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Anxious wobble at 33 weeks! Hand holding please.

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cupcake78 Wed 08-May-13 21:59:43

The magnitude of what's happening is beginning to hit. I give up work in two weeks and although I'm tired and ready I am also terrified at the same time.

I have done this before ds is 5 but i found it far from an easy transition.

I'm going to miss the people, the social side of work so much. I'm self employed so its not as easy for me to keep in touch or just drop in as I have numerous places of work. I have alot of uncertainty going on in my personal life with terminally sick relatives, house moving on top of the usual pregnancy stuff.

I'm also measuring much bigger than my dates and have the most laid back consultant known to mankind. I don't know what's going to happen to me.

I'm feeling increasingly anxious tonight about it all and really need some wise words and support. Dh knows this but all he can say is how lovely its going to be.

I'm scared of the sleep deprivation and the unknown!

BabyHMummy Wed 08-May-13 22:03:29

Huge hugs Huni and hand offered for holding.

I have no words of wisdom as am pg for first time. Ring your local sure start centres or Google them as they run stay and play etc round here and in other areas where i have friends so if you cam get to them it may help you maintain the social some? Some run baby first aid courses etc so that could be something to meet other runs to be and kick start.

Also check out if there is a local mumsnet meet nr you that you could go along to

Hth

elfycat Wed 08-May-13 22:08:21

Hand holding.

It's going to be great, but you are facing a few major changes and they cause times of anxiety.

Do you believe in things like rescue remedy (complementary therapy, energy based, no side-effects and safe in pregnancy) for support over anxiety? Or see your GP if you think it's more serious. Pre-natal anxiety is a very real illness.

cupcake78 Wed 08-May-13 22:11:06

I did plan to make a timetable of groups in the area. It's something I had forgotten about in my anxious haze.

The final straw tonight has been having to pee constantly. I just hit myself in the pillow while failing to get out of bed. I'm so immobile with spd and crutches and I put my back out yesterday trying to do too much as usual.

I haven't had a good cry for a very long time and have been trying to keep it together for everyone else's sake but it looks like the hormones are taking over.

cupcake78 Wed 08-May-13 22:15:56

Elfy I'm already on sertraline after a terrible bout of depression and anxiety last year. I'm almost back to normal, my last real down time was over 4 months ago.

I'm not down I'm just feeling the fear.
I was made redundant during my lady maternity leave and had PND. I've since retrained, set up on my own and have really worked hard to turn my life around. I have a profession that I can step back into when I'm ready to do so. It's very different to last time.

My clients have booked in their last appointments today and its really shaken me up.

BabyHMummy Wed 08-May-13 22:16:58

Suffering with horrific spd too and hopingtth give me crutches on tues so i can walk about

I have an anxiety disorder so i know how isolating it can be. Having been signed off work most of my pg i am.missing the social side of things too but am hoping that once life eases off i can join the local groups.

To be perfectly honest a Damn good cry is often the best remedy

Laquila Wed 08-May-13 22:20:33

Personally I would advise a good cry - I guarantee you'll find it cathartic!

Other than that, all I can do is second other posters' advice and offer you some virtual support. It's COMPLETELY normal to feel how you currently feel, so try your best to relax and enjoy the latter stages of your pregnancy. Good luck!

cupcake78 Wed 08-May-13 22:22:22

Baby I agree! It's been a long time and compared to what my mum is going through ( her husband is at home dying of cancer and she is caring for him ) I feel very selfish for being so upset.

I've been keeping it in as it doesn't feel right to off load when all I have to worry about is the pending baby which is actually keeping mum going and giving her hope.

rosiedays Wed 08-May-13 22:22:44

Hand holding x it's normal to have wobbles. I had a huge one this weekend whilst bathing df 3 month old. Realisation that my life will change hugely very soon.
you'll have a beautiful baby to keep you busy . Try not to worry about what you can't change and focus on the positive. As pp says you can make lots of new mummy friends and maybe new contacts. The world of work will still be there whenever you decide to go back.
Take care

BabyHMummy Wed 08-May-13 22:27:39

cupcake you have no reason to feel selfish!! Your hormones are well and truly up shit creek without a paddle. You clearly have a lot going on. Even without pg no one would blame you for having a wobble and a cry!! Pg at least goes u carte blanche to blub like a loon!!

cupcake78 Wed 08-May-13 22:38:11

Thank you, all of you. I can be very hard on myself at times. I've been that busy focusing on looking after mum, sitting with my step dad to give her a break. Df is due for an operation in the next few months which is concerning as he has a dodgy heart and is not in the best of health. Dealing with ds and his feelings around the pregnancy, poorly grandad and me who's been ill since day 1 of getting pregnant and now can't walk very far. Trying to put my business on hold while keeping doors open.

Crutches do help! Ask for some.

BabyHMummy Wed 08-May-13 22:42:02

See...moat ppl would have cracked long ago with all that never mind being pg (been ill since day 1 too) on top.

Cut yourself some slack Huni...you are not wonder woman...

I strongly recommend a hot bubble bath, a good chill out, chick flick and some you time Xxx

cupcake78 Thu 09-May-13 08:23:07

Feeling slightly better this morning but finding I'm going from really excited to very anxious in a matter of minutes. Is this just hormones playing their nasty tricks again?

rosiedays Thu 09-May-13 09:03:05

glad your feeling better this morning cupcake . It's hormones. your in a huge transition and your feelings are just your brain's way of prosessing everything. thanks
be kind to yourself. hugs

BabyHMummy Thu 09-May-13 10:39:51

All hormones Huni Xxx

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