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God you're huge!(48 Posts)
Firstly, I am over the moon to be pregnant , very proud of and in love with my bump, stretch marks and all! BUT I'm finding it increasingly difficult to deal with comments about my size.
Anyone else feeling this. Im 31 weeks and everything measures as it should. if the general public are to be believed though then im having triplets or labour is imminent.
Omg fatandlumpy - your MIL sounds like an absolute bitch, I would have also wanted to stab her with her licked knife!!
I think when the next person does the stating at my tum/waist/bum area I'm going to do the same back, maybe even ask them to 'give me a look then' just like they've done to me
I think that the pp is right, that most people just don't see very heavily pregnant women that often, as we tend to be on maty leave by then - so a 30 week bump does look big to them
obviously some people are just vile and can't resist having a sly dig in what they misguidedly consider a socially acceptable way though.
I finished work at 36+ weeks last week and yes, I do look like I've swallowed a space hopper which is now being inflated a little more each day. But bless them, my colleagues did balloons and cake for me on my last afternoon, so I decided not to notice the alarmed looks they kept shooting my steadily dropping bump and merely promised not to let my waters break in the office if I could help it, which increased the frequency of the alarmed looks . It felt a little like revenge....
On Thursday at work - on way into canteen for lunch -Male colleague who is is incidentally massively obese: "God should you still be here - you look ready to drop" On the way out of canteen female colleague, mother of three: "How long have you got to go now?" "6 weeks - god you are tiny".
Oh God! I'm so with you. Up until 16 weeks I went wide I had 'spread like butter) according to my Mum. (Which I didn't mind as my Mum was looking after me at the time and it was said very much tongue-in-cheek). Everyone at work was convinced it was a girl. Again not really a problem. I could still get into some of my normal clothes at that point and only went exclusively into maternity at 20wks. This is my first and I'm now nearly 29weeks. I was a 12-14 beforehand and wore a 14 as I like my clothes baggy (also have boobs). I'm 5'4'' and my BMI was 26 (but I cycled to work, ran and was generally fairly fit - ex TA). Any initial weight was due to giving up fags and having to get off the bike due to horrendous MS and a big bleed at 14 weeks. Most of my work colleagues make the odd joke about 'wide loads' etc, but they all say I'm looking good - some even say neat. I was measured at 25 weeks and I was bang on - 25cm!
My sodding OH's Mum however has just (a couple of weeks ago) gone back up to her lair up North after spending a week with us visiting the 'Bump' (her first grandchild). From the moment we met her off the train she's been on about my size calling me 'massive'. Her first phone call (still in the car when we picked up her!) was to her brother to let him know she had got here OK, comprised of her describing how 'massive' I was. I was still in the car.... B*tch. That was just the start.
Every morning I made her a cup of tea (with a biscuit!) and then cooked her poached eggs on toast (with a couple of rashers of posh bacon)... Every morning, as I sat down to join her for breakfast, she would say, ""You look like you're really enjoying your food today," like I was face down in my plate, noshing away like a f*cking horse! The thing is my table manners are better than hers! - Well at least I don't lick my f*cking knife! you utter witch. I nearly stabbed her on the final day. OH had to calm me down a couple of times. I literally could not put anything into my mouth without a comment such as 'was that for the baby, or for you?'.
Everytime we went anywhere, every half hour she would say how hungry I was looking... and every subsequent phone call since she when back she's asking if I'm still eating for Britain. F*cking cow....
(Thank God for internet anonymity...)
She's usually lovely (if not slightly passive-aggressive and subversive).
It was truly nasty
(sorry for the rant)
I got this a lot but I looked like I'd swallowed a medicine ball. Baby was big too at 9lb 3oz. Comments didn't really bother me I must say but can see how some might take offence.
I had the 'I think you're having a girl' comment twice today....once from someone who previously told me I was 'getting wide' so I agree with the poster who said its a thinly veiled way of saying my arse and hips are huge
I'm saving up every single comment for motivation when I do my post baby diet and all the people who have said these things (who are mostly all fatter than me normally!) will be reminded of what they said!
