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iamgroucho Sat 18-May-13 01:27:27

Hi all,

My Partner is nearly 10 weeks pregnant, and this evening she has had stomach pains like those of a period, and has discharged a light bit of blood, not lots. She isn't in too much pain, its not quite as bad as a full on period, but it's still a bit worrying.

Should we be concerned or is this common?



SunshineMiddle Sun 19-May-13 09:53:41

So sorry for your loss. Nothing can prepare you for such a devastating thing to happen.
I miscarried at 10 weeks a year ago. It was the worst point of my life. My partner and I dealt with it in different ways. He rationalised it within a week and moved on (at least we knew we could get pregnant, he was confident we'd be ok next time etc). I needed much longer to deal with the grief and knew that life wouldn't be right until I was pregnant again. Take time to hold each other, talk, cry together. Make sure you get supported too. I knew two women who miscarried around the same time who have their babies (they got pregnant just a few cycles after mc). For us it took a bit longer but we are now at 20 weeks. Take care

CrystalTits Sun 19-May-13 09:26:13

Really sorry for the loss of your baby, Dan. Glad you're both taking some time off - remember that it's ok to talk and cry too, you don't just have to be strong for your partner. Miscarriage can be equally as tough for men.

The Miscarriage Association is a great source of advice and support if you need it.


Bearandcub Sun 19-May-13 09:16:54

Sorry for your loss.

pumpkinsweetie Sun 19-May-13 09:11:54

sadSo very sorry for your loss dan thanks

Featherbag Sun 19-May-13 08:54:41

So very very sorry to hear that, look after each other xx

Aoifebelle Sun 19-May-13 08:23:27

So sorry to hear that Dan, I had a MC last year and am now 12 weeks pregnant. One thing that really helped me was talking to friends who had been through the same thing and now had lovely healthy children. You will be suprised how many people you know will have been through it. You only tend to find out when you end up in the same boat.

Take it easy, be nice to yourselves and eachother and take all the time you need before getting back on the horse.

xigris Sun 19-May-13 06:26:48

Oh so sorry to hear that, Dan. Very sad news. Best wishes to you and your partner flowersbrew

JennaRainbow Sun 19-May-13 05:57:12

So so sorry to hear that, hope you can both take time for yourselves now and just be together. Thinking of you both x

thistlelicker Sun 19-May-13 02:46:40

Sorry for
Loss! Take the time
To grieve
Your baby! Lots and lots
Of hand holding
From me xthankssad

iamgroucho Sun 19-May-13 01:05:43

Thanks for the kind words. We are both really upset, but we are trying to be as philosophical as possible.

I'm going to take some time off work to be with my partner for the next few days and make sure she is ok. The hospital were really good, and were happy that she was fit to leave, but we know she has to take it easy for a while. I will look at the miscarriage boards tomorrow.



MaMattoo Sun 19-May-13 00:49:54

Really sorry to hear about your loss. Please take care of yourself and your partner! thanks

Growlithe Sun 19-May-13 00:47:10

So sorry Dan. Love to your partner and yourself. Take care.

MeerkatMerkin Sun 19-May-13 00:43:50

Oh I am so sorry. sad I had a miscarriage last month at 12 weeks and no one can prepare you for it, it's just awful. Be kind to yourselves (and each other), there's lots of info and support on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss topic on here. flowers

EugenesAxe Sun 19-May-13 00:42:02

I'm really sorry Dan; best wishes to you and your partner.

Tapirbackrider Sun 19-May-13 00:39:43

So very sorry for your loss flowers

omri Sun 19-May-13 00:36:57

I'm sorry for your loss dan.
I lost my little one at 10 weeks in march. Give your partner lots of care and sympathy- she'll be feeling v low for the next couple of weeks.
Take care

NatashaBee Sun 19-May-13 00:32:09

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

BreasticlesNTesticles Sun 19-May-13 00:25:16

Sorry to hear that Dan. Hope you and your dp are bearing up as well as can be expected


iamgroucho Sun 19-May-13 00:17:25

I'm sorry to say that my partner started bleeding quite heavily this afternoon, and miscarried a bit later on. We have just go back from the hospital now. Pretty sad.

Thanks for the help and advice.


Lj8893 Sat 18-May-13 10:20:32

Sorry x post! Sounds like you did the right thing, I completely sympathise with you on the fact it being your first and unknown and things freaking you out!!

You sound lovely btw, sounds like your partner is in good supportive hands with you!

Good luck for the scan!

Lj8893 Sat 18-May-13 10:18:09

Hope you are both ok.

I also am one who doesn't advise a&e, I went in my first trimester with similar symptoms as your partner and waited several hours to see an on call doctor who told me there was nothing they could do and told me it could be nothing, or it could be the start of a miscarriage but I was to go home and rest and hope for the best. A complete waste of mine and his time!!

Anyway, I'm now 17 weeks and have had 2 lovely perfect scans!

iamgroucho Sat 18-May-13 10:16:00

HI Everybody, thanks for your messages and advice.

OK, so I spoke to my partner again last night and she said the pain was subsiding so we decided to call NHS direct who put us in touch with an out-of-hours Dr. I have to say NHS direct and the Doc were brilliant in this case, super professional, helpful, and so quick to help.

The Dr spoke with my partner and he didn't think it was serious but suggested we went to an out-of-hours clinic first thing this morning which is what we did. The Dr there checked my partner out and is happy that she is OK, but she has brought our scan forward. She did a pregnancy test which was still positive, and had a good feel about and wasn't worried.

The bleeding now seems to have stopped, and the pain has subsided.

This is our first so its all a bit of an unknown/panic when something doesn't seem right. we are aware that all sorts of symptoms are likely to appear over the pregnancy, but it does freak us out when something isn't quite right. This was made worse last night as we only got our scan date earlier in the day and we had got all gooey and excited about our little person, and then a few hours later we're crapping ourselves.

Much happier now that we have seen someone.

Thanks for your help and advice, really appreciate it. Its nice to know complete strangers care. Cheers


LouiseD29 Sat 18-May-13 09:08:27

I had this - am now 28 weeks. I also only just had my anti-D injection (won't be needed unless your OH is 0 neg blood group). Hope it all works out for you OP - good luck!

Featherbag Sat 18-May-13 09:00:36

I do hope things have settled for her overnight, and I also really hope you haven't spent all night in a fruitless wait in A&E! I know I bang on about this but please don't advise early pregnant ladies with light bleeding to go to A&E, all that will happen is they'll sit for hours and get sent home with an EPAU referral they could've got with a phone call the next day, plus stress levels through the roof. Unless the bleeding is heavy, the pain is severe, all on one side or the woman feels unwell, there is no need or point in going to A&E. they can't 'check out' the pregnancy, they can't scan, they can't stop a MC from happening.

Smerlin Sat 18-May-13 08:42:36

I had this several times - went to A and E once and they said there is nothing they can do- won't scan or anything. GP just send me straight to the hospital-

Our hospital has an Early Pregnancy Unit where you just walk in to get a scan- no need for a referral or appt. you end up waiting for an hour or so but worth it as they scan and let you know what is going on.

Normally it's fine!

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