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Worrying unnecessarily about 1st scan???

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sprite25 Wed 08-May-13 11:13:28

Sorry to be talking about a negative subject but is it normal to increasingly worry that when you go for the first scan you'll just be given bad news???
Im only 9 weeks and have the first scan in two weeks, but for some reason I keep worrying that when we go for it, there wont be any heartbeat or wont be anything there. We were actively trying for a few months before I got pregnant so its definitely wanted (already I keep having dreams about having the baby here and being so happy) but I keep thinking that because its so wanted that its almost too good to be true that its happening. Apart from a horrible time of hyperemesis which now seems to be controlled by cyclizine, I haven't had any other problems (bad pain/bleeding) but I know you dont have to always experience these to have a MC. Anyone else out there worrying like me?

chocoluvva Wed 08-May-13 11:20:55

Aww. I sympathise. I was exactly the same.

I don't know what to suggest - but it's definitely very common. I suppose you should try to distract yourself and relax. Camomile tea is safe.

Bad sickness - maybe you're having twins wink.

knittingirl Wed 08-May-13 11:28:59

I totally sympathise, I was exactly the same before both the 12 week and 20 week scans, I think it is very common. Just try and do what you can to relax - those two weeks will pass I promise! And remember that the odds are that everything is perfect and in two weeks you will see your baby dancing away on an ultrasound screen.

Snowflakepie Wed 08-May-13 12:26:29

Totally normal. I was completely convinced it was all in my head through both early pgs ask had no symptoms at all other than a positive test! The relief when I saw the heartbeat resulted in floods of tears, but happy ones at least. It's a difficult time but try to keep busy, the weeks will pass. In some ways it can help if you are aware of the worst case scenario, because for most people that is not what happens, so you will be left happy and ecstatic. Keeping everything crossed for you x

FreelanceMama Wed 08-May-13 12:31:07

Completely normal - I was the same. I burst into tears with relief when I saw the heartbeat too. I had no reason to have any doubts but it seems a long time from peeing on a stick to having someone tell you "yes, you are definitely pregnant - here's a photo of your baby!".

Good luck sweetie.

MisselthwaiteManor Wed 08-May-13 13:25:17

It's normal. You haven't seen or felt or heard your baby yet, all you have is a line on a pee stick so it is really hard to accept there's an actual baby there. I was convinced the scan would give me bad news or the sonographer would laugh at me and say there's no baby you're mad!

Those two weeks will pass faster than you expect. Good luck.

Alexandra6 Wed 08-May-13 13:28:30

Ah I totally get where you're coming from, feel the same ahead of my 12 week scan next week. Trying to keep my mind occupied and am being strict with myself about googling things that could go wrong! I tried for 15 months and needed ovulation drugs so really don't want to be back to that stage - trying to be positive though. Lots and lots of luck to you x

Happy71 Wed 08-May-13 13:36:11

Hi girls,
I am exactly the same 9 weeks and worrying about the scan.
Seems like a long way off but really hoping it will fly by.
My family keep telling me if it's meant to be it will so am trying so hard to be positive. Insomnia is a nightmare too!! xx

gubbinsy Thu 09-May-13 07:56:11

Exactly the same here. Had mine yesterday. The relief was immense. Now worrying about the next one!

Xalla Thu 09-May-13 08:05:19

Totally normal. I'm on my third preg and I still have a mini panic before each scan and start madly searching for a heartbeat the minute the screen lights up!

Good luck.

ananikifo Thu 09-May-13 08:07:49

I don't think I can say anything to make you feel better but I do think your feelings are perfectly normal. Chances are you'll get good news at your scan, and it's magical to see your baby for the first time.

I had an anxiety that there wouldn't be a baby there. I actually ended up paying for a private scan at 9 weeks because of it. The sonographer and receptionist told DH and I that we looked like different people at the end of the scan. We had been so nervous and then were so happy.

Lj8893 Thu 09-May-13 09:49:09

Completely normal!! I had completely convinced myself that it was going to be bad news at my scan, I'd even managed to convince DP!

