Random question this.... Have your parents met your DH/OH's parents? How important is this?
Ours have never met. We've been together nearly 3 years but my folks live 150 miles away and don't come up very often (I/we end up doing most of the travelling), so when they do come up the time is spent with me before they rush off south again. We're obviously not married yet, as they'd have met then!
I think it's important that they meet each other before junior arrives (I'm 26 weeks with my/our first, tho OH has a son from previous). OH thinks this is completely unnecessary and that his parents won't care. I'm pretty sure though that my parents would like to meet his (though nowt said directly), and I have to agree that I would be more comfortable if they did all meet up in a pub one afternoon when everyone is around.
We just orchestrated this after seven and a half years together! We wanted them to meet before mutual grandchild came along. We arranged it so it was as easy as possible (given the distance) and it went well. I think it's a nice thing to do to bring the family together - after all they are going to have a grandchild in common!
My parents and DH's parents have met fairly briefly a few times in the 11 years we've been together. We have a photo of the 4 of them, DH and I and our 3 DS's on DS3's 1st birthday as my parents were at ours for the day and DH's parents dropped in to give him his present. The most time they have spent together is just before and during our wedding, we and they don't feel the need for them to spend time with the grandchildren together.
Mine met shortly after DH and I got together, we went to a pub for lunch and it was excruciating. It was all nice and polite but there was a clear personality clash. I have avoided them meeting up since. They sporadically send 'their best wishes' through me (despite clearly not having liked each other) and it makes me cringe every time.
I am sure it's not always that bad though! They might get on like a house on fire. And if you're having a baby it is obviously a nice thing to do. What about a baby-naming ceremony or christening after the birth, so there are other people there too?
I am married and my inlawa have never met, can't see when they would either. We got married just the two of us, live abroad, they live about 400 miles apart in the uk. They may never meet, and we are absolutely fine with that.