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Mums to be that are dog owners sharing wisdom and stories(59 Posts)
I thought I could start a thread for dog owners that are at various stages of pregnancy. Reason being I was slightly nervous about how my dog (4yo staffy) would behave around me during pregnancy. He's pretty energetic and is welcome on the sofa he's a very oversized lap dog to be honest. So far so good, I do sheild my tummy occasionally.
We bought the book telling your dog your pregnant which I recommend. But would love to hear other people's experiences and share ideas of how to make the new arrival fit in smoothly with our pups
The thread May or may not be successful... Time will tell
sjclarke I was wondering about how noisy barking could effect the baby. I wondered whether they would hear the noise in the womb and therefore be used to it. Probably completely wrong
slippy i'd say you are completely right!
i've heard people say that the sound of the hoover makes their LO go to sleep!
Slippy I've read this somewhere - the same way the baby will recognise your voice, I wouldn't be surprised if they recognise the dog's! Mine makes enough racket anyway so would be surprised if he/she didn't!
Also pmjkt interesting you have gone off the dog, I'm sure it's just a phase. My better sense of smell has made me push the dog away more - I can really smell his breath... Not good. Lucky his short haired I don't think I could face wet dog smell.
Fairy - babies are soothed by any type of white noise, so vacuum, tumble dryer, washing machine, extractor fan, hair dryer etc. I sometimes even tune the radio to between channels to get mine to sleep! The dogs barking does wake her, but it is better to get them used to sleeping surrounded by every day noise so I don't shield her from it. She's used to it now, and usually ignores it and settles again.
Great tip - will def remember that!
My OH is on nights for a wee while so getting used to handling the dogs totally on my own is good practice!
the white noise is a god send - from my friends who have just had. You can download white noise apps too for your phone, such as a hairdryer noise, and this sends them off to sleep. My BIL tells the story of in desperation using the electric tooth brush in the bathroom one night with my niece, he did the in-between feeds bit, working brilliantly until he heard it winding down and then off - cue my nieces eyes popping wide open and bawling her head off.
We have an 8 month old daxie x and I'm 19 weeks pregnant with our first at the moment. I freaked out about it all at first, but he's recently started to calm down and become less clingy which has reassured me we'll be OK. He's very much the 'baby' of the family and gets lots of cuddles etc but he also isn't allowed to jump up anywhere (sofa, bed, at people) without sitting down politely and waiting to be invited. He also sleeps in his crate in the hallway, otherwise I'd be really worried about him being in the bedroom.
Does anyone know if there are any organisations or clubs for people with babies and dogs to walk together? I think the dog will walk fine with a buggy, but would be nice to meet some other people near me in the same boat and none of my mum friends have dogs!
Good to read all your experiences, it makes me feel much more relaxed about it all - it'll all be fine, won't it? Won't it?????
pizdets just be aware that some dogs have a wee change again about 12-14 months ish. my dog started chewing again and got a bit trickier to handle. not saying yours will but just be prepared! apparently lots of dogs are put up for rehoming between 12-18 months because their owners cant understand why they've had a setback. but it'll go away!
i'm not worrying about having dogs with a baby - baby gates and a close eye plus some training will be grand
I had 3 dogs when mine were babies.
Biggest tip - don't do anything different.
Thats it, simple - it works.
I got a rescue border collie when I was 5 months pregnant. A good excuse to get out of the house as I wasn't working!
She used to press her paws against my stomach which was pretty funny. She came from a family so we knew she was used to crying babies - but we also got given a CD with babies crying and various other noises to play for her.
When I went in to deliver, a friend picked her up and she stayed at my friend's house until about day 3.
def worth thinking ahead about 'dogcare' if you need to go into hospital.
DPs father looks after our two so he'll be employed when the time comes!
This just brought back a lovely memory of my lab with my DD when she was about 6 months old. They were playing tug of war with a blanket, and the dog had hold of it really gently her front teeth, and was sort of matching my DD's gentle little tugs. When she plays tug of war with me, she can drag me across the room
Just make little of the first encounter, play it down and try to relax, and don't do anything too different. Maybe do it when they have a lead on so that you feel in control.
The worst thing my dog did was constantly lick the baby's head, she would trot past her and give her baldy head a random slurp of affection.
I never had to clean up after I fed the baby in the high chair, the bits never even hit the ground She would sit there waiting like a fielder.