So the relief and shock we had when there the baby was, heartbeat and wriggling around (wriggling so much the sonographer struggled to get the nuchal measurement!)

I'm now nearly 16 weeks and beginning to fret about my 20 week scan!

lotsofbananas Thu 09-May-13 15:17:43

I am worried too. Am maybe around 6-7 weeks - hope to learn more at first doctor's visit next week. But it is helpful to see that I am not really in this alone. My husband is great, but since I am older we really aren't telling anyone until after the scans. It is so weird to not be able to talk about it, so this forum is great.

RJM17 Thu 09-May-13 17:04:24

I have my scan tomora and I'm terrified that something is going to wrong even tho I had one at 9 weeks and all was fine.
Just keep imagining the worst x

Teaandflapjacks Thu 09-May-13 17:23:43

I worried about my scans (more frequent here in Germany than in the UK - you get one at booking in, and then again at 12 weeks) and I even had early bleeding at about 6 weeks and terrible abdominal cramps and thought I was miscarrying - I didn't. I had shocking MS (or rather all night sickness!!!) - and was told by a variety of medical professional, as rubbish as MS is - it means that the pregnancy has taken very well and has a firm hold - dob't know if that is of any comfort - but I certainly took it to heart when I had my head flung over to the loo for the umpteenth time. So really I am sure you will all be fine ladies - normally if there is anything wrong your body really does let you know - try and relax and look forward to seeing your little bean for the first time!!! xx

Shirehobbit Fri 10-May-13 07:57:55

I was a nervous wreck waiting for my 12wk scan and I'm getting bad again as my 20wk one approaches! blush

Nothing you can do will change the outcome, which is highly likely to be positive, and these weeks will seem like a dim and distant memory soon enough. If only I could take my own advice!

(I've actually written a short article about waiting for the 12wk scan, which is going to be published in The Guardian Family section this Saturday. You might recognise some of the emotions. What it doesn't say, because I submitted before my scan, is that it turned out well for me this time.)

Good luck, Sprite - keeping everything crossed for you smile

CraftyKate Fri 10-May-13 19:27:32

You're not alone, Sprite.

I am seven weeks and had an early scan yesterday due to a previous miscarriage. I was soooo nervous but everything looked good, saw baby's heartbeat, etc.

So what do I do today? Take another pregnancy test of course. I've taken them (the really cheap ones) almost every day since finding out I was pg. I know it's completely irrational.... it's just hard to believe there's anything in there, you know?

Try to focus on other things (easier said than done) and hopefully we'll be in the second trimester before we know it. Good luck Sprite / all.

RJM17 Fri 10-May-13 20:00:01

Well I went for my scan today and after all the stressing and worrying everything is fine!! I was still worked up and crying when we got there and told the woman something is wrong only to be told she hears that every day! Lol.
Hope u all have happy experiences at ur scans xx

Fetacat Fri 10-May-13 21:38:46

This post could have been written by me! I have my first scan one week today and I am absolutely terrified that there is going to be nothing there. I keep on reading stuff on the internet about people's bad experiences and convincing myself it is going to happen. I am so glad that other people feel this way as well and it's not just me being completely mental.

Here's to everybody having lovely happy scans!

RJM17 - I am so going to be the same as you crying I know it!

CuteLittleToes Fri 10-May-13 21:44:08

Can I join the club? I'm having my first can on Monday, will be 12+1 then. I am so excited and terryfied at the same time... I keep telling myself everything will be fine, but that worry and fear keeps creeping in again...

Congrats RJM on your positive scan experience and good luck to all of us! xx

RJM17 Sat 11-May-13 03:09:42

Thanks guys it is the most amazing thing and plus u then get to tell everyone and start buying bits.
Good luck and please update after ur scans x

Bumbolina Sat 11-May-13 03:35:19

I've got my scan on Wednesday. I completely understand. I've been for two twelve week scans previously. One good news, one bad news. I am so desperate to find out how this one is now it is driving me insane. Hurry up Wednesday hmm

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