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Elective c section(38 Posts)
When do they do it from?
I'm in so much pain from this pregnancy and I don't think they'll induce me, and to top it of my partner has to leave for 3 week at the end of this week for a family funeral. He's going to try and stay not as lob but will be away for due date. Eh
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I'm 38 weeks and 3 days? I really need him to be here for me while I give birth as no one else can.
Usually 38 weeks I would see your midwife ASAP to see if they can get you in.
I'm seeing an obtriction today, do you know when the average waiting time is? And also will they do it for this reason? In so scared of being alone in labour
If you have a caesarean you can't drive for about 6 weeks and have limited mobility for at least a couple of weeks - lifting nothing heavier than a new born (e.g. Baby plus Moses basket is not a good idea after a section).
It's major abdominal surgery.
Is this your first baby? If not, who will look after your other children whe you are in hospital. I would seriously question why your partner is leaving you for 3 weeks at the time you will need them most.
Hi Sammy I'm having an elective c-section at 39 weeks because of complications in my pregnancy and because of complications arising from emergency section carried out when I had my DD five years ago
I wouldn't choose a c section above vaginal delivery, as coorong says it really is major surgery. I was out of action for at least 4 weeks after DD1 was born. I fyou are going to be on your own that's even worse, and looking after children and dealing with post operative aches and pains doubly so.
Why can't your partner stay with you? My DH has set aside time from work to help look after LO after she is born. I'm sure his family will understand?!
Willough it's normally 39 weeks - used to be 38 - that's what my ob told me when he booked me in.
Why on earth would anyone expect your DP to be away for his baby's birth?! And of course he doesn't need to go for 3 weeks!
With my elective section they said they used to do them at 38ish weeks but now don't do them until at least 39. I had mine at 39+3 I think.
I think you would have to kick up an almighty fuss to get an elective c section on non medical grounds. I have a small pelvis and was told by my gyno that I wouldn't be able to give birth naturally. I pass my letter onto my midwife and have seen an obstetrician and they aren't letting me have a c section based
Sorry hadn't seen that you don't currently have a c section planned. No they won't do it so that the birth fits in with inconvenient dates for your partner, no. He needs to sort this out.
I think you would have to kick up an almighty fuss to get an elective c section on non medical grounds. I have a small pelvis and was told by my gyno that I wouldn't be able to give birth naturally. I passed my letter onto my midwife and have seen an obstetrician and they aren't letting me have a c section based on that. I have to go through a trial by labour to see how far I can go naturally which personally I think is risky but that's the policy as a natural birth is apparently prioritised above a c section. It's hard to get my mind around the fact that I was told by one medical professional who is also an obstetrician at a NHS hospital that I will need a c section only for others at my current one to tell me no. A natural birth is preferable because you don't have the 6 week healing time needed for a c section.
I will be staying with my mum after I give birth so she can help, she just can't be there for the labour.
He has no choice to go, it's a very important relative and I wouldn't expect him to miss it. Up until abou a week ago the relative was alive.
Can they not induce me then? There must be something they can do?
It's not just that, I live on first floor an it takes me over 20mins to walk up the stairs and I 90% of the time have an asthma attack at the top causing me to be sick.
Iv been rushed into hospital around 8 times in the last 2 months with fake labour pains and I just can't do it alone. Surely there's something they can do
Sorry if this sounds harsh but they will not do something that increases the risks to both you and your baby (induction or section) for convenience. I know it's important to you for your husband to be there but it is not a good enough reason for a medical professional to put their patients at risk when they don't have to. As for the asthma and shortness of breath, although this may need investigating again it isn't a reason to deliver you. Climbing to first floor flat would be made worse not better by section and also if you ended up with complications because of risks of induction. They would only do these if benefit outweighed risk & it doesn't sound like it would. Perhaps talk to your husband again. Sorry.
You need to speak to your midwife/ dr but please remember a c section is not an easy way out! Recovery from a vaginal birth is far quicker. Unless baby is at risk it is highly unlikely this will be an option for you.
The stairs to your flat with a c section will very probably be agony after a c section and will takes weeks to recover. You run the risk of infected wounds that make you feel ill and general discomfort. You will need a lot of support after a c section. A vaginal birth it's a matter of days to recover and you will mobile and be able to carry baby far more comfortably pretty much straight away.
Sorry but you need to seriously consider what's going to happen during and after a natural delivery and the funeral situation as this is probably what's going to happen.
If the funeral is the end of this week there is no need for him to be away for the due date. You are not due til a week on Saturday.
Why does your husband need to go for 3 weeks? That seems excessive for a funeral and especially given you could go into labour at any moment.
In his religion it's a three week thing, I also believe its because his whole family will be there, end of the day he will not be here from Friday until 3 weeks from then. I feel like alot of you are judging me and him. I just wanted to know if the doctors can do anything, not a lecture on him being away
I'm judging him yes. There's no way he needs to be there for 3 weeks for a funeral, regardless of what religion he is, when his partner is about to give birth.
No the doctors won't do you a c section to fit in with convenient dates. If your partner can't/won't prioritise you and your baby get him to pay for a doula to be with you.
FWIW Sammy I have a C section and found the recovery absolutely fine, went for a walk the day I came home from hospital to try out my new pram I also know lots of people who were fine after a c section. I find MN in general very anti c sections especially for non medical reasons. Do what you need to do.
sammy all you can do is discuss with your drs and mw. Due to the religious aspect they may understand but you may need to prepare yourself for them to say no. I hope you get the outcome you want!
Hope your dh is ok having lost a close relative and the stress of having no choice but to abandon you at this time. the suggestion of a doula is a good one if you don't have a friend who could be with you.
Agree some comments are very much worst case scenarios. I am 10 days post section and absolutely fine, walking atound etc. BUT I have a partner who is helping out massively. How will you carry baby plus car seat for example? That isn't recommended.
I think it is hugely unlikely you will get an unplanned section at this late date for non medical reasons.
You can't count on your recovery being quick after a c section. We're not judging you just trying to help. Because we all know that very very few doctors/midwives will let you book a c-section for non-medical reasons (asthma and having to go up stairs not being one of them). I had a bleed at 30 weeks this pregnancy and my ob was still trying to convince me to have a vaginal birth up until two weeks ago. Unless you are going private. Worst case scenario, he's away but you give birth unassisted - if you are staying at your mums then in theory you won't have to worry about recovery and he misses the birth; then it's his loss which is sad.
Yoni I had to have a emergency c section with DD1 and have found mumsnetters nothing but supportive. I was posting how I thought I'd failed - but everyone was great, not anti c section at all.
And having had one, yes it really isn't the easy option as you will know!
Why is your husband's relative more priority than you and your baby!
If you just can't do it alone your husband's must stay with you. Its nonsense he won't be there.
Exactly givemeaclue - surely the most important relative is your own child?
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