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Partner is bleeding and has stomach pains like a period.

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iamgroucho Sat 18-May-13 01:27:27

Hi all,

My Partner is nearly 10 weeks pregnant, and this evening she has had stomach pains like those of a period, and has discharged a light bit of blood, not lots. She isn't in too much pain, its not quite as bad as a full on period, but it's still a bit worrying.

Should we be concerned or is this common?



NatashaBee Sat 18-May-13 01:29:21

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IsThisAGoodIdea Sat 18-May-13 01:30:30

Hi, for some women, light bleeding can be normal. You should call your midwife first thing or your out of hours GP. I wouldn't leave it, just in case.

However, it is very common and you shouldn't automatically fear the worst.

Good luck smile

iamgroucho Sat 18-May-13 01:30:42

we do but its office hours only so we cant call till tomorrow

poppycat04 Sat 18-May-13 01:34:25

Hi,it might be worth calling the OOH GP. I hope she's ok

Chorusforpoormortals Sat 18-May-13 01:36:50

Get off here and ring/go to out of hours service/a&e. It is common, but you need to find out why it is happening. Hope it is ok.

chocoholic89 Sat 18-May-13 01:37:29

Just get checked out asap I went to hospital at 3am Ihad bleeding was fine but better to get checked out. Hope everything goes well

ThatVikRinA22 Sat 18-May-13 01:48:15

nip down to A&E where she can be assessed.

MaMattoo Sat 18-May-13 01:53:36

Don't panic. Go to a&e. if you don't want to then call ooh. Ask her to lie on her back and put her feet up on a pillow (I was told to do this when the same thing happened to me at about the same time - have a 3 yr old son now)! Best to call a dr though..

thistlelicker Sat 18-May-13 02:05:06

She needs checking out ASAP! For many reasons including early
Miscarriage! Plus It may be
Normal!....., if she has
Resus neg blood she may require
Anti d injection!

BlackholesAndRevelations Sat 18-May-13 06:07:14

Anti d injection wouldn't be required as she's not 12 weeks yet. In my experience a&e did bugger all so probably best to go to out of hours if you have one, then get a referral to an early pregnancy unit. How's she doing this morning? Hope all is ok. Obviously if the pain and bleeding becomes unbearable then go to a&e.

Fakebook Sat 18-May-13 08:25:42

I know it's very worrying, but A&E won't do anything, unless she is bleeding heavily and soaking a pad within an hour.

Your best bet is to phone ooh today and see what they say. They'll most probably tell you to wait until Monday and refer you to your EPU for a scan.

At my local A&E I was told they have no access to scanning machines during the night, and would only call in a sonographer in a "real" emergency. I don't think women miscarrying are on their list of priorities, unfortunately. Unless they're having an ectopic ofcourse.

Smerlin Sat 18-May-13 08:42:36

I had this several times - went to A and E once and they said there is nothing they can do- won't scan or anything. GP just send me straight to the hospital-

Our hospital has an Early Pregnancy Unit where you just walk in to get a scan- no need for a referral or appt. you end up waiting for an hour or so but worth it as they scan and let you know what is going on.

Normally it's fine!

Featherbag Sat 18-May-13 09:00:36

I do hope things have settled for her overnight, and I also really hope you haven't spent all night in a fruitless wait in A&E! I know I bang on about this but please don't advise early pregnant ladies with light bleeding to go to A&E, all that will happen is they'll sit for hours and get sent home with an EPAU referral they could've got with a phone call the next day, plus stress levels through the roof. Unless the bleeding is heavy, the pain is severe, all on one side or the woman feels unwell, there is no need or point in going to A&E. they can't 'check out' the pregnancy, they can't scan, they can't stop a MC from happening.

LouiseD29 Sat 18-May-13 09:08:27

I had this - am now 28 weeks. I also only just had my anti-D injection (won't be needed unless your OH is 0 neg blood group). Hope it all works out for you OP - good luck!

iamgroucho Sat 18-May-13 10:16:00

HI Everybody, thanks for your messages and advice.

OK, so I spoke to my partner again last night and she said the pain was subsiding so we decided to call NHS direct who put us in touch with an out-of-hours Dr. I have to say NHS direct and the Doc were brilliant in this case, super professional, helpful, and so quick to help.

The Dr spoke with my partner and he didn't think it was serious but suggested we went to an out-of-hours clinic first thing this morning which is what we did. The Dr there checked my partner out and is happy that she is OK, but she has brought our scan forward. She did a pregnancy test which was still positive, and had a good feel about and wasn't worried.

The bleeding now seems to have stopped, and the pain has subsided.

This is our first so its all a bit of an unknown/panic when something doesn't seem right. we are aware that all sorts of symptoms are likely to appear over the pregnancy, but it does freak us out when something isn't quite right. This was made worse last night as we only got our scan date earlier in the day and we had got all gooey and excited about our little person, and then a few hours later we're crapping ourselves.

Much happier now that we have seen someone.

Thanks for your help and advice, really appreciate it. Its nice to know complete strangers care. Cheers


Lj8893 Sat 18-May-13 10:18:09

Hope you are both ok.

I also am one who doesn't advise a&e, I went in my first trimester with similar symptoms as your partner and waited several hours to see an on call doctor who told me there was nothing they could do and told me it could be nothing, or it could be the start of a miscarriage but I was to go home and rest and hope for the best. A complete waste of mine and his time!!

Anyway, I'm now 17 weeks and have had 2 lovely perfect scans!

Lj8893 Sat 18-May-13 10:20:32

Sorry x post! Sounds like you did the right thing, I completely sympathise with you on the fact it being your first and unknown and things freaking you out!!

You sound lovely btw, sounds like your partner is in good supportive hands with you!

Good luck for the scan!

iamgroucho Sun 19-May-13 00:17:25

I'm sorry to say that my partner started bleeding quite heavily this afternoon, and miscarried a bit later on. We have just go back from the hospital now. Pretty sad.

Thanks for the help and advice.


BreasticlesNTesticles Sun 19-May-13 00:25:16

Sorry to hear that Dan. Hope you and your dp are bearing up as well as can be expected


NatashaBee Sun 19-May-13 00:32:09

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omri Sun 19-May-13 00:36:57

I'm sorry for your loss dan.
I lost my little one at 10 weeks in march. Give your partner lots of care and sympathy- she'll be feeling v low for the next couple of weeks.
Take care

Tapirbackrider Sun 19-May-13 00:39:43

So very sorry for your loss flowers

EugenesAxe Sun 19-May-13 00:42:02

I'm really sorry Dan; best wishes to you and your partner.

MeerkatMerkin Sun 19-May-13 00:43:50

Oh I am so sorry. sad I had a miscarriage last month at 12 weeks and no one can prepare you for it, it's just awful. Be kind to yourselves (and each other), there's lots of info and support on the miscarriage/pregnancy loss topic on here. flowers

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