I have posted here before, explaining my fears and concerns regarding breastfeeding/birth etc. I'm having my next midwife appt next week and I'm 100% certain that she will want to discuss birth plan and whether I have attended any of the breastfeeding classes that she suggested to me earlier in my pregnancy.
Due to really difficult personal reasons, I have decided that it will be emotionally impossible for me to breastfeed. I have really tried to fight this, and have also done hours and hours of research into breast and formula feeding but I keep coming back to the same point, where I'm so distressed that I won't want to go anywhere near my baby in case he will want feeding. I know this may cause some raised eyebrows here, even people telling me that I'm selfish to not provide for my baby to save my own discomfort. This couldn't be further from the truth though. I know I have issues that need to be addressed, but I can't do this right now, I need more time.
Anyway, my question is to anyone who has ever had similar issues, how have you approached this with your midwife, and how have you managed to stand your ground if they disagree with you? I know that a midwife's responsibility is to ensure the safe arrival and welfare of the baby, but I'm hoping that there will be some understanding without me having to divulge history/issues. I see a new midwife most appointments so can't really gauge a possible reaction.
Please, if you have any advice, please be gentle. I'm so done with feeling like the worst mother in the world already, and he's not even here yet :(
Thank you x
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steakchipsandfriedeggs · 25/04/2013 15:09
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