted! Couldn't do a thing. I'd do to work and take it as easy as I could but then get home and go straight to sleep. My husband would call up when he had made tea, I'd eat and then go back to sleep again. I still woke up in the morning feeling like I hadn't been to bed.

At weekends, I'd lie in, get up for a bit and then sleep again in the afternoon.

Can you point your husband in the direction of some websites which have early pregnancy symptoms on them and talk about the tiredness? Hopefully he'll get the idea soon!

HumphreyCobbler Fri 31-May-13 10:29:33

Your DH is being a complete arse. I am angry for you. I can never get OVER these men that think the immediate worst of their wives, disbelieving them in such a wholesale manner.

Extreme exhaustion in early pregnancy is common. You are growing a placenta FFS. A WHOLE NEW ORGAN.

nowwhat Fri 31-May-13 10:31:14

No you're not, he is an arse. At this stage you are growing EVERYTHING, it can be exhausting. Book a GP appt and take him along, explain to the GP you are exhausted, there is nothing they can do really except check iron levels, but they will explain it's normal and generally hearing it from a professional convinces people.

I'm 39 weeks and only in the last few days have I felt anything like myself again what with tiredness, sickness etc. Sorry that's probably not what you want to hear right now!

It took a long time and quite a few arguments/tears before my family realised I was not being lazy. He needs to understand.

ithaka Fri 31-May-13 10:34:02

I was at my most shattered before my pregnancy showed and I had informed anyone. I remember coming home from work and falling asleep on the settee regularly - and I am usually a bundle of energy.

Ironically, I had far more energy when I was further on in my pregnancy and everyone kept telling me to 'slow down'.

So from my experience - you are currently in the most exhausting stage and your body needs all the rest it can get.

Tell your husband his in an inconsiderate arse and until he can grow another human being inside him, he should shut the eff up with his 'lazy' comments.

LadyFlumpalot Fri 31-May-13 10:36:48

How lovely! Tell him to google "pregnancy fatigue" and to come back when he has some effing clue about how it works.

I can tenement being so, so tired at 8 weeks pregnant with DS that I literally fell asleep sitting bolt upright at my desk at work.

ChasingStaplers Fri 31-May-13 10:40:04

The first 3 months are the worst for tiredness (trust me, I've had three babies, I know!)
With DC1 I was doing a tutoring job for one of my friends' sons after work and every evening I'd go round, have a cup of tea and dose off for half an hour!
Good job she was my friend becuse it became a bit of a standingjoke (and I was able to tell her why) but I had absolutely no control over it! I literally fell asleep as soon as I sat down and wasn't doing anything.
DP at the time also thought I was being lazy and was less than understanding throughout my pregnancy
He is now ex DP (albeit after two more children!)

Your DH needs to buck his ideas up and do a bit of reading. He should be supporting you not ridiculing you.

ChasingStaplers Fri 31-May-13 10:41:12

*doze - stupid iPhone.

BroodyAndMoody Fri 31-May-13 10:42:11

I was unbelievably tired at 5 weeks, and it is only really the past couple of weeks that I have got over it. 16 +5 now.

I think it can be a really difficult thing for DH/OHs to get their heads around, there is nothing else visibly 'wrong' and they just don't get it sometimes. My DH bought a book called Pregnancy for Men:the whole 9 months , which has really helped him understand, growing a placenta and baby is bloody hard work!

Good Luck OP, I am sure he will get his head round it all. And congratulations!

Satnightdropout Fri 31-May-13 10:43:14

I'm 31 weeks with a cold, haven't had much sleep because I'm so bunged up and partner simply states "it's only a cold" when I refused sex this morning. Grrr, was not impressed.

Tbh, I've been tired more at the beginning of my two pregnancies. Think men look at it physically and see you're not that big so can't be suffering that much. Never mind the hormones, morning sickness etc...

HumphreyCobbler Fri 31-May-13 10:45:10

I honestly don't see what is so hard about listening to, and believing their wives.

Although a book used to inform is always a good idea.

Beamae Fri 31-May-13 10:48:16

This pregnancy I had the exhaustion long before I knew I was pregnant. I could barely keep my eyes open, sluggish, my body felt like a dead weight. I thought it was some kind if extreme post Christmas and new years burn out but not so! It probably started at four weeks, so tell your husband to buck up his ideas and make it up to you with 6 tonnes of cake.

Raaraathenoisybaby Fri 31-May-13 10:49:43

The first 12 weeks of both pg were utterly exhausting. Later in you are tired because of the weight etc but early pg tiredness feels like no kind of tiredness I've experienced otherwise. It was worse with dd2 felt like if been hit by bus daily!

zimbomaman Fri 31-May-13 10:51:07

Gosh, that's what made me take a pregnancy test for my second and third pregnancies. Falling asleep in the afternoon is just something I don't do unless in the very early stages of pregnancy. You are not being lazy at all.

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