Just popped into work to pick up my wage and was confronted with "OH MY GOD YOU'RE MASSIVE!!!" ...... Bearing in mind my last shift was only Sunday......
errrrrr i hate this comments! my sister in low just told me that i must be having twins with this size of a belly, and she calls me fat all the time (and she is not a skinny lady at all...)
Aghh comments blah! Apparantly "Im not pregnant" one lady announced another "you dont look pregnant". Another "your not old enough to be getting hot flushes" FFS!!! Im 21 weeks and have a pretty impressive bump!!
From my boss just yesterday: so how many weeks left now? Wow, it's difficult to imagine you will get even bigger!
When everybody in the room looked like she quickly said that no, no I mean you haven't put any weight on anywhere else, it's just the bump that's been growing, but she's not fooling me
It is so rude! I found it particularly shocking when it came from women who have had children - do they really not remember what it feels like to have your body commented on and treated like public property?
The only appropriate comment to ever make about a pregnant woman's appearance is how well she looks, how her skin looks great, what a lovely outfit she is wearing, etc.
Looking back it makes me quite sad to think that feeling self conscious because of those comments actually cast a bit of a shadow over that lovely feeling of having a baby growing inside me.
My response of choice became a withering look and a terse 'I'm measuring exactly right according to the midwife thanks'.
Me again.. now the one I am getting at the minute is a very subtle.. mmmmmm.. I think you are having a girl... (I know this indirectly means you are putting weight on your arse and hips... that god for boyfriend cardigans).
Oh well, it is keeping me motivated when in the pool to do a few more lengths anyway.
I think people have no idea what 'ready to pop' actually means. Most people would have taken maternity leave by the time they're actually ready to pop and at that point in time you also might not feel like going around and socialising. What people consider as 'ready to pop' is probably more around 30w because after that a pregnant woman becomes a more rarely spotted phenomenon
I just had someone say, 'you look like you're about ready to pop.' I've got 3 months still to go, getting worried now that I am actually too big!
Although I measured 25cm at 25 weeks so surely am fine?
I've had "ooh getting big now!", "you're eating too much" when eating a chicken baguette for lunch and "eeh you can barely tell, looks like you've just eaten a big meal." They arent even consistent in their rudeness! I'm 23+5, measuring normal and only just back up to pre-pregnancy weight after morning sickness. Only a matter of time before I scream profanities in someone's face.
I have had this since about 30 weeks. I am now 34 weeks. I am not joking I have this every day. At first I was upset - now I am resigned to it. I think people are very rude. Its very unhelpful and can make you feel bad for being not what people expect. Which is stupid. Because every body and every baby is different.
I am measuring 34" and really I just look like a 5ft woman who is having a baby.
However the majority of people who say this to me are in fact over weight themselves and I really want to say to them.
SO ARE YOU. I wish I was rude and could do it!
Some people tell me I'm huge some people tell me I'm small which makes me realise it means nothing. MIL has been calling me massive since I announced the pregnancy, I think some people are just arses.
Someone called me huge when I was with DH and he told them 'if you said that to her in any other situation you'd get a slap' he has a point!
I like the Sitting on people suggestion
The check out girl in Asda asked me if I was having twins the other day as I 'look so big' but ten minutes later I met my friend whose first comment was 'ahh your bump is so cute and compact'. I think my bump is just the perfect size lol
It does get annoying when people comment but it really doesn't bother me - I don't care what size I am (I'm massive) I just smile and nod or ask "did you mean to be so rude?" (a line I pinched from MN!)
We should make bingo cards
"God you are huge"
"Are you sure its not twins"
"Look at those puppies"
I love it how people's comments change! At 31 weeks it was god you are huge, that baby will be enormous, now at 39wks I am bing told I am very neat! Just wait and see what they say in the next few weeks.
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