Despite this being my 2nd PG I really don't remember last time and was wondering if any of you could help me out? I am currently 12 weeks and have had my dating scan (and all fine) but I am wondering when I need to tell people at work?
I have no trouble telling my line manager and other close colleagues but I work with a large group of volunteers who are quite prone to gossiping and who I only see in person every 4 weeks. I was just trying to work out when it would be best to tell them.
Also my work trousers are getting a little tight when I sit down already but I have no idea when I'll need to go shopping for more. I live out in the sticks and shopping is a bit of hassle as I can't just pop to a shop in my lunch hour or something.
So sorry - this is the most boring post ever - just wwondered if anyone knew!!!
I was as normal at 17 weeks, but at about 20 something went pop - those that know me would probably guess, and my normal trousers still just do up, but are very uncomfortable... Now at 22, I really don't want to wear my normal trousers any more, and it's probably fairly obvious to strangers too.
It definitely came on all of a sudden, rather than the more gradual growth that I had the first time.
Dc1 I was in maternity clothes at 9 weeks. Now 15 wks pregnant with DC2 and just going into mat gear, although I can still wear my normal jeans with a hair tie around the button. I'm petite though (5'3 and size 6-8) so there's nowhere for my baby to go but out!
I think I was around 20wks when I got mat clothes, but I'd lost some weight at the beginning due to sickness so my usual clothes still fitted me for longer than they probably would have done otherwise. I'm sure that you don't legally have to tell work till you're 25wks, they may guess before then though if you kept quiet
You buy maternity clothes when you have a big enough bump to fit into them,probably worth just undoing your top trouser button at work for now. If it helps you can buy special elasticated bits of fabric online (amazon do them) that attach in the button hole of trouser/jeans to make them last longer before needing to buy any maternity bottoms and obviously a cheaper solution.I didn't need any with my first pregnancy as I could get away with just buying the next size up in normal clothes but did have 1 maternity top towards the end of my pregnancy but I was all bump so I could stay in my normal bottoms all the way through. This time round I'm much bigger much earlier-im 17wks bt look 6months!-so will probably invest in a few tops to get me through but as far as bottoms go,I think I'm just going to buy the next size up but so far I'm looking likely to be all bump again so I may not have to worry...leggings will be my go-to though if need be,I hate maternity bottoms I find they're incredibly unflattering on me and being only 5ft1 means they're always far too long in the leg!
As for telling people,you can tell whoever you want once you're over the 12wk mark as that's considered the "safe" point.if a few people at work already know then once you start showing or they work out you're past the 12wk mark the gossip will probably spread anyway as nobody will feel the need to keep it a secret anymore so its probably best coming from you incase some people start making snide remarks amount how much weight you've put on/how "fat" you've become behind your back. If very few people at work know then there won't be anyone to correct them on your changing appearance,well unless you turn out to be all bump,in which case it will be kinda obvious lol!
About 16 weeks with DC2 for me, mainly as my work trousers had a rigid waistband. Under bump trousers with a bump band to hide the foul band and then normal but longer tops saw me to about 26 weeks. Proper maternity shirts were still huge but could be tied in, I got some wrap style ones that I can adjust up to the end. Needed nice over bump jeans at 21 weeks, the under bump ones just got really uncomfy then and these stay up brilliantly, I must have tried every sort going!
You can tell work whenever you feel happy to do so, if you think they will gossip then I would say something sooner rather than later tbh. I told mine at 5 weeks but then a few people knew I was trying anyway. They are good friends as well as colleagues though.