Make any changes you want to how you set up your house long before your baby arrives, we decided to restrict our dog to the ground floor and to keep her out of the lounge. Our dog just loves to roll in stinky stuff and I know she runs through all sorts of muck and just didn't want that on the floor where my new baby would be. So we changed those 'rules' months before the baby came.
Sensible tips about never leaving a baby and a dog together, however calm and gentle the dog usually it.
But in the main, there is rarely a problem, our dog is lovely with DD, if a bit boisterous and clumsy - but you learn to anticipate and deal with specific issues - like our dog (like most) is insanely excited before a walk and so I get DD to get her shoes/coat on and then wait in the garden, standing to the side of where the dog charges out otherwise she would be knocked flat.
Like recall says, most dogs I've come across do moderate their behaviour around children. I know my dog had had pups too (before I got her) and I don't know if that makes a difference - I suspect she was a good mother to her pups.
Thanks fairydogmother, I have read about that! I'm not looking forward to it but better to be forewarned. To be honest, as long as he's not as clingy as he was when he was a puppy then I can deal with other naughty behaviour. He used to cry if I went upstairs and shut the stairgate...now I'm working in my office and can see him happily pootling around the garden in the sunshine without a second thought!
Beamur, thanks also for the tips, we're doing the same, moved the dog from the bedroom to the hall a few weeks ago as we knew we'd want our space in the night, I feel much more relaxed knowing we've already got that job done too!
Here's what we did which really helped our dog get used to the new additions:
1. Make all changes right now - so that your dog doesn't associate change with the new arrival as much - he will be down the pecking order no matter how much you love him
2. put a stair gate on babies room or at top of stairs now so dog get used to it. You don't want unsupervised doggy visits to baby. Though we let our pup upstairs as long as we're there too.
3. reinforce manners - keep off furniture, not pulling on lead, coming when called etc which will make everything calmer in general and easy to walk baby & dog together. Also reinforces the 'we people are the pack leaders youre the dog' thing.
4. Always feed dog after humans/baby so he knows he's below baby in the pack and will respect that.
5. Before you bring baby home get someone to bring back a blanket or clothes that the baby has worn and put in in dogs basket so he can get used to smell.
6. If the dog has baby/ikds toys or dolls to chew on get rid of those now and get proper dog ones, so he won't be eating your kids stuff!
7. When baby's first home we let our dog have a good sniff and lick the babies feet ( a good sign apparently if your dog wants to!) Obviously don't let your dog lick kids faces but anywhere else is fine I reckon, helps with their immunity!
And don't worry about being strict, your dog won't mind at all if it's done gradually and it will help with any jealousy and it's for his own good, cos one jealous snap at baby means he'd have to be re-homed.
Our dog LOVES the kids and is very sweet for the most part but has learnt to take himself off when they really bug him. We have a doggie flap so he can go get his own space which is great.
This is TMI and not helpful, but the thing I remember most about bringing DS home was that the dog was utterly, utterly fascinated by all my different smells - especially lochia . Barely glanced at the baby then buried his face in my crotch again. Not the magical moment I'd envisaged.
During pregnancy, my working cocker became fascinated by my worn knickers, pj bottoms, leggings etc, and would rip them up given half a chance. Never did this before or since - must have loved something about my pregnancy hormones! Post birth she has been v loving to dd. I remember my mum visiting when dd was 2 days old, and commenting on how d dog sat close while I was bf. She still does now dd is one! Also so patient, allows dd to do all sorts to her (supervised, of course). Good luck, op and other pregnant posters - do thoroughly believe baby and dog can have a wonderful (supervised) relationship!
We have a barker. My boys never get woken by the barking, the are so used to it. The youngest is 9mo old.
The dog was interested when my oldest came home from the hospital and heard the crying, think the dog thought the baby was a squirrel.
We stopped the getting on the sofa too and the dog quickly adapted.
I never leave them alone together as I don't want to put the dog in a situation. The dog is really good with the boys but why rock the boat and chance something?
My dog didn't seem to have a clue that I was pregnant. I bought the crying baby cd and she didn't care. i think it annoyed me mroe than her . I didn't worry about her sitting on me, pulling me. I think babies are pretty tough inside our tums.
However I would say she saved my sanity both in the long wait for DD to arrive (2 weeks late) when we did big walkies every day, and also she forced me to get out of the house for a walk each day once DD was here. I probably wouldn't have bothered without the dog but I always felt so much better for the exercise/fresh air
Also noisy barking is the one noise that DD has always been immune to. If the dog barks in the night it wakes me up but not DD
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